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Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

@j95 Thats understandable that you would prefer to cover them up to avoid questions. Any chance you could be assuming the worst in their interest? I think lots of people only associate self-harm with the stereotypical stuff but you never know. And I don't have a lot of experience working in a blokey culture! I have a client with scars literally all up her arms and legs. For 10 years she hid them and in the past 2 years she has decided not to bother. Its possible that in time you will stop caring what others think. 

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

@lanejane
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

Mine are only above the knee so it's not that big of deal hiding them but it's just annoying that I feel like I have to
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//
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Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

What can you do when normal methods of delaying self harm don't work like drawing on your skin or using rubber bands? Cause in the moment I'm not really thinking about what else I can do... My head is a mess and I get all flustered so alternative methods aren't really on my mind 

 

I think @MiaMouse1 already said a good one about drawing the birds!

 

Something I have found really useful in the past to distract myself (from pretty much anything!) is ReachOut. The games section can get really addictive. You just challenge yourself to play each game and then eventually your mind gets busy with stuff online!

 

There is also a cool book I saw once by Kate Bornstein called "Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide". I'm pretty sure you can actually get a copy for free from google somewhere! Or look up Kate on youtube.

lanejane

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

When I was self harming, every time I wanted to harm, I just told myself to wait 10 minutes. But for some reason, I never looked at the clock. 9 times out of 10, it worked.

Another technique I was taught was sort of like the wave image on the intro into this chat. Just sit with the emotion, acknowledge that it is there, let it pass through, whilst saying something along the lines of 'you are not real, you are just an emotion'. Although that was used for my ideations, I reckon it would be worth a try with self-harm thoughts.

My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

I read this question as meaning that normal methods such as drawing and rubber bands don't work... but what other options are there...really :/
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

@j95 maybe you could try not covering them again one day and see what happens. if you're up to it?

 

sometimes it's good to try things again and see if things have changed.

 

stuff like r u ok day and national suicide prevention day can really change the way people act and think.

lanejane

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

@stonepixie good tips!

 

 

hey and omg what about our 1000001 coping methods / distraction techniques thread?

lanejane

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

There are a bunch of techniques in DBT's distress tolerance module. All of my patients have found at least one that works for them. And it definitely gets easier with time. ...but it is still not easy

Re: [SPECIAL GUEST] Self injury: riding the wave of distressed emotions

@lanejane are there really that many???