My grandparents have opposing views on what i should do and kinda think the best option is in between both. Grandad thinks i should just say something like “if you ever find yourself single, im an option.” I dont think being that blunt will really make anything better, maybe worse. Grandma thinks i should just go with the flow and wait it out. Definitely would be the safer option to play it out and see where it goes, but i think a little flirty comment here and there would let her know im interested without straight up saying it. The conversation definitely helped me shine a light on the situation and really step back and think about my feelings and whether i was just smitten in the moment. I havent been lucky in love, only had a couple girlfriends in school and they definitely were not love. Im still in my early 20s so plenty of time to meet new people.
I love her laugh too so making her laugh always feels good to me as well. The comment i have no idea how she would’ve taken it as i havent said anything like that to her. Couldve been anywhere from a light “aw thanks” to a full blush and embarass feeling. Maybe even have made it awkward. Ill never know.
She hasn’t said anything about her feelings towards me. Ive just picked up things that some people on the internet might call signs, could be total bogus and would definitely change from person to person if there were any signs
I haven’t physically written down anything but ive thought about the pros and cons through an, as unbias filter, as possible. Cons greatly outweight the pros and the pros that go with that may not last because of the cons. So ill probably just wait it out, keep being good friends with her, not overstep boundaries as to not make her feel bad about it with her boyfriend.
I totally understand that friendzone isn’t a coverall term. Just the friendzone i dont want is the one where she couldnt possibly see herself with me, even though that could change over time.
I do like to play music, can kinda get my mind of it for a while. These feelings have diminished quite a bit now as i am talking with girls online, one especially, but im keeping the door open in case.
Im glad to open up about my feelings, some people probably think i share too much too easily haha. If anyone is reading this that’s going through a similar situation, i hope this thread can help you as well. 🙂
