Hi, I’ve been copping with bulimia for 6 months, I’ve told my best friend who hasn’t told anyone. This has now started to take an effect on my body, as every time I now eat, I vomit simultaneously, without meaning to. I know this is unhealthy and that is complete unintentional and I don’t mean to. However I know it is connected to bulimia. I know I should get help but I have no idea how I would tell my mum. If I went to the doctors, does anyone know what they may do to help the ‘simultaneous vomiting’? As that can’t be cured with therapy as it is physical and unintentional. Thanks for hearing me out
I have never had the confidence to admit it to my family, but for the past maybe 8 months I have been bullimic. When I eat a lot, I feel guilty and just think about how I am going to gain it all. It has started to affect me physically. I’ve been to the doctor about that, and they didn’t ask if I am bullimic, so I didn’t say anything. They didn’t know what was wrong as every time I eat, I am sick. My best friend is really skinny, and I feel really self conscious around her. I live near the beach, so I usually go every weekend, with boys too. Being around my best friends who are all really skinny makes me self conscious. I don’t know what to do and how to seek help, this is the first step I’ve taken, and I hope it’s not the last. I don’t know if physically I will ever get better.
Hi @anon241190, welcome to ReachOut and thanks for sharing that. It must have taken a lot of strength and bravery to get that out there. As you mentioned, it has been difficult for you to admit, so I want to say how amazing it is for you to have reached out tonight. What you are experiencing has been affecting many parts of your life which must be so challenging for you to deal with. It must suck to feel so ill, and self-conscious around your friend It sounds as though you have a lot of hope that this won't be your last step in seeking help. I think that sentence in itself shows that you are willing to give yourself every opportunity to heal and receive the support that you need to get through this That is such a positive outlook to have and is something to be proud of. We are here to support you on whichever path you choose to take.
You mentioned lacking the confidence to tell your family which is completely understandable. This is such a major issue that you have been battling for quite a while now. It can be uncomfortable to have these conversations with those closest to us. Is there anyone else in your life that you would feel comfortable chatting to this about? It could be a family friend, a teacher or another health professional. The first place to seek help is usually your local GP - once you open up the conversation, you will be able to chat to them about referrals, support and next steps. That being said, sometimes we aren't ready to talk to someone face-to-face as it can be quite daunting. This is where a service like The Butterfly Foundation can be really beneficial as they have a phone, web chat and email service that is specialised in eating disorders and body image. They have a great reputation for providing helpful support and resources. Their service is free and confidential and therefore can be a great place to start if you are feeling nervous and unsure. You could also contact Kids Helpline which has similar services but is not focused on any particular area
I also wanted to link in our community guidelines. We remove any descriptions/methods of eating disorders, so I have had to remove little bits of your post. This is so that we can keep the community safe as some topics are sensitive or triggering to others. If you have any questions or issues, let us know and we can send you an email
First of all I wanted to thank you for being so brave to talk about some of the things you are struggling with. It can be really difficult to open up about such tough topics, like eating disorders.
While I can't diagnose your condition, and I really do want to encourage you to go see your doctor regardless of what happens, some of the symptoms you described are similar to Rumination disorder, which is a disorder that a lot of individuals with eating disorders can develop in tandem. While it feels like a medical condition, it often has a psychological basis and it is actually often treated with talk therapy, and CBT strategies. You can read more about this disorder here
I really can't understate how important it is for you to get help for both this condition and your eating disorder. Excessive vomiting can have extremely dangerous side effects in your body, including erroding your teeth, bad breath, gum disease, and potentially life threatening conditions like rupture of the stomach and/or esophagus.
It can be really hard to talk to a parent or doctor about this sort of thing, and there are some resources out there which can help you broach this topic. Eating Disorders Victoria has a page on what to do when you need help , as well as a page on how to talk to your doctor about your eating disorder.
Eating disorders are something that people, including yourself, can recover from, and you should be incredibly proud of yourself for taking the first couple of steps in your journey. If you need to talk to someone about this in more detail, the Butterfly Foundation has a hotline you can call 7 days a week, as well as online chat, or email.
I hope these resources help!
it sounds really tough for you and as someone who has an eating disorder I would really encourage you to speak to your gp. I think I read on another thread you have been to the gp about feeling sick and the physical side of things however its important to also tell them how you've been feeling mentally as well esp if its associated with the condition you have.
there are things they can do to help you physically as well as therapy for mental health side of things.
I hope the links @Andrea-RO has also linked here is helpful. the butterfly foundation is one ive used before and they were helpful.
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