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Feeling lonely

I don't have any friends at all. 

I get socially anxious.

But I feel lonely.

Re: Feeling lonely

Hey @LadyCocoa1234! I tried to post a reply to you earlier but it didn't post for some reason. Welcome to RO! Smiley Very Happy It's really awesome that you've been able to reach out - I know how hard that can be with social anxiety! I'm pretty sure a lot of us here on RO also have experiences with loneliness and anxiety, me included! 


Loneliness and social anxiety can be really really tough to deal with and make life really hard at times - I wonder what you do to look after yourself when things are like this? What do you enjoy doing? 


If you felt like talking to someone right away Kids Helpline is really good and friendly. You can call them anytime at 1800 55 1800 Smiley Happy

Re: Feeling lonely

Hey @LadyCocoa1234 and welcome to RO Smiley Happy


Loneliness can be a tough thing to deal with. I for sure know what it's like to not have any friends, I spend a lot of my time at home because there's no one to hang out with but there's always ways to meet new people. Smiley Happy Do you have any interests or hobbies? Joining groups with people who have similar interests as you do is a great way to meet new people and make new connections. This here is a factsheet All About Loneliness that some ideas and suggestions Smiley Happy 


Re: Feeling lonely

Hello @LadyCocoa1234,


You might not believe it, but even the most confident people feel socially anxious. Approaching a stranger, or even an acquaintance you have seen but have not talked to, can be scary, so making friends take time. Since everyone feels the same nervousness as you do, go ahead and make small talk. You can talk about the weather, their work/school life etc. It is not very personal, so it does not have to be confronting, and even if they do not warmly welcome you, at least you tried! It is funny, but sometimes the more you get rejected, the less you care about it. It is not as bad as you think, so have a go! You will not know what might happen unless you try.


Try joining your local sports club or some sort of activity to meet new people. If you are passionate about something, by going to a gathering point of people who share the same interest, it makes it much easier to talk about something common and create a bond.


Best of luck!


Winter Rain

Re: Feeling lonely

I'm also not social and I always feel lonely and I want to make friends but I can not feel people will not love me

Re: Feeling lonely

Hey @Suhail, welcome to RO! I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling that way - it can be so hard to feel lonely, and it can also be hard trying to reach out and make new friends when you aren't the most socially outgoing person. Some other forum users have posted resources and advice above - have you had a look at it?

Just so you know, RO is an Australia-based website, so we might not be able to give you information specific to where you live, although you're very welcome to have a look at the resources on our site Smiley Happy

Re: Feeling lonely

Hi @Suhail  feeling connected, loved and supported is so important to our wellbeing and I'm sorry you're feeling lonely at the moment. It's fantastic you're reaching out online for support Heart


I have just sent you a quick email if you could please take a look.