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Re: I can’t stop seeing prostitutes

Hey @Benn95 it's really good to hear you're doing well! The huge positive here is that you're focused on understanding yourself Heart Lots of people find it hard to connect with a counsellor - sometimes it takes seeing a few different people to get a good fit. 

 

Is great that you've been working out. What kind of training do you do? 

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Hey guys! Wishing you all a very merry Christmas. Just an update after the support I received on this post. Shortly after the post I did relapse. Since I have been seeing a doctor regularly and I have also been diagnosed with depression. After a course on anti depressants and away from alcohol I have been able to make a true stride. I have chosen to come of medication and I have the ok from the doctor to do this. I’ve felt stronger since. Everyday is hard and particularly in the festive period being away from my loved ones. I want to thank each of you in this post for your support and wish each and everyone of you the best. You have been there when I had no where else to go.
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Hi @Benn95 , 

 

Thanks so much for updating us on how you are travelling. It is truly fantastic to hear that you found the support on this community helpful, and we hope that you continue to come here if you need any further support. 

 

As I'm sure you know, relapses are very common when we're trying to change a pattern of behaviour. It's fantastic to hear that you've made great progress in staying away from alcohol and that you found antidepressant medication helpful, you should be proud of yourself for making such big changes in your life. It takes a lot of strength and courage to be honest and vulnerable about things in our life that we may feel ashamed about, and I suspect that you've helped a lot of people by being so honest here. 

 

Xmas can be hard when we're away from family and friends, do you have anything nice planned for yourself for tomorrow? 

 

Wishing you a very Merry Xmas Heart Heart 

 

 

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Hi there, I am going through the exact same thing as u. It is a major problem in my life that nobody knows but me. Every time I get drunk I end up seeing escorts and spending a chunk of money and putting myself through completely misery afterwards. I just can’t seem to stop I have been trying for years. I am financially messed up and mentally ruined.

sorry to hear about u going through this too, I have been depressed for a very long time because of this. How are you doing now? And do u have any tips on how to stay away? 

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Hey piano man! I’ve actually recently returned home to my native country but I’m doing good I have been on the straight and narrow now for around 6 months. I have relapsed twice in that time but each time I have become stronger and I’m now 4 months clear. 

First of all I’m glad this post is helping someone else and the amazing response I had from other people in the group helped me a lot so check the replies. 

in terms of what you can do mate I firstly costed my doctor to get help with the anxiety and depression I suffer. I cut drinking for two months until I felt I could control myself and this break helped. I do drink again now however when I have relapsed it has been whilst sober so I feel I have controlled the drinking aspect now. I recommend getting Sti rested. I was clear and that gave me peace of mind. Little things also helped like I put my phone on child safety settings so escort websites where blocked. When going out drinking I took enough money for a night out and taxi home. I leave my card at home when drinking and got rid of alternative methods such as Apple Pay to (this helped massively). I also got a two year bank statement and added up the expense of the issue and I was horrified. Having that large number helped motivate me to avoid it 

 

talking wasn’t my thing but I did do a few telephone council sessions but I do believe to get the most out of this arranging a proper councillor or attending a sex addicts anonymous meeting will help you the most. Speaking 100% helps. I don’t want to share my details online but I’m here to help anytime so please keep us up to date with your progress! I hope this helps and you can do it. It’s a hard addiction to curve. 

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hey @PianoMan8644

You've done an amazing job at reaching out, and I think some of the things that @Benn95 has mentioned in their post is incredibly important and beneficial Smiley Happy It can be an incredibly hard journey to quit an addiction - regardless to what it's of. The fact that your taking steps to get support and ask for help, is so so incredibly admirable and you should be extremely proud of yourself!

A lot of people who find themselves in a situation like this can find professional supports like a psychologist or counsellor to be helpful, have you ever spoken to someone like that about this?