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Struggling with loneliness

Hi guys, I have been struggling with loneliness for a long time, I would say roughly 2-3 years now. I have been making a lot of effort to get better, started counselling and mindfulness practices as well as doing more things I enjoy. However, at times I still feel very lonely, am not that close to family and don't have many friends here at the moment while I'm doing my PhD. I'm just wondering if any of you have any tips? I know information here is confidential but would it be possible to make friends here? Thanks. 

Re: Struggling with loneliness

Hey @nhle1994 well done for reaching out. I definitely get the feeling of loneliness, so do many of our members Heart unfortunately this forum is entirely anonymous; however we can definitely listen and support you, as well as help you strategise around the loneliness.

 

I also am not close to family, sometimes I think this really can magnify the loneliness and the emotions that come with it. Is your PHD one of the reasons you are feeling lonely? Does the study get in the way of socialising? Keen to know more about any connections you may have had in the past. I will tag some of our members too. Smiley Happy @Bee @N1ghtW1ng @mrmusic @ErinsAntics

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Thanks for the reply, no I enjoy my PhD at the moment, it sort of gives me a sense of purpose and I spend most of my time on it. I am quite introverted and have a bit of social anxiety but have improved with practice, but still struggle to make new friends. I guess I feel lonely due to not being that close to my family or not having any real close friends here.

Re: Struggling with loneliness

@nhle1994 Welcome to RO Smiley Happy
I'm sorry to hear your struggling with feeling lonely. Social anxiety and being introverted can definitely make feeling connected to people difficult at times.
Are you part of any groups where you could meet people?

what are you doing your PhD in?

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I started going for meditation classes and climate change meetups. People there are very nice so that helps. I am doing my PhD in materials engineering. 

Re: Struggling with loneliness

that sounds good @nhle1994
That is awesome that the people are friendly! Any chance you could talk to the people there after the classes/meetups? Smiley Happy

That sounds so interesting, however I know nothing about the topic lol

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It's a bit hard cause everyone is busy with their own lives including me lol. So I just am wondering if I'm doing enough. I think I am? Maybe just have to keep at it. 

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That makes sense @nhle1994
I think that's a question only you can answer for yourself. Everyone is different and what might be enough social interaction for one person may be totally different for another. You've said you think you are and you might have to just keep at it, which is really insightful.

Remember you're amazing just as you are Heart

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Hmm yeah I know, I think it is enough social interaction for me. I don't really have any close relationships with anyone at the moment, but I guess that takes time to develop. Thanks for you insight. 

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You're totally right @nhle1994 it does take time to develop close relationships, and it can take longer when you're dealing with things like social anxiety and being introverted. I know myself it can take a long time to feel really close to people, but at the same time, I know that each interaction makes the relationship stronger.

Remember you're amazing just as you are Heart