Hey @Mayour  I'm definitely really glad there is open communication, I believe it has really helped. I definitely think the counseling session will be good for me. That is a good idea, I am seeing him soon to discuss, I will definitely keep that in mind. It has been tough, it honeslty feels like im a rollercoaster. ... View more

Hey @Bingo1234    It is super tough. I've had a lot of uni assignments due so they have kept me busy. Yeah it definitely will be, I had a triage session on Wednesday and I have a proper session this coming Tuesday, I think it will be really good for me  ... View more

@wanderingwasp @Bingo1234 @ayrc_1904 @WheresMySquishy @Mayour    UPDATE:   Hi! He contacted me yesterday to check in to see how I am doing, I was really grateful he did as I didn't expect to hear from him till the day he wanted to see me. We spoke most of the day and spoke about us, and other stuff not relating to us. Although the chat was really good I am still so confused. He still isn't sure what he wants and I am so scared I'm going to be led on (he wouldn't do it intentionally).   My gut is saying it will be okay but the uncertainty is still making me really uneasy. The conversation ended last night, he is busy with assignments at the moment so I don't think I will hear from him till Saturday, which is okay.   He is concerned if we get back together things will go back to how they were. I told him I wouldn't bother trying to fight for us if I wasn't going to try.   It is so hard fighting for someone you love and not knowing if they are willing to fight back.   I am in the middle of trying to book a counseling session, hopefully for today to get another perspective      ... View more

Hi @Mayour,   Thank you for writing back to me. It's okay, these things happen. I'm trying so hard to rest but it has been really difficult which uni etc, it is all getting a bit too much. Thank you, that means a lot.    I think so too and yeah that is very true. I have been around my friends a bit and they are checking in on me which is really nice.    I really hope it turns out well.   Thanks again  ... View more

Hi @WheresMySquishy, thank you! I am so glad I found these forums!   yeah, it has been really tough. I was lucky enough to speak to him and he very much admitted he didn't communicate with me properly and this is why for me it came as a shock as I had no idea it was coming. The reason for the break up is something that can definitely be worked on.    It's nice we are on good terms, not sure if we are friends but we are able to talk which is good but not atm because he wants space. Hopefully, this weekend brings some more answers for me and the outcome etc.    Thank you so much for your kind words  ... View more

Hey @OnionBoy    Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about your concerns? If you haven't this may relieve some stuff and will be a good way to talk through what is on your mind and what is bothering you. There is nothing wrong with a break, it may help give you time if you are unsure about the relationship. I think it sounds like a sit-down conversation with your boyfriend may be a good idea, communication is key.   I hope you are okay      ... View more

@ayrc_1904 Hey    I am doing okay! I hope you are well also!! The other advice from the others has been really helpful and it has been good to know people have been through similar situations, obviously the situations aren't good but it is nice knowing people understand.    Yeah exactly and that is something I need to work on with my emotions, It definitely out of my control at the moment but I can't let it take over my day and ruin it. That is so true, I just got back from a full day at uni but I am now treating myself and going to watch my favorite TV show which will be nice!   100% and it is the downs in a relationship that helps us learn and build the relationship. Exactly right and that is how the conversation with him went when I saw him on the weekend to discuss, so I definitely think that is a good start. The break has definitely been a learning curve and I have learned a lot which is good!!   Thank you so much, my gut feeling is saying it will be good so I am going to try and stick with my gut to get me through this week till I can see him again.   Thank you so much    ... View more

@Bingo1234    Thank you  !   Yeah, it is super hard and that is the thing I am struggling with most at the moment. I'll get there eventually and it is only a couple of days left of waiting. Will do and thank you!   ❤️   ... View more

@Bingo1234    Thank you so much    I can imagine, I'm so glad it worked out for you both! Yeah, he does, unfortunately, he doesn't know too much about mental health and how to help. When we sat down and spoke yesterday he asked me more about it and things he can do to help which really meant a lot to me. My mental health isn't too bad, it just spiral if I bottle things up or if everything becomes a little bit too much. I have contacted my work counseling service to speak to them about some personal issues, I am really trying.    That is completely fair enough. I gave myself a couple of days before contacting him as I was really hurt but now I think it's just the uncertainty that really makes me want to talk to him and try and work through it. But, I am respecting he needs space and I am really looking forward to seeing him on the weekend.      ... View more

Find an awesome winter gif. What do you like about said gif?   Whats your favourite cold day activity I love being curling up in bed with a hot drink and watching a good TV Show or Movie   What is your favourite thing about winter? I love being able to layer up my clothing and it is so much easier to sleep in winter   What is your favourite way to warm up in winter? Curling up in bed   What's your favourite season and why? Stuck between Autumn, Winter, and Spring!!! I love the rain and I also love leaves and flowers ... View more

@lokifish Omg your birds are cute!! I've got a budgie, sun conure & a cockatiel!! ... View more

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Hey @Bingo1234! Thank you for replying! It is really hard hey? A lot of what you said sounds really similar to my situation. I feel really lost and although the conversation went really well yesterday and I feel in my gut there is still hope, it is the uncertainty of waiting for him to decide that is really making me uneasy. He spoke about future stuff to me yesterday and other things that really made me feel that he is considering it. I have some mental health issues and unfortunately, they took a toll on the relationship at times but he was not communicating to me how he was feeling so when he broke up with me randomly, it really hurt.    I think going forward if we did get a second chance I think our communication needs to be better and it is something I very much want to work on. I really really hope when I see him this week it also goes well. Communication is something that can definitely be worked on so I'm grateful it is a small issue like that and nothing major.   Did your boyfriend cut contact with you when you broke up?    I'm so glad everything worked out for you both, hearing it did make me smile and gave me hope!   Thanks again  ❤️   ... View more

Hey @wanderingwasp. Thank you for taking the time to write back to my post. Knowing people have been through similar situations has really helped me cope a bit better. Everything you have said has been really helpful, thank you! I am going to starting journaling and writing down my feelings daily and see where I go from there.   Thanks again :)      ... View more

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1. 9 hours sleep 2. Family and Friends being supportive 3. Being able to seek help when needed ... View more