Hi again @BvB,
I think Green_Ghost had excellent advice about having a frank conversation. I completely understand wanting to avoid conflict, I also tend to ignore situations in hopes they pass, but it seems like (G) doesn’t want to let this topic go. Maybe have a conversation with her to confirm that yes, you are still friends with (D) and you value the friendship and do not wish to cut ties. I know it may not feel that way, but you do not have to justify your friendship with (D) to (G), and in all honesty, I think no matter what you say, (G) will most likely still be confused and hurt. Maybe ask her if you can stop making (D) a point of discussion if it will only cause (G) further upset, especially since you are trying hard to keep the friendships separated.
Having a time frame for an emotional response is always hard, and I'm happy to hear you were able to tell (G) you hadn’t had enough time to think about things. I would suggest taking some time to yourself to think about how to have this conversation with (G), and also take some time to relax since you’ve been under stress for a long time over this situation.
You should be proud of yourself for how you’ve been handling things so far, this is not an easy situation in any sense—wishing you all the best! 😊
