About hmm789

hmm789 · ‎21-01-2019

Thankyou @Jess1-RO He isn't accessing any professional help at the moment but he does write down things which helps him. Its been an on and off thing for a while brought out by family issues that he has. I have friends to help me but I don't feel I should tell them everything because it's a personal thing for him and I don't really have the right to tell my friends about it.

hmm789 · ‎21-01-2019

So I myself used to struggle with depression but I'm doing pretty good now. My boyfriend however has moods and times where he snaps and he shuts down and doesn't talk to me or starts to push me away. He harms himself every now and then and I don't know what to do. Ive told him he can talk to me and he knows he can but he never does. I tried to tell him things about myself because with me I felt like no one understood me and couldn't relate to me so letting him know that I understand, I thought was helpful. I somehow forgot though that everyone is different and it turned out that telling him didn't help because it came across that I had it worse which was entirely not my intention at all. Anyway I don't know how to help him because I think he wants space when he doesn't feel well but then if I do give him space it seems like I don't care Someone please give me some advice

hmm789 · ‎17-07-2018

Hey guys the other day I heard something that I would love to share with you all. I found it really helpful advice and I use it all the time now. Sometimes people stress about a lot of things but sometimes there are things that are out of your control. So next time you are stressed, stop and ask your self can I control this situation, and if there is nothing you can do then there is no point in stressing. Also, do what works for you, some people may like to go for a walk or watch TV or read a book or play games. When you start to feel stressed just take a step back and take a break then come back to it. :)

hmm789 · ‎07-07-2018

The community on these forums has been so amazing to me and if anyone ever needs anything I am happy to help you out because I know what its like to feel like people don't understand what you're going through and I hope my experiences can help people realise that they are not alone and I know how they feel and it's all going to work out in the end.

hmm789 · ‎07-07-2018

Aww I'm happy to hear that. I started back at work after a little holiday and I am feeling positive and optimistic today :) @Esperanza67

hmm789 · ‎07-07-2018

Hi everyone, I used to struggle with depression and an eating disorder but now in this moment in time i feel free of them. I know it can be a never ending battle, but at this moment in time I have no suicidal thoughts, I am back to eating normally, I feel happy, calm and I can't remember the last time I self harmed. Everyone on these forums have been absolutely amazing and helped me so much. I appreciate you all and hope that you know you are all amazing people and have changed my life for the better. I have loved these forums because I could just let everything out and it felt like a safe place. It lifted a weight off my shoulders sharing my problems with others and them providing me with possible solutions. I want you all to know you are worth it and can get through anything you want to. A special mention to some of the people who have helped me along the way @scared01 @mrmusic @N1ghtW1ng @Erin-RO @Bree-RO @letitgo @Bee @Birdeye @basketofmonkeys @Jardin @DruidChild @TOM-RO @Esperanza67 @lokifish I am forever grateful of you all :D

hmm789 · ‎18-06-2018

Hi @N1ghtW1ng I briefly spoke to my friend about it who helped me through my pregnancy scare. I didn't use the term eating disorder but I did say to her I skip breakfast. In frustration, in the mornings I have also briefly said to my mum "I don't eat breakfast" but she doesn't think much of it, she just says "well thats not good you need to eat breakfast" My dad also has a go at me but I tell him that coffee is breakfast which he doesn't agree with but I don't think he can be bothered fighting

hmm789 · ‎18-06-2018

OMG I totally agree! I hate it so much when people say you need to eat, its like agh its not that simple and yes when people say what do you mean your so skinny, omg don't even get me started. @Fluffsar

hmm789 · ‎17-06-2018

Hey @Eden1717, I hope you're doing ok, I can see this post was from 2017, I would love to know how your doing now. @Fluffsar, I can relate to you too! I will skip a meal but then later I will eat and I just feel shit but I can't stop. My parents are starting to pick up on it too they have started to try to take me out for breakfast and that just so I eat. I love that quote about just because your know you're colour blind doesn't mean you can see colours. (Warning TMI) Last month I had a pregnancy scare. My period didn't come for 2 months and I was so paranoid that I looked in the mirror and thought I was so fat that I had to be pregnant. Turns out I just wasn't eating/didn't weigh enough to be able to get my period. I took a test and it was negative thank god but anyway I still struggle with eating, it just seems like such a chore and sometimes I can go without it but others I get this urge and can't stop. Maybe we can help each other, I never feel like other people understand me, do you feel this way?

