Hi @Green_Ghost!
First of all, I just want to say that it is completely valid to feel this way, and I really admire your self-awareness. It sounds like you’ve been doing a lot of growth and reflection lately, and it makes sense that you are noticing what is and is not working for you in therapy.
It is understandable that you’re feeling conflicted about your psychologist. Therapy should be a space where you feel heard, supported, and like the focus is truly on you. While self-disclosure can sometimes be helpful, it makes sense that you’re feeling frustrated if it’s happening too often or in a way that takes away from your sessions. Forgetting key details about your career path and even your name must also feel disappointing — therapy is such a personal space, and feeling like you have to repeat yourself constantly can be exhausting.
You mentioned feeling scared to bring this up, which is completely understandable. Advocating for yourself in therapy can feel really awkward, especially after a year, but you deserve to have a therapeutic relationship that works for you. A good psychologist will be understanding when you communicate how you’re feeling — it is their job to ensure you’re getting the kind of support you need. You might start by focusing on the specific things that are impacting you most — perhaps bringing up how often you have to repeat your goals and how that makes you feel, or that you’d appreciate more focus on your concerns rather than self-disclosures. An open and honest conversation can be daunting but you deserve the space to have your concerns heard.
That said, if you address it and still feel like something isn’t clicking, it’s okay to explore other options. Therapy is such a personal journey, and sometimes even a therapist who was helpful at the beginning may not be the right fit long-term. The fact that you had a great experience with the trainee counsellor shows you know what works for you, which is an important insight.
Whatever you decide, please know that your feelings are valid, and you deserve support that truly meets your needs. Wishing you the best as you navigate this! 💌
