Hi @abcdefg
I’m sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time and have so many things going on in your life. It must be really challenging and I’m so proud of you for reaching out for some support – it shows a lot of strength and courage!
It sounds like a really difficult time at home, I know you said that you don’t have any release and wanted to see if you are or have considered speaking to someone about this like a GP or a mental health professional? I’m wondering if you and your family have any support with your mum’s breast cancer diagnosis? The Cancer Council has some really amazing resources and services that might be helpful to look into as well.
You mentioned that your brother is going through a hard time, and I understand how hard that must be for you. I know how much it impacts me watching my siblings go through difficult times! Is your brother safe and is he receiving any support?
Your friend is very lucky to have such a caring and supportive person like you in her life. Creating boundaries and distancing yourself is important. While I understand how much you want to help her and be there for her, you need to remember that your wellbeing should always be prioritised and it’s important to know that there’s only so much you can do.
You mentioned that she has been suicidal in the past, is she safe at the moment? It must be really challenging knowing that you are the only person that she’s talking to. I can only imagine how much pressure that puts on you and it would be hard for anyone – especially when taking in to account how much you’re already going through.
To encourage a healthy friendship, its really helpful to communicate how you’re feeling so you don’t feel hurt and they can understand how to support you. This article has some steps about how to tackle difficult conversations.
Even by reaching out for some advice shows how much of a caring and thoughtful friend you are! It is important to let her know that you want to be there for her but that you are also going through a difficult time and that your friendship should have a balanced nature where both voices are heard, and the support goes both ways. In saying that, I want you to remember that there’s only so much support that you can provide her and that she can provide you, while it’s good to have a friend to talk to, it’s important to know that neither you or her can provide the same support as a trained professional. It would be really good if you could encourage her to see a GP or other mental health professional. I know you mentioned that she doesn’t want to speak to someone, do you know why that is?
I also just wanted to see how you’re feeling after sharing this and how you’re going? There’s so much going on around you and sometimes it can be hard to put yourself first but it’s really important that you do.
We are always here for you and I want you to know that you are not alone.💜
