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What if I'm doing everything wrong?
I don't really know how to expand on the title.
I'm trying my best but it feels like I'm constantly failing and it's exhausting.
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I can relate to this quite a lot, it can feel super exhausting and hard cant it?
Has something in particular happened that's made these thoughts and feelings come up?
When I feel like im constantly failing, I try to do something I know im good at like maybe a very simple drawing or making a particular crochet item. just something that shows I can do something right. Is there something that you like to do or feel that your good at? maybe you could try to do one of those activities and see if that helps abit?
@Eden1717 @scared01 no I don't think there's anything in particular aside from everything...
@scared01 that's a good idea but it's bigger than that.
My issue isn't that I won't do things well, it's that I'll do them wrong and something bad will happen.
That whatever I do will lead to something bad that wouldn't of happened if I'd just not done anything.
That everything I do makes things worse for me and everyone around me.
thanks for clarifying abit more. I can imagine that would make things quite difficult for you. Have you got anyone to speak to about these things at all?
Im wondering if maybe writing down one thing you would like to do, and the possibilities of what might happen , then try to disprove them?
Hey @Tiny_leaf
It must be weighing so heavy on you to feel like all of your actions will negatively impact you and the people around you. Thinking about all the things that can potentially go wrong is so painful and scary.
You must feel exhausted but I'm grateful that even though this must be taking up so much of your energy, that you continue to share how your feeling with the community.
would it be helpful to speak to a psychologist about whats happening? im not to sure if your aware but kids helpline offers free weekly counselling sessions either on the phone or through webchat if speaking to a psychologist in a clinic etc is possible atm
@scared01 I'm still trying to find a psych... I really, really need one but most of the ones I've seen had made things worse anyway, so me even continuing to look is probably another mistake.
KHL has never been that helpful to me, I think my case is too complex for them or something. Idk I might try, I'm just not hugely confident in them.
maybe with kidshelpline you could give them ago for now and maybe for each session you could pick a focal point e.g the feeling like failing and bad things will happen.
sometimes if we try to work on everything all together it can make it worse and just feel really overwhelming whereas if we pick what we want to work on first (of course this can change if something comes up youd rather talk about!) it can help to work through each thing one at a time- if that makes sense?
Let's play "convince the counselor I'm not kidding when I say I can't use the phone"!
Like gee thanks for reminding me how effective that thing I can't do is.n
sometimes I can answer it if I know its important (like a specialist) but I would rather text or email and will do so unless absolutely necessary. it makes contacting support services such as an online counsellor tricky but the khl counsellor I had was understanding and was perfectly ok with chatting on webchat.
@Tiny_leaf I never know if I am hungry for a basic life instinct it seems pretty hard to identify... i hope you find something good to eat that isnt too difficult.
@Tiny_leaf is there something in particular this is about? Sorry idk how to be helpful.