I'm sorry to hear that @j95 and thank you for sharing that part of your story... it would be very difficult to process missing people who have abused or hurt you... particularly when they're our parents as they're still our mum and dad so maybe we instinctively feel some sort of connection to them regardless of their behaviour?
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