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Hi guys I havent posted on here in a while as I have had sooo much go on within the last few months.
I have had numerous surgeries to try and get better, but none of them have worked, my body is not reacting to chemo the way the doctors hoped. I had an appointment yesterday an the doctors pretty much said im dying.
I lost my friend yesterday in a bike accident. My brother has been in hospital the last three weeks and to top it all off my cousin still isnt speaking to me.
My life is so complicated at the moment.
I want to live my life have fun but being told im dying has set me back a lot and i dont know what to do.
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Hey @Talitha93, I'm so sorry to hear that chemo and the surgeries you've braved your way through didn't go as the doctors had hoped. Hearing this news must be extremely hard to deal with. Do you feel like speaking with friends or family members about you're feeling after receiving this news? Staying close to your family and friends at this time is important and their support can be extremely valuable. And please make sure you take all the time you need to deal with everything that's going through your head at the moment. 

 

This story on Reach Out was written by someone who had received similar news to you and talks about how they felt after being told they faced terminal cancer. They also talk about how they processed the information and how their outlook on life changed. You might like to read it to see another person's perspective, but don't feel like you have to have the same mindset or feelings as they did. There's no right or wrong way to process something like this.

 

Have you or your family been in contact with CanTeen? They can offer a lot of support and services that can help deal with it all.

 

The tragedy of your friend passing away yesterday must have been so difficult to hear, especially with everything you're already going through. If you're finding it hard to handle the grief that comes with losing someone close to you, this fact sheet might help. It goes through some different strategies that you can use to work through your feelings. Remember to give yourself some time to grieve each day and speak to your friends and family about how your feeling. Talking about loss with people close to you and remembering all of the great times you had with your friend can really help.

 

Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story with us.

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Hey @Talitha93 - good to see you again. If I remember correctly when you had last posted you hadn't told you parents/family about your diagnosis? I think now more than ever you need their support - are you family now aware?

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Hey @Sophie-RO
My mum knows but thats the only person in the family that knows an she just doesn't know everything that is going on but she knows most of it. Just with everything happening i dont think she could handle something like this.

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@Talitha93 sounds like its been very overwhelming for you lately. It's sad to hear you've tried seeking treatment for cancer but it's not helping.

You know its ok to reach out to your mum for support, do you think you could talk to her how overwhelmed you've been feeling lately?

Hope you get better. Thinking of you.

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Hey @Talitha93 - great to hear your mum knows about your health. You need her now - it's her job to look after you - not the other way around. What are you protecting her from? I'll bet she would hate to think of you dealing with this all on your own.

Please also remember that there is redkite, a specialist support service for young people like you with cancer - they are also very good on mental health.
http://www.redkite.org.au/support

Please make the most of the supports available to you - you deserve it and you don't need to do this on your own.

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sorry guys been in hospital again -.- 

 

 

@Creativegirl12 i just feel that there is no point in going through all this chemo if its not going to work. so shold Injust give up and live my life now? 

i know i can reachout to my mum but she has enough going on and idont want to make things worse for her. 

 

 

@Sophie-RO i am just scared for her as she has sooo much going on herself that this will just push her over the edge and i dont know how she will handle it all. she hasnt been coping these last few months. 

sometimes i feel that its better to do it on my own than tohurt the people i love by bringing them into my dramas. 

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If you no longer wish to receive treatment you should really discuss this with your doctors. They will be best positioned to give you advice relating to your condition.

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@Kit- I spoke to him in my last visit and he said he wont push me to do anything i dont want to do. its just a hard decision 

 

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It is a hard decision - one that is too hard to make on your own... The reality is that you are sick - by not telling your family does not mean they are spared of you being sick - you are still sick they are just prevented from supporting you in it - and they will find out eventually anyway.

Have you contacted RedKite yet?
http://www.redkite.org.au/support

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