Hey @Gold_Lion
It sounds like it must be really confusing and frustrating for you to have these feelings for her while she’s in a relationship. It’s so good that you have shared this with us and spoken to your grandmother and friend about this, it’s a really great way to gain some clarity over the situation.
I also love speaking to my nan about things and getting her advice, sometimes grandparents can give the best advice and it’s so special that you have this relationship with her. How did you feel about what your grandmother said and after your conversation with her?
It sounds like you have a really good friendship with her and it must be so nice to having someone that you can connect to. It’s so awesome that you can make her laugh, making people laugh is such an amazing trait to have! 🙌 Ahhh ….. missing the opportunity to say something is always the worst, I always get home and think of a really good reply or opportunity and wish I could rewind. How do you think she would have responded or taken it if you said it?
I know you mentioned that you think she might also be attracted to you and has shown you signs, has she ever said anything to you or expressed how she feels?
While it’s so great that you’re wanting to get other opinions from people about what they think, it’s important to remember that every relationship and situation is unique. Have you considered writing down some of the pro’s and con’s that could arise if you were to express your feelings to her? This may help you gain some clarity over what you value most and how you could get through this.
I certainly understand what it’s like to be in the friendzone and while it’s not ideal, things can change and it’s not always a bad thing. I’ve previously been in a relationship that occurred after being in the friendzone – in a way it was so ideal because we were already such good friends and it made our relationship better. I’ve also remained just friends with some people and while it doesn’t seem to be ideal in the moment, I wouldn’t change it because I love having them in my life and really value our friendship. I just wanted to share this with you, so you know that being in the ‘friend zone’ doesn’t always have to be permanent and things can change.
It’s okay if you haven’t found a way to make yourself feel better about the situation yet, there’s so many strategies and things you could try. Do you have any hobbies or interests that you enjoy doing that takes your mind of things, or maybe something that you may be interested in trying?
Again, I just want to remind you that it’s so great that you’re sharing this with the community, close friends and family, and to remember that we are all here to support you through this. 💜
