Hi @Green_Ghost, that sounds really frustrating that you feel like your psychologist is not listening to you - given how hard it is to find a psychologist and how expensive they can be, it is not great to end up with a psychologist who seems to not be doing a great job.
I have had a similar experience of having a therapist who I knew wasn't great for me - she wasn't trained in treating my specific problem (OCD) and she would get caught up on things that I didn't think were too relevant, but I was hesitant to find another therapist because I had been with her for a while and I knew it would be hard to find another good one, plus I am also a people-pleaser so I didn't want to offend her by leaving. Long story short, that was a few years ago now, I was forced to find a new therapist when she moved away and I have since found an amazing therapist who is trained in treating OCD and I have made so much more progress.
Like you, I have studied psychology so I knew what to look out for in a therapist - this can be a blessing and a curse though, because I sometimes find myself thinking "should she be doing this? Shouldn't she be doing XYZ instead?" and overthinking about whether my therapist is doing the "right" thing. But from the examples you've given, it seems quite clear that you are not getting the support you need from your current psychologist. Just think - the few moments of discomfort when telling your psychologist that you'd like to see someone else are definitely worth the benefits that would come from seeing a therapist who you connect with more and who is more committed and engaged with you.
I wish you the best!
