Hey @BvB
How are you doing?
I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through—it sounds like such a tough situation to be stuck in the middle of. It’s clear that you care deeply about both (G) and (D), and navigating their fallout while trying to stay fair must feel overwhelming.
It’s okay that you can’t remember everything exactly the way (G) does. Memory is tricky, especially when emotions are involved, but what matters most is how you handle things now. You’re not responsible for fixing what happened between them, and it’s okay to set boundaries if this situation is impacting your mental health.
If you feel comfortable, maybe let (G) know how much you value her and that you truly empathize with her hurt, even if your memories don’t align perfectly. You can also gently explain that while you’ve seen positive changes in (D), you’re not asking (G) to forgive her—you’re just trying to navigate this in a way that doesn’t force you to lose a friend.
Take your time responding to (G)—it’s okay to prioritize your own well-being. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s all anyone can ask of you. 💛
