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Re: Living in the past

Good question @Nightruner23! It has a category for writers, which is very appealing to me - possibly one of those? I have to comb through the groups a bit more when I get home to see if I can find one that really stands out.

 

I really like the concept of Meetup at a glance. It seems like a great way to meet people; you know who's going and exactly what you're all going there for, so it seems like a good gateway into some much-needed socialising! Smiley Happy

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Hey @shio!
You're definitely not alone in how you feel! It's very similar for me too!
I define myself as extroverted but trying to make conversation with someone I'm not really feeling a 'connection' with can be quite mentally draining for me. I'm very happy that I have a very selected group of friends because it never feels forced when I interact with them.
I do also have an introverted side and find a lot of comfort in spending time by myself, and 'doing my own thing'. Do you feel this way?
It's true! The way you write is really amazing! Have you ever thought of writing blogs or short stories or anything? I feel like you would be so good at that!
You really are such a big support to a lot of people here on RO!

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@shio i do find it hard to talk to people epssicaly when they are new or i dont know them. If im at a new place or anything like that i get really anxious i can't sit i try and fiddle with things amd gwt the negative self talk in my mind or say the negative self talk out loud i can't stand to fight people like verbally or text it sits off my anxiety i don't do to well with it sucks i hate it Smiley Sad 

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@missep You know, thinking about it, I would probably classify myself as extroverted too... provided there were more of us in the world! I think I'm really only situationally introverted, for all the reasons we've talked about. Considering that those mentally draining options are all that I've really got to work with for now, introversion is just the lesser of the evils.

 

I'm so happy that you've found people you don't have to force it with - I can really appreciate just how valuable that is Smiley Very Happy Absolutely though; it's 100% necessary for me to take time out for myself every now and then to not go a little bit (more) insane.

 

I do have a blog, actually! I started it halfway through last year and it's become really important to me. I never go for more than a couple of days without a post, and sometimes write up to three in a day when I'm feeling particularly prolific. I also have four or five unfinished novels, only one of which I'm actively working on. I seem to get to the 50,000 word mark and start to think... wait, is this entire concept just garbage?! And off to the mortuary it goes Smiley LOL I say it every time, but I have a good feeling about this one!

 

It's wonderful to think I might be making a difference for somebody Smiley Happy

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@Nightruner23 I really struggle with this too. I have a habit of going really quiet in situations like that, and then beating myself up for not having more to offer or feeling bad that everyone else seems to be engaging effortlessly. I'm not as bad as I used to be with it but it still makes something like Meetup very daunting.

 

I guess for me, it's gotten to the point where the possibility of having a bad experience like that seems worth it if it means I get a shot at meeting somebody who I don't have to feel that way with. All I know is that sitting in my living room isn't getting me any closer to it and my current formula isn't really working, so I'm just going to have to bite the bullet and try something new Smiley Happy you know what they say about the definition of insanity!

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Im the same @shio im trying to talk to people i dont know like a few classmates i don't know i talk to them and we have a conversation im slowly coming out of the chains

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@shio situationally introverted, I like that definition. I feel like that's what I am actually haha! You seem like a very self-aware person who doesn't give up easily! I have no doubt throughout your life you will meet people that you will connect with and converse easily without feeling like it's mentally draining Smiley Happy
Thank you so much! Yes it is truly valuable. So true, enjoying time by yourself is so important!

I thought so! From the way you write, you are too talented to not blog or write a novel! That's really impressive! What are your novels about?

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@Nightruner23 That's really great - it can be really difficult to make the first move and go out of your way to talk to new people, so it's super cool that you're making the effort Smiley Happy

 

@missep Thank you for all the kind words! I spend plenty of time in my own head, so I've had ample opportunity to get to know myself Smiley Very Happy

 

It's been so long since I've had people like that in my life that it's easy to get disheartened every now and then but I recognise that it's just a time thing and try to create as many opportunities for it to happen as I can.

 

These are all really boiled down synopsises but one is about someone who gets trapped in his own mind and has to walk through his past lives to escape, another's a guy who is the only person on the planet (other than a vicious demigod) born without horns, and the most recent one follows a centuries-old scribe in a world where collective belief has a tangible influence on reality. Having lots of fun with the current one Smiley Happy

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@shio do you find it hard to talk to people that you don't know