Hi @BvB,
I’m sorry to hear that you’re being caught in the middle of a friendship breakup and that you feel like you’re being pressured to choose a side. It’s never easy to choose between your friends, especially when it seems that you’re not directly involved in what went down with them. It is understandable that you’re feeling confused and overwhelmed because I can see that you want to stay friends with both of them.
I agree with @Olive_Penguin and @Green_Ghost about making clear boundaries and communicating honestly with (G) about what you’re feeling and about how you want to keep your friendship with (D). Like @Olive_Penguin said, (G) will most likely still be confused and hurt, but you’ve done what you can. At the end of the day, you’re your own person and you decide who you can be friends with. With that, you also don’t have to rush yourself talking to (G) about this. Take your time to think about things until you’re ready to have a conversation with her.
It sounds like this has been causing you lots of stress to the point that you’ve been experiencing stomach pains just thinking about responding to (G)’s message. Engaging in self-care is really important right now. Not only this will help you feel better, but it will also clear your mind and think about how you’re going to approach the situation more calmly. I wonder if there are steps you could take to make yourself relaxed and calm? For me, I like going to the beach or watching my comfort shows when things get overwhelming.
In any case, I wish you all the best and I hope everything gets better soon. Sending you lots of love and hugs 🤗💙
