Hi @BvB,
That sounds like quite a tough and overwhelming situation, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling stuck and stressed about how to move forward. It’s clear that you care deeply about your friendships with both (D) and (G), which is making trying to navigate this that much harder.
If thinking about responding to (G) causes physical pain, it might help to let them know that you care but need some time to gather your thoughts. A helpful way forward, suggested by @Olive_Penguin and @Green_Ghost is being clear with your boundaries and letting them know you need time to process and respond when you're ready.
Like @Calming_Waves, I also believe that practicing self care is important. This is as prioritising your own well-being can give you the space to recharge and process everything without added pressure. I find the small things, such as having a cup of tea or watching a bit of my favourite show, to be helpful in moments of overwhelm.
Either way, I'm sending hugs and wishing you all the best! 😊