hmm789 · ‎01-06-2018

Yea, I've told my friend and I'm going to buy a test in the next few days when I can. @scared01

hmm789 · ‎01-06-2018

I downloaded them but I'm yet to use them @Bree-RO. I don't really like meditation but I have done yoga which was fun, connecting your mind and body to be healthy :) I like an app that plays rain and creek sounds which I find calming and I often use that while I'm studying.

hmm789 · ‎31-05-2018

Thankyou for your advice I will look into that, @Bree-RO I'm really stressed about assignments and tests all due so soon but other than that everything is pretty good. I self harmed a week and a half ago but not since then so YAY! I just feel so tired all the time and everything takes so much effort but I'm managing myself ok :)

hmm789 · ‎30-05-2018

Ok so this post might be a bit too open so if you don't like to read that stuff please don't read on. But I need to involve the gory details for the story to make sense. Ok so about 2 months ago I lost my virginity and it was going well but after a bit he decided he wanted me to feel what it was like without a condom so I was like hmm yea ok just for a bit tho and then after like 4 seconds I pulled out cause ya know that aint safe. Anyway about a week later I got my period and was like yea sweet but now its been 63 days since then and I haven't had another period. Mine aren't regular so it's hard to tell sometimes and I don't eat regularly either so I'm not sure if that has caused them to stop but yeah. I'm really scared and confused, I could go buy a test but I'm so scared because if it says positive it all will become real and I honestly can't live with myself if its real. My mum said if I ever got pregnant she would disown me and I am certain that if I was and I told her she wouldn't change her mind. I've told my best friend I'm late but we are both fooling ourselves saying we don't think I am but yeah omg I'm so scared because if I'm pregnant I have no clue what to do I'm way too young to have it so sorry if anyone has any negative fews about abortion but yeah thats a lot of money and I don't know how to discreetly take lots of money out of my account. Anyone got any advice?

hmm789 · ‎30-05-2018

Thankyou @lokifish @Esperanza67 Some great advice that I will take with me :)

hmm789 · ‎25-05-2018

@N1ghtW1ng I haven't talked to them about tough things that I can remember. I know anytime i break up with someone I will eventually have to tell them and then they want to know all the details but thats completely different. Lately they have been "snapping" at me and literally saying whats wrong with you but they aren't saying it concerned, the tone translation is like "stop being a bitch". Anyway I can just feel them getting more frustrated with me and it's just annoying I just want to talk to a psychologist without having to tell them I'm their third child and I feel like they just can't wait until we all move out.

hmm789 · ‎24-05-2018

hey @TOM-RO to be honest I'm not sure yet, I don't know how to even bring it up with my parents.

hmm789 · ‎23-05-2018

@Birdeye It could be a possible approach, we don't hate each other but we don't exactly share everything with each other either.

hmm789 · ‎23-05-2018

Thanks @basketofmonkeys I think I would definitely benefit from talking things through with a professional but its just a matter of telling my parents so they can get me there and everything. :/

hmm789 · ‎21-05-2018

hey @mrmusic I have had a great day today very productive, I handed in an assignment which I thought I had heaps to do on but it turns out I didn't. :) Sorry to hear you aren't feeling well, I think that there's something going around at the moment. Hope you feel better soon :)

hmm789 · ‎20-05-2018

I did consider calling but I didn't want my parents to hear me on the phone; the walls are very thin. @Bree-RO He is the middle child but he has the tan skin and he always goes to the gym and stuff and he's a neat freak his room is so tidy and my mum is always saying to me and my other brother why can't you be more like him. I don't think he can hide his emotions well so they are quite sympathetic towards him as well because he can get riled up quite quick and he's sometimes scary when he's angry. I don't know I've just always felt like the odd one out in my family because there is a 5 year age gap between us and I'm always the annoying little sister who is standing between the "grown ups" having fun together.

hmm789 · ‎20-05-2018

Thanks @Bree-RO I have tried the KHL a few times but it has always either been full or I have had to wait a while to get through to someone and eventually just closed to tab. My school counsellor can't be trusted and even if I decided to trust her I have to walk through the admin to get to her and the admin staff are all very gossipy and would tell me dad as they work with him and I want him to find out on my terms not by some gossipy rumours he heard at work. My brother keeps going to my parents about all these medical things like he will say I've been getting heaps of head aches or the other night he told them he was having chest pain type things and they told him to see a doctor and he thinks it's just stress anyway I envy how open he could be with them. but he's basically the golden child and I feel like they will think if I say how I'm feeling that I'm too young to know what I'm talking about or I'm being dramatic. I don't think they will take me seriously. I'm 16 and since I'm the youngest and only daughter they treat me like I'm 8.

