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What if I'm doing everything wrong?

I don't really know how to expand on the title.

I'm trying my best but it feels like I'm constantly failing and it's exhausting. 

Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 23-02-2020 10:21 PM

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scared01
scared01Posted 24-02-2020 09:17 AM
hey @Tiny_leaf
I can relate to this quite a lot, it can feel super exhausting and hard cant it?
Has something in particular happened that's made these thoughts and feelings come up?

When I feel like im constantly failing, I try to do something I know im good at like maybe a very simple drawing or making a particular crochet item. just something that shows I can do something right. Is there something that you like to do or feel that your good at? maybe you could try to do one of those activities and see if that helps abit?
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 11:56 AM

@Eden1717 @scared01 no I don't think there's anything in particular aside from everything...

 

@scared01 that's a good idea but it's bigger than that.

My issue isn't that I won't do things well, it's that I'll do them wrong and something bad will happen.

That whatever I do will lead to something bad that wouldn't of happened if I'd just not done anything. 

That everything I do makes things worse for me and everyone around me. 

 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 24-02-2020 12:09 PM
oh I see @Tiny_leaf
thanks for clarifying abit more. I can imagine that would make things quite difficult for you. Have you got anyone to speak to about these things at all?

Im wondering if maybe writing down one thing you would like to do, and the possibilities of what might happen , then try to disprove them?
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 01:08 PM

@scared01 no I don't have anyone...

And there are too many possibilities to write them all down and things always seem to go wrong in ways I can't predict

 
 
 
 
 
Bre-RO
Bre-ROPosted 24-02-2020 01:43 PM

Hey @Tiny_leaf 

 

It must be weighing so heavy on you to feel like all of your actions will negatively impact you and the people around you. Thinking about all the things that can potentially go wrong is so painful and scary.

 

You must feel exhausted but I'm grateful that even though this must be taking up so much of your energy, that you continue to share how your feeling with the community. 

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 07:18 PM

Thanks @Bre-RO 

 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 24-02-2020 07:57 PM
that sounds super tough @Tiny_leaf

would it be helpful to speak to a psychologist about whats happening? im not to sure if your aware but kids helpline offers free weekly counselling sessions either on the phone or through webchat if speaking to a psychologist in a clinic etc is possible atm
 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 08:09 PM

@scared01 I'm still trying to find a psych... I really, really need one but most of the ones I've seen had made things worse anyway, so me even continuing to look is probably another mistake. Smiley Sad

 

KHL has never been that helpful to me, I think my case is too complex for them or something. Idk I might try, I'm just not hugely confident in them. 

 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 24-02-2020 08:16 PM
I can relate @Tiny_leaf finding those right supports can feel totally impossible sometimes and very frustrating for sure!
maybe with kidshelpline you could give them ago for now and maybe for each session you could pick a focal point e.g the feeling like failing and bad things will happen.
sometimes if we try to work on everything all together it can make it worse and just feel really overwhelming whereas if we pick what we want to work on first (of course this can change if something comes up youd rather talk about!) it can help to work through each thing one at a time- if that makes sense?
 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 09:39 PM

Let's play "convince the counselor I'm not kidding when I say I can't use the phone"! Smiley Frustrated

Like gee thanks for reminding me how effective that thing I can't do is.n

 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 24-02-2020 09:43 PM
I cant use the phone much either @Tiny_leaf
sometimes I can answer it if I know its important (like a specialist) but I would rather text or email and will do so unless absolutely necessary. it makes contacting support services such as an online counsellor tricky but the khl counsellor I had was understanding and was perfectly ok with chatting on webchat.
 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 24-02-2020 09:46 PM

@scared01 for me it's really hit and miss. My record was telling someone four times in one conversation that I literally couldn't use the phone.

 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 25-02-2020 08:43 AM
oh goodness @Tiny_leaf that mustve be vey frustrating for you!
 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 25-02-2020 05:03 PM

@scared01 yeah it was..

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 25-02-2020 05:04 PM

I can't even figure out whether I'm hungry or not. Smiley Sad

I hate this.

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 25-02-2020 05:25 PM

Okay I do seem to be hungry.

 
 
 
 
 
Eden1717
Eden1717Posted 25-02-2020 05:30 PM

@Tiny_leaf  I never know if I am hungry for a basic life instinct it seems pretty hard to identify... i hope you find something good to eat that isnt too difficult. 

 
 
 
 
 
Tiny_leaf
Tiny_leafPosted 27-02-2020 04:19 PM

@Eden1717 I know right..

 
Eden1717
Eden1717Posted 23-02-2020 10:26 PM

@Tiny_leaf  is there something in particular this is about? Sorry idk how to be helpful.

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