I don’t know what is up with me.
I don’t understand what has been occurring recently, but I’ve just be so angry. Angry at literally fucking everything. I do have my good moments, but I don’t know what’s going on. I don’t know if it’s some build up stuff or something, but it’s really getting on my nerves. I’m a person who doesn’t and has never had anger issues, I know that for certain, but I don’t know if this is become of some sort of suppression of emotions or what. It makes no sense to me. I am able to keep it toned down, but accidentally snap now and then. But I honestly just feel like I’m angry at the world or something. I don’t know what to do.
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Hey @Kenzie, I can really relate to those angry feelings that you've mentioned in your post. I've experienced a lot of anger in the past, especially when my mental health was quite low and I just wasn't feeling at my best.
Mental health issues can definitely contribute to those feelings of anger and can make it harder to cope with them too, since there is so much else going on for us at the same time. And since anger can be so all-consuming in the moment, and make us really reactive to the situation we're in, it can be hard to know what to do (my rational mind definitely takes a break when I'm angry!).
I've spoken to my therapist about my own anger, and what she shared was really helpful, so I thought I'd share it with you in case it could help you too. She encouraged me to think of a plan for what I could do when I get angry, so that I have it prepared when the next situation came up. For me, I would get really angry with my brother. So my plan was to take some deep breaths if I noticed myself snapping/about to snap at him, to try and settle myself. If that didn't work, then the next step of the plan was to walk away (if possible) and calm down away from him, instead of continuing to be in that triggering situation, and then return later. As you mentioned that you're unsure of things that help you calm down, I've found that a self-soothing gesture can be helpful. I like to squeeze my forearms, but you might like to give yourself a hug, or run your hand through your hair 😊.
I can hear that this anger is quite upsetting to you and I get that, I've been there too - it's not nice to feel like you're an angry person, or like you might be hurting others in your anger. But I think reaching out to talk about this is a great idea. It shows that you are really wanting to find ways to cope with your anger so you can be the best version of yourself. I hope that my comment has been even a little bit helpful in that 💗.
Hi @Kenzie it sounds like you're dealing with a lot of intense emotions right now, and feeling angry at everything can be really overwhelming. It's understandable that you're feeling confused and frustrated by these feelings. I am wondering if this is something you’ve been experiencing for a while?
I think it’s important to acknowledge that anger is a natural emotion, and it's okay to feel it. However it definitely doesn't feel very good when it gets out of control, and it can be super exhausting.
It could be helpful to reflect on what could be triggering these feelings of anger. Are there any specific situations or stressors in your life that might be contributing to this? As you pointed out, sometimes suppressed emotions can show up as anger.
It can also be really helpful to find outlets for your emotions. Have you found anything that helps you to calm down when you're feeling angry?
If you’re up for a read, we have a community discussion on anger here, where we had lots of community members share their ways of dealing with anger. I also wanted to share an article on our website that shares some ways to deal with anger and a quiz we have on managing your anger. I hope you find these helpful 🙂
Thank you.
this has been something I have been experiment for a while, starting at the start of 2023. I don't know any specific situations or stressors other than current mental health issues, which I would presume to be a contributing cause.
And I am quite unsure on any things that calm me down, usually I just wait to cool off, which the time period that takes varies, but is generally a short time to get myself into check.
Hi @Kenzie
Thank you for opening up about your experiences with anger. I see that this is a recent occurrence for you and you're doing your best to process your feelings. You've mentioned that you're going through some mental health issues currently and I'm wondering if you have been able to talk to someone about this? If you'd like someone to talk to one-on-one, Kids Helpline can be a great resource to check out. They can offer 24/7 free and confidential counselling over the phone or via WebChat.
It also seems like right now your main outlet for your anger is waiting it out and you've brought up that you're unsure about specific methods of calming down. If you feel comfortable with exploring further options for self-care, ReachOut also has some articles that could help you in navigating self-care.
We've also sent you an email to check in on you, so keep an eye out!
