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Re: Mistakes and relationships

Well I am a giant stupid fucking idiot 

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: Mistakes and relationships

@j95 everyone makes mistakes, what can you learn about yourself from this, what can you do to do things differently next time?

 

OR and this is contentious, but is part of your identity wanting to be able to see multiple people sometimes? 

 

Also remember that being mean to yourself or paying yourself out or stuff like that doesn't count as learning

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@Ben-RO I don't know what I would do differently, probably just think first haha 

With the identity thing, I don't know, like its something I have thought about before alot and kind of keeps coming up in my head 

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

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Also is that a thing like do many people do that just wondering
Wanting to see more than one person is not why I did what I did but it's something that I have thought about a bit
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

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I don't know how common it is to be in open or poly or similar relationships @j95, but I have known a few people in situations other than the more usual monogamous ones.

This isn't the case with all of them, but I know that for at least some of the ones I've been friends with they're planning to eventually settle into a monogamous relationship and are using open relationships while they're young so that they're able to feel more comfortable settling down later. I considered doing this myself for a little while last year even, because I liked someone a lot but neither of us were in a place to just be with each other.
I guess what I'm saying with all of that is that it's fine to try something more open if it's what you want/need at this time, and that even if it's not exactly common or usual, it isn't uncommon.

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oh yeah kind of makes sense @Birdeye i guess like there is another reason for me thinking this way but i feel like its kinda awkward/embarassing
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

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@j95 it sounds like a really awful situation that you're in, I hope you're feeling okay.

 

If you're feeling up for talking about your reason for thinking that way, we are absolutely here to support you and I'm sure other people can probably relate

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@Sarah7714 oh man this is kind of hard to explain haha I kind of feel abnormal at the moment because well I have been thinking about sex a lot like heaps and i feel like a freak. I guess like that's one element to an open relationship is being able to be with others and that's kind of what I keep thinking about it. God I feel like such a fucking weirdo because I want and could multiple times a day 

 

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

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That's a completely fine reason! And also not all that uncommon either. People have tons of reasons for being in more open things, or even for not being in anything. Like I said before, it's all about what works for you right now.

As well as people needing to find someone on a more similar page regarding what they're into or how often.

Is it just the thought of open things that's new for you or is it also the frequency of thinking/wanting sex?


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@j95 do you feel this way only when your in a relationship or is it when you are single as well?