Let me tag @DruidChild @Bee @N1ghtW1ng they might be able to help too.
i find it very hard to trust and some people can have a very deceptive personality. i guess its abit of touch and go for a while. so like meet them and hang around but be careful about what i say, say only what needs to be said and keep the topics light. i found that one sign of trust is that they share a problem with you but also give you the opportunity to talk about your problem too.
Thanks for the tag @scared01!
Hey @keezeik I find trusting people quite hard, too. If it's a specific person, something I've used in the past that's been helpful has been to make a list of times the person has been kind to me, or reasons why I care about them.
Would anyone in your family have advice on making friends and trusting others? Sometimes people like parents or grandparents have more wisdom than we think they do
Something like this healthy relationships wheel could also help you to identify when relationships are healthy and you CAN trust the other person, versus situations like with your old friend, where the other person is acting in unhealthy ways towards you. (Not all the parts of the wheel will necessarily apply to you).
As I was saying I think next year I shall be getting more involved in clubs and societies, as well as try and see if I can join a sports team. But I've always struggled with to find a balance between socialising and university work. I find myself just doing uni work the whole time because of my learning disability. This kind of impacts on my anxiety and it goes full circle
Hey @keezeik, I agree that finding work while disabled is super difficult, and workplaces often exploit us because they know they can get away with it :/ I'm sorry you had to go through that.
It can be challenging to find the balance! Are you connected with your uni's disability services or counselling? I found connecting with them helped me manage the work side of uni better. What kinds of clubs and societies are you interested in joining?
I am also linked with the unis disability service in the sense that I get extra time for exams as such. I currently go to two different unis (I do both unis part time), and one university has a limited amount of clubs and societies, so I haven't really joined that one. But I will only be at my second university for one more year, and then I will be finished with that degree, it as multitudes of clubs and societies so I will probably choose any clubs and societies from there. I will most likely try out the book society and German society since this year I wasn't able as it clashed with my uni courses, but I will check out more on open day next year.......
@keezeik it's great to hear that you've been seeing your psychologist for so long, do you find them helpful? It sounds like you're very busy, between full time uni and volunteering!! I've heard that staying busy can be helpful in recovering from depression. Is volunteering an option for making connections and new friendships, too?
Cool, those societies sound good What are you studying at the moment?
I'm currently doing a bachelor of arts and also studying German
Mm when I was volunteering a few years ago I found the same thing @keezeik. I think it's great that you were able to ask someone for their facebook - even though it didn't work out that time, it's really good practice for trying again. Well done
Those both sound really interesting! How are you finding them so far?
They're really good, the uni where I do my bachelor's degree is quite small, but I really like it because it's really supportive if you have any sort of disabilities which is nice. The second uni where I study German is unfortunately very academic so it's not as helpful if you have a disability, or in general admin isn't so great there. I think even 'normal' people who go there find it not that great tbh
For sure @keezeik, practice makes perfect How are you doing today, am I right in thinking you're with family at the moment?
A supportive uni sounds really helpful! It sucks that the other one isnt as good. It sounds like between two uni courses and volunteering and possibly some clubs, you have a lot of interests and passions!
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