I think this is such a great activity! Better perspective taking is something I know I've really struggled with recently so it's awesome to read about how others turn what can initially seem like a negative experience into something they can get something (no matter how small) positive out of :) Tell us about a time you turned a negative into a positive? Recently I got some feedback on a pretty major assignment that was a little hard to hear and made me feel like my work ethic was being questioned. This was pretty hard for me and quite upsetting at the time because I really value the opinion of the person who have me the feedback and have quite a close and ongoing working relationship with them. This experience was something I was actually able to bring up with my counsellor and they helped me to realise that perhaps the feedback wasn't actually as bad as I thought it was. My counsellor helped me to notice that person who have the feedback and I have very different communication styles and that I was quite sensitive to some of the things this person said but they didn't necessarily mean anything harsh by it. This experience has really helped me to be more aware of different language and communication styles and how these can be interpreted - which is a really helpful thing to remember when you think you'll hear something that could be a bit upsetting :) What positive things have you learnt about yourself through difficult times? I've definitely learnt that I am someone who can get quite easily overwhelmed in the moment but that I do have the strength to overcome these things, move on and be happy again. There have definitely been days where the thought of just getting out of bed is mentally and emotionally exhausting - but you know what, what goes up must come down isn't always a negative statement. I always try to remember that no matter how high my anxiety may rise, it can't stay up there forever, it will come, I will pull through this and smile again. The best is still to come! :) and it's so awesome and reassuring to find strength in these moments
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Hi @scared01 I was reading your post and found it really relatable. I've seen a few counsellors and found I didn't really 'connect' with them until the 3rd one. I can understand how this could probably have you feeling a bit down - it made me feel like maybe there was just nothing they could do to help me and that was pretty upsetting. But I think that's important to notice that there will just be some people you naturally click with more. It sounds like you were able to recognise this with the 2 you found triggering. Sometimes just feeling comfortable with someone can be a real advantage in the therapeutic process. If it's a continuing concern, do you think bringing this issue up with the therapist and discussing it openly would help? It's really great to hear you've been able to stick with seeking help when you feel you need it though!
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