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Need people to talk to, about anything please.

Sorry if this isn't in the right threads mods, feel free to move it.

 

I'm just looking for people to talk to please, about anything at all. If you'd like to vent to me, feel free, I'm here for everyone the best I can be and I'll try to support everyone as much as I can.

 

I just feel lonely, yes I have my parents and Psychiatrist and they're supportive but that's all.

 

My only friends are on social media (FB) and they're all in America. One is in the UK but she barely talks to me. 

 

No one bothers with me that I know in person in my own country and it's sad, sigh.

 

Anyway, just looking for people to say hi, whatever. Anything please. Just need to socialise I suppose.

 

PS - if I don't reply straight away, I'll get around to replying so don't worry 

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@musicfan_xo  Is there something you wanted to talk about? 

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Hi @Eden1717 , not really, just wanted to socialise with people I guess

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I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling lonely @musicfan_xo that is such a hard emotion to sit with. It's great that you have some online friends and our community though. Are you wanting to meet more face-to-face friends? Maybe we can have a chat about different ways of meeting people? 

 

 

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@musicfan_xo  Ok.... I am not good at coming up with topics though.... maybe if there is something you find fun to talk about you can tells us on here to get things moving? 

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@Bre-RO @Eden1717 I'm just lonely, having bad dark thoughts. Feel like such a failure.

 

My Psychiatrist says one thing at a time, and now he's pushing me to do things and I'm not liking it. I know he's trying to help but seriously

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And yeah @Bre-RO meeting people face to face would be good too. I understand its hard with the virus, but even before the virus, I've had trouble with this my whole life. 

 

I live in a small country town and everything I've tried to do - a Headspace Centre, groups in my town and other towns, I'm always told no. Same with jobs even though I have no skills.

 

I can't afford to study online and/or in person either, my Psychiatrist is nagging me about that now. First he says one thing at a time, baby steps, so to speak, then is pushing me. I feel annoyed now. I know he's trying to help but i did explain this to him. Yes my parents know everything.

 

@Eden1717 

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@musicfan_xo  That is hard I don’t find it helpful when professionals “push” me I much prefer to come to doing things in my own time. That isn’t to say that I won’t do what they are suggesting but I often need more time to process or more time than they think to do things and when they get pushy I tend to withdraw into myself and then it takes even longer to get anything done. As far as friends go have you maybe tried making friends in a less activity based way, idk like maybe you could go to a library or somewhere where there isn’t a specific activity and just see who is around and slowly make friends. Idk if that makes sense I have an idea in my head of how that would look but I am struggling to put it into words. Either way it is just a suggestion no pressure. Do you think you might want to move to a bigger city someday? 

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Hey @Eden1717 , thanks again for replying and for understanding. I really do appreciate it.

 

I'm glad you agree with me, and feel the same way I do, about how it takes you longer and you'll do things in your own time and whatnot. I've done literally everything my Psychiatrist has asked me to do - apply for the DSP for mental health, twice now (1st time I was rejected, still waiting to hear back from the 2nd time), did a free Mindspot course, read Beating The Blues and did some of the activities out of it (some of it was helpful but some of it was very triggering for me), contacted the NDIS to see if they can help too (emailed yesterday and waiting to hear back).

 

I explained this to him, he doesn't seem to understand. I'm not putting him down or anything but I'm just confused, he says focus on one thing at at a time and one day at a time and now he just seems to be pushing me. I don't like being pushed and pressured into doing things let alone by a professional. I don't have a problem with my Psychiatrist but I just feel so stressed now, like he's expecting too much of me. I know he's trying to help and I do appreciate that. Yes I told my parents, they know everything anyway about me and my struggles.

 

As for the library, to be honest I've never seen anyone in there the whole time I've lived in this town, so 2 years, and I think it's closed lately anyway because of the virus. But yes that could be an idea, thanks for the suggestion.

 

I used to live in a bigger town, but there was a bit of crime and whatnot so we had to move. It's peaceful where I live but the healthcare is atrocious not just mental health but I won't get into that.

 

I'm not sure if I'd like to move though, plus it's a lot to think about. I'll probably miss the town even though some days I like it, some days I hate it.

 

Sorry for me rambling and my long comment.

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@musicfan_xo  That is a lot to have done paperwork is always so much more difficult than it needs to be. Sometimes people don’t appreciate the effort it takes another person to do things. People often assume that it is always easier for the other person to do something than it is for them and thus is kind of natural because we can’t actually compare our experiences with theirs directly and people often hide their struggles so naturally we assume it isn’t that hard for them but often it is harder than we think initially. I have met a fair few doctors who do this and assume I can just do things that day. Sometimes things also aren’t up to just us like with centerlink that is highly dependent on others to do things and sometimes we just have to wait.  Hopefully your psychiatrist can come to understand that you are trying hard. 

 

Do you you know what it is about making friends that you find so difficult? You don’t have to answer that if you don’t want to. And sometimes people in your area just aren’t your kind of people. There are plenary of people who move to other places and find friends where they had not so many in their hometown sometimes the local attitudes can make a big difference.