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MaryRO
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Hey @mochi

 

It's normal to be nervous making the decision to get married. I can understand that there may be a lot at stake here if things go wrong. In saying that we don't always know what the future holds and we can only make our future decisions by what is happening right now and what has happened to you in the past.

 

My question to you is has your partner treated you in the way that you want to be treated. You say that you know deep in your heart that he loves you. If he loves you and he is also treating you well, is there anything else you would like from a partnership? What do you think is missing that's a deal breaker? No one is ever going to be a perfect person in our lives. The ones we love will generally challenge us the most and move us out of our comfort zones the most. Is this relationship with your fiance the relationship you have wanted for so long?

 

Can you take yourself back to the time when you said yes to getting married? What was it like for you? Why did you say yes? Why have you been with your partner for 2 years? Can you write down the reasons why you think your relationship will work out long term? Also, can you write down why is your partner the best partner for you? These questions might help you see things from a different point of view than you might be looking at the situation right now.

 

When you have the list of positives, do they outweight the negetives? Please remember to breathe and to ground yourself as well. Remember it is very normal to become nervous before getting married and this is just a time of reflection. 

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