Live Getting Real: What does success look like to you? 23rd of March, 7:30 pm
Hey Everyone!
This coming Monday we're having a live chat in the evening about What success looks like to you!
We're all super different and value different things in life, and the yardstick by which we measure our own and others' accomplishments can vary a lot!
People can sometimes expect others to strive for the same goals as them, and make others feel like they're coming up short when they aren't. But there are lots of ways to define success, it's all about what's right for you!
Whether your goals have to do with school, work, family, or hobbies - they're all important, just different! To have more of a discussion on What Success looks like to you, join us on Monday the 23rd of March at 7:30 pm AEDT!
It can be frustrating and disheartening being made to feel like you're not meeting other people's versions of success, how do you cope with that?
Something that I have been doing is making daily to-do lists with an app on my phone. I put items in them like finishing part of an online course, volunteering, going to an interview, sending an important email or doing something caring or health-related. It makes me feel like I am doing something, even if I'm just staying at home for the day. I also try to remind myself that caring is a 24 hour job. Even if I don't feel like or can't do a physical task, I am there in case of emergencies or if my family members need me. Even just keeping them entertained is an achievement. There is no manual for being a carer. People just expect you to do it. It's really hard, but I like to think that I'm doing the best that I can. It also helps me to acknowledge the things that are outside of my control, such as the coronavirus situation, the economy, etc. This helps me feel better about myself when I miss out on a job, for example.
On the subject of mental health and success...
5. Has there been a time where you felt unworthy of a success? How did you cope with this feeling?
@Hozzles Love that gif! 🙂
5. Has there been a time where you felt unworthy of a success? How did you cope with this feeling?
I think that some of my opportunities have come about as a result of circumstance or chance rather than actually searching for them, such as caring for my family members. But that doesn't take away from the fact that I've tried to make good things come out of a bad situation, and accomplished a lot of things in my roles. I think a lot of people have got positions through having a connection with someone in that organisation too. It's helped to remind myself that I'm not alone. Often, success has a lot to do with luck.
Once, I was working in a group doing a big project over a 12 hour period. Everyone else left and another person and I were in charge of putting it together. But the files the other people gave us weren't the final versions, so there ended up being some things missing. Everyone blamed me for it and were in a bad mood. But I just had to remind myself that it was still a really massive achievement to put something together and get a finished product out. We still got a prize out of it just for our effort.
@ecla34 @WheresMySquishy haha glad we're on the same page! I was hesitant to put self-care because self-care should be all the time -- but it's especially valuable after hard-work!
Fun final question! Can you find a GIF/picture/meme of what success looks like for you?
Can you find a GIF/picture/meme of what success looks like for you?
Two I found, but I'll keep on searching...
I also found this earlier, and while it's not really what success looks like to me, I feel like it needs to be posted nonetheless. 
Well this GR was a... success 
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Loved chatting with you @ecla34 and @WheresMySquishy, thank you for all your great insights! And to anyone else reading this, remember we'd always love to hear your insights, too, so don't be afraid to post some answers and add to the thread! 
Goodnight everyone! 
(this is how you might feel after a big success! )
To me, success is finding lots of good gifs to spam people with 😉
Can you find a GIF/picture/meme of what success looks like for you?
Can you find a GIF/picture/meme of what success looks like for you?
@ecla34 always a good time for a HSM gif!
A lot of different ways... it depends really on the goal! Anything from a short rest, to some comfort food, or using up some free time to do other things I enjoy. This is actually kind of a hard question, because I feel most of the time the satisfaction of completing something is a reward all in itself! And I'm very bad at disciplining myself, and let myself have the reward cake whenever if I'm feeling down.
@WheresMySquishy - "Often, success has a lot to do with luck."
You're completely right! I think this needs to be realised more, I know so many people who have just happened to land jobs because they had connections, while others look for jobs forever. It can even come down to whether someone has had a bad day or not -- it's both scary and comforting. Comforting because everyone's all in this together, really!
5. Has there been a time where you felt unworthy of a success? How did you cope with this feeling?
So often... a mix of perfectionism, self-doubt and just modesty. Actually, I think modesty is something that's too engrained into some people -- be too boastful about your achievements, and you're 'annoying' and 'self-absorbed'. But you should always celebrate the way you want to -- even if it is loudly and proudly! With perfectionism and the self-doubt, it helps to let myself see the big picture (for example, comparing a high uni score with the rest of my high uni scores to prove to myself this wasn't 'just a fluke'!) and rewarding myself for the effort, anyway.
