Just trying to get help and....
So i was telling this online counselor about my issues and i told her about what i did to my x. The horrid thing i cant mention anywhere because.....................
Yeah so, the counselor is now talking to their manager about going to the police.
My x didnt want to go the police. Clearly it would be nice if no one went to prison for it. Especially after she said she didnt want to. yeah so i tried to tell the truth. got burnt. IM already going to hell so i may aswell wait in line in jail.
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Thank you for being mindful of our guidelines @Stagnator this can be a tricky space to share in particularly as we are inclusive of young people 14 to 25
It sounds like you're really look for a space to be able to talk about your experiences but because of the nature of those experiences they may blur the line of what can / should be kept as confidential?
I wonder if it's worth giving Mensline (available 24/07 - 1300 78 99 78) a call to chat about what's going on for you right now? They specialise in relationships and family counselling, so you may be able to share a bit more with them than you could on here 
Mensline were the ones who I was talking to today. I had to call lifeline after they ended the conversation after i asked if they were contacting the police. I understand it was basically the protocol for them but, kinda shitty of them to say they might and then end the conversation. Im not that stable in general, being told hey we might report your crime which you did, nevermind that your suffering psychologically and you came to us for help right now. Made me feel wonderful
After lifeline operator told me to call them back and tell them not to release any of my information. I eventually spoke to someone who said they wouldnt be calling the police. Which is good because my x probs doesn't want to be reminded of me especially by police about the horrible shit ive done to her.
FYI Mensline should not be trusted with anything you have done that has a criminal element. be vague be anonymous if you still want to talk them about it. I dont want to live in prison in a prison in another prison, tipping neither do you. Thats honestly even a bit much, even for me, think id rather, yknow.
Hey @Stagnator apologies mate that this has caused such a distress - it sounds really hard and conflicting. Just a heads up, this is a law required by all mental health organisations. Not just Mensline - also us. If you disclose you've committed a crime or intend to commit a crime here at RO there's also a duty of care we need to abide by. I was under the impression you both went to a counsellor together and disclosed this? Is that correct?
RO Guideline - never:
- Break the law in any way and don’t encourage others to break the law.
yeah, i understand and i dont want to commit crimes or tell others to. Its just really difficult to get help sometimes unless your completely honest with people. i hate the things i did. I cant change them:( Im just trying to figure out what my deal is. Why i can just barely function when still under such a crushing weight i dont know.
My x and I did both go to a relationship counselor to break things off a bit. it wasnt bad it wasnt all that helpful but it allowed some practice in just being accepting of how eachother felt at the time. I think i could completely understand why she feels or felt the way she did. but she had trouble allowing me to process what it meant for me i think, also fair.
I dont think we specifically talked about the specific one big messed up thing. My x was not upset that we didnt get to talk about it i dont think, and she didnt want to go back for a second one. As far as i know she has sought and been able to get help for her type of trauma. Which im glad for.
You are right that it is difficult to get help if not completely honest with the people trying to help you.
Sounds like this issue is still affecting you and how you're feeling today, is that correct?
