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I feel alone.

I am constantly surrounded by people; my family, yet I feel lonely and isolated. As if I'm not necessary. I'm moving schools and feel as though I can't talk to my old friends, not like I felt comfortable talking to them anyway. All I want is a friend to talk to, someone to trust, someone who won't judge me. It feels like I have no one to talk to. I feel too lonely and I'm just overwhelmed. 

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Re: I feel alone.

Hi @yellowheart, welcome to RO!

I'm sorry to hear you've been going through such a tough time... isolation and loneliness can really be difficult to cope with, and harder still when there's no one to open up about it to.

 

If you don't mind me asking, did these feelings start to happen when you moved schools? Sometimes big changes like that can trigger these feelings, especially when you miss old friends. Why do you feel you can't talk to them?

It's understandable to want someone who understands you completely, and I promise you, you will find those kinds of friends, even if takes a bit of time. How has it been, going to your new school?

 

You always have us to talk to here <3

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Hey @yellowheart, just checking in. How are you doing this week?

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling alone. It's definitely not a nice feeling to have. I'm wondering if you've ever spoken to a mental health professional about these feelings, or if that's something you would consider?

// Spiral outward, keep going. //
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I'm starting to feel a bit better. Yesterday, I had a family day and it really helped in terms of distracting me. I don't think I feel comfortable talking to a specialist. I just want a friend to talk to. Thank you so much for asking and thinking of me. 

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I haven't moved schools just yet, however I've never had a real friend before. Just a couple friends to that I don't feel comfortable being completely honest with. 

 

Thank you. You're support means the world to me right now Heart

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Glad to hear you're doing a bit better @yellowheart Heart

 

I used to be the same way about talking to professionals so that's totally understandable. Kids Helpline have a webchat which is kind of like posting here on the forums, except that it's one on one and happens in real-time (whereas often you'll have to wait a bit here for a response). That's one option, but it's totally up to you Smiley Happy

 

Finding friends that you feel comfortable with can be really tough, too Smiley Sad do you have any hobbies that you could use to potentially find friends? (online gaming, playing sports, music, art etc.)

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Hi @yellowheart I understand how you feel. I feel that everyone just wants a person they can trust, they can confide in and someone they can can depend on. Growing up, I didn't have any close friends because I constantly moved schools, I wasn't sociable enough to make new ones whenever I moved. I couldn't talk to my parents because I felt like they were just going to get angry at me and say that I'm ungrateful or that I complain too much. I struggled to find a friend I can trust for years, until I moved to my final school. It wasn't easy since there was so much drama that went on but I found a person I could trust. My best friend. She was my first friend in my new school and 5 years later we're still friends.

We're polar opposites when it comes to our hobbies, interests and personalities. But that's what makes our friendship strong and interesting. She calls me an idiot when I make stupid decisions but she always has my back and vice versa. We've been through thick and thin and that's how I knew that our friendship will last even when we finish school.

Everyday is an opportunity to make new friends and determine the ones you can trust. This might sound cliche but it's better to have that one friend you can trust with everything than have a bunch of friends who'll turn their backs on you. And I'm speaking from experience here. You're still young and a lot of things can happen. I didn't expect to become the sociable person I am now and I certainly didn't expect I'd gain a best friend.

Until you find those people you can call your true friends, we here at Reachout are more than willing happy to help you and talk to you whenever you're feeling lonely or overwhelmed.
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Here for you @yellowheart Heart
Do you think moving school might be a fresh new start and you might meet someone new?
I always feel like it's quality over quantity, it took time for me to find my good friends but when you meet the right person you will feel comfortable and that it's right for you.