Help! Bad haircut!
Hi lovely Reachout community,
I write to you all today seeking advice regarding a reasonably trivial situation, but one that has me stressed out nonetheless!! 😂
So I got my haircut yesterday and am pretty unhappy with the outcome to be honest. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing inherently 'wrong' or 'bad' with this haircut per se, it's just not what I wanted, and is not a haircut I like on myself at all! I got a significant amount of length taken off and there are definitely things I like about my haircut (ie my fringe and face-framing!!!), but I feel like I really wanted much more shape, layering, and texture, whereas my hair has been cut pretty straight and blunt. I did show her pictures and was pretty specific at first but I feel like miscommunication occurred somewhere along the line! Therefore, it's not really the fault of my hairdresser, but probably more my own fault for not continuing to vocalise my thoughts while she was cutting my hair!
I've obviously been chatting to some people in my life about this, and a couple have suggested that I ring my hairdresser to have a chat and see if they'd be willing to try and fix it a little. Now, I am a very conflict-averse person and am introverted, so this suggestion is something that immediately makes me feel intensely uncomfortable! I'm wondering what yall think and whether this is a reasonable course of action or not! I really could just suck it up and deal with it, after all, people get bad haircuts everyday! But on the other hand I really don't like my hair at all right now.
I'm overly aware that this post is much more trivial and light-hearted than a lot of other posts on here, so thankyou for reading! I'd love any advice! 😊😂
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It's really frustrating going in to get a haircut and then not getting the result we wanted, this has happened to me in the past. While it's comforting to know that hair does grow back, it's still really frustrating receiving a bad haircut result. It's really good that you have identified some things that you like about your haircut, but you have made it very clear that you are not entirely happy with the result you received which is so valid.
I myself do not like conflict at all, and I used to really struggle standing up for myself, and I had really bad anxiety. I think if you are not completely satisfied with your haircut, you should voice your concerns to the hairdresser and ask for it to be fixed, or go see another hairdresser.
I hope this helps you in making your decision, but I really think you should speak up about it.
- Matcha_Toad 🐸🍵💚
Thankyou so much @Matcha_Toad for reading my vent and replying!! I really appreciate hearing this advice from someone else who is anxious and conflict-averse. I'm overly aware of the fact that just because I would find something really uncomfortable, doesn't mean it something I shouldn't do. My assertiveness and standing-up-for-myself skills could definitely use some exercise and I know that this could be a great opportunity to have a go at this!
Hi @Scarlet_Locust 😊
I don’t think it is trivial at all! These feelings can come up in all kinds of situations especially if you are introverted. As an introvert myself, I also struggle with conflict and speaking up about things. It might seem like no big deal to those who are more confident. You are paying for the service and you can say you don’t like something but it can be terrifying! Honestly, the more you are exposed to something the easier it gets. It’s so easy to just avoid things because it is less scary but you might benefit from just giving it a go, even if that’s next time you go to the hairdresser. Hairdressers (and other customer jobs) want you to be happy because they are providing you with a service. They won’t care if you might not like something. I always worry that I’m making their job difficult if I say that I’d like a bit more hair off or could you do some more layers etc. but they don’t mind and it is what you are paying for! Most often they will ask you if they have cut enough off or if you are happy with it and that’s always a perfect time to be brave and be honest.
I don’t think it’s a bad idea to speak to them especially if you aren’t happy with it! If you feel you can try then I would! 😊
Thankyou so much @Be_the_Light for your reply, and thankyou so much for validating and afirming my post, I really appreciate it! I do agree that this could be a really good opportunity to practice being assertive! I'll see how I go 😂
Also, I just wanted to mention how cute your username is! I love it!
