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Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hi there @skyfireinferno99,
It can be really hard to see the way out when we've been struggling for so long. I've been reading through this thread and I noticed that having face-to-face support comes up a lot. It's great that you know what you need, often it can be hard for us to know what will help the best. If you were to seek face-to-face support again, would you go back to the same person as before?
I'm glad that you also find the forums helpful. Another great list of threads worth checking out are our Toolbox threads. Some are great for providing a scaffold in reframing our negative thoughts and can be helpful when it's challenging to do on your own. 

 

If you feel up to it, we've also got our 1000001 coping strategies and distractions thread that has an extensive list of activities that can be helpful in coping or distracting from tough times and may have some ideas for you. What do you think?

 


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Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey @Jay-RO

 

I know that face to face help is the best option for me, and I do want to go back to the psychologist who abandoned me. It was helping when I got to see her regularly. It is not possible to see her anymore because I have graduated from university and she works at the university counseling centre. She has a private practice too but she doesn’t want to see me there. If I can’t go back to my previous psychologist, then I am not going to seek face to face help ever again. I have to accept that life will never get better.

 

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey there @skyfireinferno99,

 

It's unfortunate that you're unable to see this psych at university now that you've graduated, it sounds like she was very helpful to you. Can I ask why she doesn't want to see you at her private practice? 

It can be really difficult to reach out again after being hurt twice before. Though seeing a psychologist or counselor is great face-to-face support, there are also things such as community clubs, support groups and other face-to-face opportunities that can help, what do you think? 

 

 

 

 


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Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey @Jay-RO

 

Yeah I haven't had the best experience when it comes to continuity of care with psychologists. She was really helpful and I was getting better when I got to see her regularly. She didn't give a reason why she couldn't see me at her private practice. She just said no when I asked her. She specialised in Aspergers and ADHD, which is my diagnosis but she said that she can't see me anymore. I have a good doctor to manage the medication side of things, but other than that, I have nothing. I know that medication helps but a combination of medication and therapy works best. Sadly, I will never get that. 

 

I really can't do group settings so support groups are not an option for me. I know that one on one support would be the best at this stage until I can manage on my own, but I know that I will never get that. After being abandoned twice, I don't think that I will ever be able to go back to see a psychologist again. It sucks that the only thing that can help me is the one that is not an option for me.

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hi @skyfireinferno99,

 

I really feel for you and the situation you are in right now Heart It sounds like you might be feeling pretty stuck right now, and that support isn't available for you- I can imagine this is a really painful place to be sitting and I want you to know that we hear you Heart

 

I am really glad to hear you are still seeing a doctor at the moment for your medications. Do you have a good relationship with them? Have you spoken to your doctor about the situation with your last psychologist? 

 

We are really grateful that you keep reaching out to us when you need to chat Smiley Happy

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Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey @Jess1-RO

 

Thanks for saying that <3 

 

I am pretty stuck, but at the same time, I also know that I will never get the help that I need.

 

I have a good relationship with my doctor. She has been taking care of my medication and she also got me to see a psychiatrist last week for ADHD medication. She knows about my psychologist situation and she has also talked to my psych on the phone. She wants me to start all over again with someone new, but she knows that it's hard because I have been abandoned twice. She is supporting me the best she can, but she wants me to have face-to-face help too. 

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

I am having a hard time coping tonight and getting any work done Smiley Sad 

I have to finish a report for work and it's due tomorrow but I can't focus on it.

 

My thoughts are all hitting me at once and I just keep thinking about how bad things are.

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

@skyfireinferno99 it sounds like your GP is very engaged with your care and helping you manage. That's great to hear Smiley Happy

I wanted to recognise how hard it can be when a psychologist stops working with you suddenly, and let you know that it is okay to feel hesitant to try again with someone new, again.

Sounds like tonight is pretty rough. What do you think would be most helpful tonight for you? Heart

Remember you're amazing just as you are Heart

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey @Bee

 

Yeah, she's a really good doctor and she cares. She wants me to see someone for face-to-face help and even I know that it's the best way to manage my condition. It's hard to do that after being abandoned twice by people who I trusted. It sucks that I will never be able to get the help that I need.

 

I want to get my report done and focus on my work, but it's hard to do that. I wanted to talk to a friend but I tried and most of them are either busy or they didn't reply.

 

I feel pretty burnt out too - I haven't had a break in two years. I can't do anything to relax or switch off. Nothing is strong enough to distract me from my thoughts.

Re: TW: I am having a hard time dealing with life

Hey there @skyfireinferno99,

I imagine that it must be really hard to open yourself up to the idea of seeing another psychologist after your past experiences. I think that it's great that you have found such a compassionate doctor who really seems to be engaging in your mental health journey.

My best advice would probably be to remind you that everyone is different (even psychologists!) and that keeping an open mind will give you the best opportunity to establish a strong connection with someone else. Do you feel like this is something that you feel prepared to do?
It's always something that you could bring up with your new psyc as something that you feel like you are struggling with - maybe that can be something that you approach together and could help create a stronger level of trust :-)

Let me know what you think!