hmm789 · ‎20-05-2018

I wish I could have someone to talk to and just be there for me when i'm feeling really down and I know I have no one to blame for that except myself. I haven't told anyone how I'm feeling because how can I explain it to someone when I can't even explain it to myself. I don't think anyone would understand what I'm going through unless they were going through the same thing. I don't want to tell my parents because it would destroy them, so instead I bury it inside but it's destroying me. Everyone just thinks I'm being lazy or unproductive but I just physically feel drained and all I want to do is stay in bed until this time in my life is over. I wish someone would notice some sort of sign that I'm not ok and confront me but I know I would probably still just say I'm fine.

hmm789 · ‎17-05-2018

Hi @Jardin, I feel the same, I love it when people can understand what I'm going through but its also disheartening because you know how shit it feels and you would never wish that on anyone else. Yeah it's amazing, my friends mum is in her 50's and she has gone back to Uni to study and get a qualification in a field she is really interested in so it's never too late :)

hmm789 · ‎16-05-2018

hey @Jardin thank you for sharing, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I'm not in the exact same boat as you as i'm only in year 11 but I can definitely relate to most of the things you are saying. I have 2 older siblings and one of them got an OP 3, so I have high standards to live up to. Anyway I completely feel the same way about the future, I know exactly where you're coming from it's scary deciding something that you will have to do "the rest of your life". But on a much happier note I hope you know that there are so many pathways to get into what you want to do and so many people change their mind during courses and they switch and that's totally ok you can do that if you ever want to. I see you mentioned that you don't know what it is you want to do and it's so hard especially at this age to pick a career choice that you will want to do in the future. The only advice I can give you is to find what makes you happy or what your passionate about and follow that, make a career out of it. :) Also If you ever get the urge to get out of the house then go for a walk or run around or near the house, sometimes fresh air can be amazing. Anyway sorry for rambling on hope I helped.

hmm789 · ‎14-05-2018

Hey @basketofmonkeys I'm fine now, just wrote 3/4 of an essay in a night hahah. Sometimes I can't focus at school usually when it's writing, Idk why I just concentrate better at home. Looking at my week, from Thurdsay- Sunday afternoon i was busy and I just was stressing myself out because I have had no motivation to do any work and sometimes it just so happens that I do my best work last minute but yeah not a good habit to get into. Anyway some nights I get overwhelmed with even the smallest things and sometimes I'm just upset and break down. I'm trying to adjust and work my way around these times. It's my own fault really cause I won't let anyone know what's going on. Anyway thanks for listening

hmm789 · ‎14-05-2018

@Birdeye There's ups and downs, right now I feel like going into the bathrooms and just breaking down but yea anyway that's my problem :/

hmm789 · ‎13-05-2018

hi @FootyFan26 I know how you feel, sometimes i will feel this big motivation to get things done (though it does leave pretty fast) and other times I just can't be bothered, I feel drained even if I haven't done anything. Sometimes it works for me to think about what I want to be in the future and because I am in year 11 most of the subjects i am doing are prerequisites so I just remind myself what I want to do and that I need to work towards it. Like you I'm very social, I see my breaks as time to hang out with friends cause i just spent 2 hours in class why continue, anyway Idk if this helps but some people I know have tutors which is good because they are basically like teachers "forcing you" to do work but they come to your house and you can get things done then relax later knowing everything is done. Just a suggestion, I know they do cost money, let me know how your going maybe we can even help each other, did you say you were in yr 11 too? what subjects are you doing?

hmm789 · ‎13-05-2018

I'm still in High School :D

hmm789 · ‎13-05-2018

hi @mspaceK I completely understand how your feeling, I had a similar situation where I really liked this guy and he was so laid back and funny but when we started to date he went really weird and became possessive and clingy (He literally got so upset with me because i said a movie star was good looking his exact words were "I'm disgusted") anyway he became really touchy feeling and I legit just felt so anxious, I felt like I couldn't breathe, I had no space, he was just smothering me, so it took me a week to work myself up to say something to him but in the end I just said to him, look I'm sorry but I'm not into the whole PDAs (Public displays of affection) and he was understanding and backed off so sometimes all it takes is just a word to them and if they don't understand then they aren't worth your time.

hmm789 · ‎09-05-2018

Sorry @Bree-RO I will remind myself of your guidelines before I click post next time Thankyou for those links I will check them out.

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