I have been in an abusive relationship for the past 4 and a half years. Everyday and every moment I think its going to go away or get better. But it doesnt. My husband has been verbally abusing me and the rest of his family and it happens when he picks up the bottle and starts to drink away. In fact, I am aware he binge drinks however he has informed me in a number of occasions that he is not an alcoholic and this situation can change. Over the past 4 years, I have relentlessly listened to empty promises and how things will change but nothing has ever happened. Thats incorrect actually... Change happens but its only for that moment and for a very short period of time. Does this sound familiar to anyone?   His family is very supportive about the situation and they keep telling me let us know what you want to do? I am not sure what to do?... I have tried the angry wife, the loving and sweet wife ..the AA meetings.. the counselling and  every way that one can think off  in the book., I have always feared that one day he would lay his hands on me. And yesterday, he pushed me to the door and told me to get out of the house (which is his mantra when he is drunk)... I have been told  by him and my in laws that the house is also mine and I should not go. And I did not leave the house. To my good luck, my father in law arrived and he saw what his son was doing and was hurting me and managed to diffuse the situation. At the moment,  there is a sharp pain around the left shoulder blade and along my right arm. And he comes in the morning, apologising to me about this telling me he is sorry. .. again!!!!!!!!   I know that I actually fear for my life and the life of my precious  two and half year old son as I am terrified for him. I do not want him to  think that it is ok to abuse or for him to be abused in the process.  I am totally lost and am so unsure what to do and how to deal with this situation because whatever I do never happens.. as I have tried to leave but he told me to come back  .. and due to family pressure I did go back .. however now I realise I might be in this rutt for the rest of my life...!!!!   Can anyone help me ? ... View more