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Re: Turning Negatives Into Positives

Well done on positively channelling the situation @dustinistoopreciousprotectatallcosts
Negative: I don't like that I'm napping so much lately.
Positive: I know it's mostly because I don't have much to do to be awake for, and knowing the problem should help fix it. I also didn't sleep or nap for as long as I thought I was going to today, and have instead mostly been up.

Negative: Boyfriend double booked our anniversary and that really upset me.
Positive: We can still do something. We can do our own lives on the day, and still see each other, even if it probably won't be anywhere near as much time together as I was wanting.

Negative: We're both feeling bad because we know that whatever we ask of the other, and whichever option we go with for it is going to hurt the other at least somewhat.
Positive: That we know this and talk about this shows that we care about each other and care about caring. We're okay, and I know we'll be okay.

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Neg: My psychiatrist appointment that was meant to be yesterday was cancelled again! I have to wait another 2 weeks! It's been 5 weeks since I've seen her, and I was meant to see her two weeks from then.
Pos: I'm booked in to see her. The receptionist listened to my annoyance and sympathised with me. She said she'll do her best to ensure they don't cancel again.

Neg: Had a bit of a crappy session with my job search agency today. I thought I was to just dress in interview clothes, not realising that she actually wanted to do some prep as well. I was okay while she read the responses I'd come up for my previous interview as prep, but as soon as she asked me a question, I totally freaked out. I froze. Then consequently I went into a panic attack. I then cried my way through the rest of the hour, trying as hard as I could to actually engage with her.
Pos: Despite the panic attack and the high anxiety I pushed through! I knew I was in a safe place and I wouldn't be judged for that occurring. We picked out some strengths from strength cards and that kind of helped me to calm down and focus a bit more. I know that this is something I struggle with and I have good moments and bad, but I know that no matter what, she is there to help me through it.

Neg: Was feeling kinda crappy after said appointment.
Pos: I took the crappy feeling and turned it into determination to find my dad a cd marker. 5 shops later and I found 1!!!!

Remember you're amazing just as you are Heart

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@Bee pretty darn awesome re-framing! This is a triumph in itself.

 

I love this quote Smiley Happy 

 

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Those reframes are seriously awesome @Bee, I'm so proud of you and I hope your psychiatrist doesn't cancel again Heart

 

Negative: my Youth Allowance got cancelled again because I wasn't quick enough to provide my parent's income details. I'm so angry at myself for not just doing the thing, but I'm also angry at centrelink for making welfare so difficult with so much red tape. They make me jump through hoop after hoop just so they can figure out whether I 'deserve' my $140 a week. My family earns barely anything and has been earning barely anything for every year that I've been on centrelink - why do I have to go through a long process every six months to confirm that we're still earning barely anything, when I could be using that time to look for work so that I can live in a healthy situation somewhat above the poverty line?! I hate how they make me beg and beg and then they don't even give me enough money to be healthy and well. Apart from anything else, my payments shouldn't even rely on my parent's income, because I am not. A. Child. The way it's set up forces me to live in a housing situation that causes large amounts of anxiety and stress as well as living in a constant state of financial anxiety. Without those two things maybe I wouldn't want to die all the time. The whole process is sick and dehumanising and it feels like I'm being punished for not having rich parents, which I am. 

 

Positive: It's almost the weekend, so tomorrow I'll see if my parents can sit down with me and fill in their tax details. The good thing about my parent's getting my youth allowance is that if I'm not payed for a couple of fortnights they'll be able to manage and I won't be homeless or anything just cause it got cancelled. And I'll get backpay for any weeks I miss, so they'll end up with the same amount in the long run. 

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@Bree-RO I like that quote too! I've been working really hard with my psych on the whole wise mind thing which essentially is a very similar process to this thread Smiley Happy

@DruidChild Thank you! I'm hoping so too, otherwise, I'll have to chat with my GP to get her to rouse on them! My psychologist told me I can do that and well within my rights to.
In regards to Centrelink, it is such a pain hey! Are your parents receiving any benefit for themselves? If so you shouldn't have to provide any parent income details - I didn't.
I as a 22-year-old, I was only just got moved to New Start allowance. Previously I was on Youth Allowance and Youth Disability - I qualified for youth disability as went through the process to be under The Personnel Group -
a job search provider who specialise in mental health and disabiltiy rather than be under Sureway, who were trying to force me to look for work when centrelink said I was exempt because I had drs certs and literally couldn't do any work while still in a cast as my employer wouldn't let me as it wasn't a workers comp injury. (the perks of injuring yourself the one day you have off in 3 weeks. That ended my cashier days unfortunately...)
It's hard but hang in their @DruidChild I just to set an alarm once a fortnight to remind me to report on time.

Remember you're amazing just as you are Heart

Re: Turning Negatives Into Positives

Neg - Having a shit night

Pos - Even though it may be hard to believe, it's okay to have shit nights and even though I feel kinda alone in this, I'm not there are people out there.

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That was some great turning a negative into a positive @FootyFan26! Hope your having a good day

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Thanks for telling me a bit about what happened for you @Bee, it's always helpful to hear others experiences and advice! Smiley Happy

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@DruidChild No worries. I find it helped me understand and feel less alone, so that's my usual approach Smiley Happy

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neg: went out for some time out, ended up accidentally hurting myself 

pos: the rest of it was fun 

 

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//