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05-11-2017
09:32 PM
Oh man it's been ages, I think it was The Girl on The Train? Name the last social media platform you checked
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05-11-2017
08:59 PM
1 Kudo
Hi @bumblesheep, I'm so sorry to hear what you're having to go through at the moment. Violence and abuse is never okay and I'm shocked to hear that kind of reaction from the CPS worker. Is there a manager or supervisor of theirs that you could contact to talk about how they handled your case? It sounds like this is unfortunately something you've had to do before, but I did first of all want to stress that if there's ever a moment where you or you're siblings feel like you're in immediate danger to call 000. We've got some info here on domestic violence support and it breaks down where you can get some support with this by state, so hopefully one or more of the resources will be some help. Also, have you ever been in touch with Lifeline or Kids Helpline before? Let us know how you go with those, we're here if you need to talk things through some more :)
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05-11-2017
08:39 PM
1 Kudo
@N1ghtW1ng having met you and modded with you for the last year (plus like an actual million years on the forums together before that) I can say with absolute confidence that there are definitely a lot of things you're very good at. I know that's super hard to hear in moments where you're feeling really down on yourself, but you're a smart, passionate and funny person and I think you'll make an amazing teacher :) Just because the road to get to where you want isn't a straight path doesn't mean it isn't meant to be the path you go down, as other people on this thread have said you can always repeat the until if things go pear-shaped. Best of luck for your exam tomorrow
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05-11-2017
08:10 PM
All g @redhead, it's good to see you getting back to it (and honestly I'm kind of jealous of all that sleep you've gotten :P) Something good today was a trip to IKEA.
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05-11-2017
08:06 PM
3 Kudos
1. Jumping back on the forums after a little while 2. Finally got a frame for a print a have that I've been meaning to get for ages 3. Having a fairly productive day
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26-10-2017
10:09 PM
5 Kudos
Thank you so much for all your help and advice tonight @Kim-SARC, @CaroSarc, @Moya and @Jacinta-SARC :D
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26-10-2017
10:08 PM
2 Kudos
omg all such great plans @CaroSarc @Moya @Kim-SARC
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26-10-2017
10:07 PM
1 Kudo
@Jacinta-SARC that sounds like an awesome wind down routine!
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26-10-2017
10:02 PM
3 Kudos
This has been a really interesting, informative chat and now it's just about time to wrap up! Here's one last question: We’ve talked about some tough stuff tonight, so let’s finish off with some self care. What’s something you’re going to do tonight to look after yourself and wind down? :)
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26-10-2017
09:54 PM
3 Kudos
How do you think the way we talk about and deal with sexual assault at a wider level could change for the better? In soooooooo many ways lol The main thing is if it were more common for people to not participate in victim blaming. Even when someone says they believe a survivor, but might then question exactly how bad it could have been or how much they 'deserved it' based on how they were dressed, how much they had to drink, how well they knew their abuser etc. Another big thing personally is how often graphic depictions of sexual assault are found in media, I hate having to worry about whether it's going to come up when I watch a tv show or movie when there's really no reason to do it outside of shock value.
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26-10-2017
09:31 PM
2 Kudos
and another question for everyone to have a go with too: Sexual assault is never a survivor’s fault, but feelings of self-blame are very common when dealing with the aftermath of assault. What advice would you give to a survivor struggling with self-blame?
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26-10-2017
09:23 PM
That's a really interesting question @j95, I'd like to know the answer to that one!
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26-10-2017
09:20 PM
6 Kudos
What do you think the people in a survivor’s life can best support them in their recovery? Believe them Be supportive of them seeking help but don't push too hard - with gentle help they will find support that works for them in their own time Don't press for details - we only have to share what we feel comfortable and safe sharing Be non-judgmental of triggers and communicate about ways to accomodate them when they happen
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26-10-2017
09:12 PM
4 Kudos
@scared01 Learning to cope with triggers from trauma can be a slow and not always straightforward process, but from what you're saying tonight and what I've seen you post before you've made some great progress :)
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26-10-2017
08:59 PM
1 Kudo
Glad you could make it @letitgo!
