Firstly, thank you for sharing this with us, it takes a lot of courage to express your thoughts and worries.
Personally, I feel I can relate to you a lot. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend, how ever have had previous relationships with girls. I still find myself at times being attracted to other females and I a very open with communicating my sexuality, needs & worries with my boyfriend. Speaking to others about this can be really helpful in gathering all your confusion and thoughts before going to speak to your partner about this. Take your time, it sounds like you have a strong relationship being for 5 years, so allowing yourself time to process this is absolutely fine. (In my opinion).
I agree with @Bre-RO , checking out a LGBT+ support service would be really helpful and they're really lovely, non-judgemental and supportive.
I used to be Bicurious and was also in a straight relationship. If he's open to it you can always try an open relationship, so that you can experiment with other women while still dating him. IF that doesn't work out you can always try just checking girls out, which doesn't do much at first but if you are sexually attracted to women one thing you can try is lesbian porn or erotica instead of straight porn or erotica. No matter what, remember that even if you are bisexual you don't have to have been with a woman to be bisexual.
I would like to advise you to talk about everything with your partner, perhaps he is open to new experiments and will support you in your desire to discover your sexuality. If your boyfriend is not yet ready for this, you can visit a family counselor together and discuss it. In any case, if you value your relationship, you should share with him. Maybe you just lack novelty in the relationship and you can, for example, experiment with the remote control vibrator . From my experience, I can say that real pleasure can only be obtained with a loved one and it does not matter if it is a guy or a girl.
@Jessica123 I can somewhat relate as someone who is bisexual and has only been in relationships with men. I also just want to say you don't have to date girls or to be in a relationship with a girl to identify as bisexual. I think everyone has given some great advice, I would emphasise the advice of talking to your boyfriend about what you have been feeling and then maybe a helpline or support service afterwards or us. I hope you will keep us updated and everything goes well if you decide to talk to your boyfriend.
Hi @Jessica123! Welcome to the forums!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. It sounds like it's been a confusing, conflicting time for you. I know that understanding your identity can take a lot of time and I don't think that we ever stop getting to know ourselves.
I just wanted to ask how you're going.
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