I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over 2 months. this is my first real relationship. i am 18. he is 17. it has all been so good so far! and super fun :) but i am starting to feel the stress of it and i dont know if i should be or not. I worry about how long our relationship will last. i am scared that one day he will wake up and spring it upon me that it is over. even though i dont even think he is that kind of person. i worry that i am the only one putting in effort. because i always message first and am naturally very clingy. thinking now that i should take a step back and let him take the lead even though it makes me anxious i should probably practice it. i also worry that he does not like me as much as i like him. i like him so much he has become my everything. i want to be with him all the time. i just dont know if he feels the same way. a friend said that he probably isnt affectionate in that way but he probably does feel the same way. he loves it when i am honest and real with him but i havent told him this because i am scared.  should i just take a step back and not let him take over my life because of the stress? obviously i still want to be with him im just wondering about so many things right now because this is all new to me haha   xx ... View more

Hello Everyone :)   first of all i am in a pretty good place at the moment but we currently have year12 exams. im not too stressed but i was just reading an article about self-confidence from reachout and it got me thinking. i have always had pretty low confidence which has gotten the worst of me at times. im just wondering... the article said to look at what you have already achieved. I have achieved some great results this year and am on target to get into the uni course of my desire. However that doesnt stop me fron thinking that i might fail a subject. I tend to do worse in exams than at school... so whats to say i fail my exams. English is most what im worried about- its my hardest by far and i often fail the exams... Can someone give me a bit of advice and explain this self-confidence thingy hahah thanks!   ... View more

Hi everyone   So school starts up again soon and im starting year 12. I am a worrier and have the slightest bit of depression. Last year i spent the whole year feeling crap and stressed about everything! even if it didnt matter i still stressed about it. it definetly tore me down mentally... so this year i want to be more positive and happier. even when i remind myself that it is okay and there is life after school no matter what happens i cant help but feel a little stressed from time to time. Does anyone have any mantras or advice that could help me? Thanks xx ... View more

hi   we are on break for school holidays and my whole family- which is usually pretty distant- has been up in each others hair. and every fricking argument we have turns into a screaming match and then my mum just wants to sit us down and sort it out. i have younger siblings and she doesnt want them to copy my behaviour. but it is fricking annoying. i am so mad at myself all the time. i wouldnt say im fat but at the moment i feel ridiculously fat and stupid and i want to lose weight. i am angry at myself coz i keep worrying about stuff that isnt important. i think im just stupid. i dont know exactly what is wrong and i certainly dont know how to fix it. my mum thinks im getting depression. i want her to leave me tf alone coz i feel stubborn    so much for starting the year off on the right foot what a joke   SOS ... View more

So i have anxiety, and i just get anxious about school. And i dont know how to stop, or what to do, or anything. I just think that ill never get anything done, and that i never achieve anything. For example, i will get an assignment that is due in three weeks and my first reaction is "shit". Whilst trying to stay on top of other subjects i cant help but think ill never get this stupid assignment done. It becomes such a negative and makes me lose sleep and get upset. And really all that has happened is i have been given an assignment. I have read all, well i think all, of the pages on this webstite and they helped but i still need more help. Also my head hurts all the time. Like when i try to do anything it feels all crammed and sore and i cant concentrate. Any ideas? Personal advice? anything?! ... View more

Hi   i am currently in yr11 @ high school doing top classes and i am suffering from bad anxiety.  i stress all the time, a lot of the time without even noticing.  i am going to the school counselor but i dont know how much it is helping i just stress about school work, study, tests/assessments, and time... having enough time to get stuff done i always want to accomplish everything in one day and i get really disappointed in myself when i dont i let everything get on top of me to make things worse, my great granddad died today and i failed my driving test in an automatic which apparently is the cheats way so i am very disappointed   i hate this... coming to school, getting work and study and pressure and stress, going home and doing it all night and weekend, and then going back to feel like youve achieved nothing and then getting more   i dont know what will help but if any one has any ideas, im all ears ... View more

So i have a friend... well not really a friend anymore... i dont know where we stand. We have known each other forever... we went to playgroup together and primary school and now high school. She hasnt been the nicest friend to me: she always thinks my life is boring, and never says my hair looks nice, or compliments me on anything, she just complains about my life for me. And we dont really have the same beliefs or values. Ive always found it hard to tell her my opinion about anything so i always agreed, even when she called people fat or ugly, which i really hate. She is also very secretive, like when i ask her about her weekend she would say "oh i did nothing" when i know she had to have done something... i am kind of like, well what nothing have you been up to, like what have you been doing that is nothing. We would sit at lunch in silence and just eat, i guess because we became distant and had nothing in common. And because she was so secretive. Then i wondered why we were even friends. I hated lunch because i didnt talk to anyone, and i knew other people i knew were having so much fun. We went on camp, and other girls i knew came with us. We became closer and i decided that i would go and sit with them when we got back to school. I had had enough!! So when we got back to school i invited this girl to come sit with us. Maybe i offended her because she thought i didnt want to be friends with her. I just wanted other friends, nicer friends. Ok, maybe deep down i didnt want to be friends with her but i couldnt tell her that. Anyway, now she doesnt tell me anything, she ignores me, makes rude comments to me and thinks that i am a bad person, i guess. It is really annoying. I sent her an email to say that i just wanted her to be happy and that i was happy with my new friends. I dont know if she got it. And it doesnt bother me that she is being rude. It just causes a lot of tensions. I can tell that she feels socially awkward because she laughs loudly and smiles too much! And i want to know what she is thinking... if she blames everything on me, or if she is happy, or is she wants things to go back to the way they always have been. I want her to know that she can talk to me. I dont want to change now... i love my friends, but i just want to know if she doesnt like me, and what i should do cause i hate bringing it up with other people. Sorry for writing a lot! ... View more

At times, i often feel overwhelmed. I dont think i really pressure myself to do well at school... but i do want to do well. I have a balanced life, but sometimes i feel like a failure. When things get on top of me, i feel restless. And usually the things are homework/assignments. Instead of doing them, i was told to avoid them. But doing that does not help either. I have now learnt to procrastinate which doesnt help.   Please tell me how i can stop feeling guilty when i do not spend all weekend doing school work... and how i can deal with feeling overwhelmed. (i have looked at the page on this website but is has not overly helped) ... View more

I am frustrated and feeling crap because… -         I have homework and assignments -         Going to school is a waste of time and is just causing me more stress and pressure that I don’t want right now -         Teachers are pressuring me -         I am pressuring me -         I feel lonely, even though I’m not -         Nothing is going my way -         I just want to yell -         People are not understanding me -         I am getting angry at everyone -         I have no friends, or I at least feel this way -         I am super tired -         Dancing is becoming tiring and boring coz it is easy and/or exam work that I wish would end -         Mood swings are continuous   Maybe none of this would happen if I was positive, but right now school feels like it is weighing down my life and I cannot get out of this rut. I feel hopeless and majorly angry. Please help, and please don’t just say to open my eyes. I have tried that and look where it got me. I want to be reassured that it will all be ok – right now I am losing hope! ... View more

I am on school holidays... and am trying to be social because i am not the most socially active person around. My best friend is having a birthday party and all of a sudden, i dont want to go. I dont know how to tell her that i dont want to come. And i dont know why i dont want to go.   Can someone please help me by pointing out ideas. I want to get my mind sorted out... but i dont know how or what to do. Why do I even feel like this? ... View more