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26-10-2017
08:58 PM
4 Kudos
What are some healthy ways we can cope with those triggers and hopefully reduce their impact in the long run? Something that's been really helpful for me is knowing that it's okay to step away and take a moment to do something for myself. I think for a lot of survivors there can be a feeling that you somehow don't deserve to take that time out, but it's so vital. On top of that, and I feel like it sounds a little silly, but just being aware of exactly what a triggered response looks like for you and what's likely to set it off has been big for me. It does take a certain level of self awareness to recognise it in yourself and by recognising it you can start to work on changing the cycle.
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26-10-2017
08:49 PM
2 Kudos
@Jacinta-SARC absolutely! I've seen different experiences of dealing with trauma written off as somehow being wrong in some way, which is so unhelpful when you're dealing with something like assault.
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26-10-2017
08:45 PM
2 Kudos
Not a problem at all @scared01, you've got to do what's right for you :)
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26-10-2017
08:45 PM
Welcome, @FootyFan26!
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26-10-2017
08:44 PM
1 Kudo
@Kim-SARC I know examinations can be really difficult for a lot of people after assault, are ways on top of communicating your experience to the person doing the exam that survivors can make their exam experience a little easier?
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26-10-2017
08:41 PM
5 Kudos
@CaroSarc the effects can be so broad and so individual to each survivor. I don't think it get's talked about enough that what might be a "normal" reaction for one survivor may be completely different to another.
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26-10-2017
08:38 PM
3 Kudos
Hi @j95, @Moya and @scared01! Glad to have you hear :)
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26-10-2017
08:30 PM
6 Kudos
Hi everyone, welcome to tonight's infobus session :) tonight we'll be joined by @Moya and @Kim-SARC, who are two of the doctors at the Sexual Assault Resource Centre (SARC) in WA, and @CaroSarc and @Jacinta-SARC, who are both therapists with SARC. We're going to be talking a bit about dealing with some of the issues that survivors of sexual assault can deal with in the long run. This is a pretty heavy topic, so please remember to take care of yourself as you post. If you're feeling distress at any point during the chat, I'd really encourage you to use the urgent help link found on the top right hand corner of the screen and you can also find sexual assault specific resources by state here. Let's get started! As I mentioned, Tonight we’re looking at some of the things that survivors can experience in the months and years after assault. What are some of the things a survivor might deal with long term that you feel doesn’t get talked about much?
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18-10-2017
01:27 PM
9 Kudos
(CW: Discussion of sexual assault) How do we deal with the effects of sexual assault that come months, years or even decades later? On Thursday 26th at 8:30pm AEST we'll explore answers to that question together here. When the topic of sexual assault comes up, often we focus on the immediate aftermath, talking about the assault itself and what can be done to help a survivor mentally, medically, legally and socially in the short term. While making sure this part of a survivor’s journey is as supportive as possible is so, so important, the next part of their story tends to get less attention from those around them. Most survivors experience a kind of ‘ripple effect’ in their lives in the long term, which can look different for everyone. Some have to find ways to manage the day-to-day triggers that can come from our society and the media we consume, while others might also contend with mental illness (such as PTSD, anxiety and depression) and physical health issues. Something that’s been bringing the experiences of survivors up in a major way has been the MeToo movement. All over social media, survivors have been sharing their stories as a way of showing the people in their lives how unfortunately common experiencing sexual assault or harassment is for many. This is an important conversation, but for a lot of survivors (including myself) hearing so many stories of assault and deciding whether or not to share their own can be a pretty difficult experience. The fact that we’re talking about it now is great, but what can be done to support those posting their #metoo stories? What can we do as survivors look after ourselves and live with our experiences in a way that still lets us lead happy, healthy and fulfilling lives? These are big questions, but on Thursday 26th at 8:30pm AEST we, along with some of the counsellors and doctors from the Sexual Assault Resource Centre (SARC) in WA, are going to try and find answers to them. Remember to treat yourself with kindness and compassion, what you’ve experienced isn’t your fault and you deserve to feel supported. If this post has made you feel in any way distressed, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with Kids Helpline or Lifeline and a list of sexual assault resources nationally and by state can be found here .
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