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It gets worse
Hey everyone me again. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make total sense I’m rlly struggling atm. So for those who saw my previous posts I recently broke up with my gf and was then later told that she may want to get back together but it was unclear. I wanted to follow up for all this asking. I asked her abt and it turns out it was completely wrong. She doesn’t want to be with me and doesn’t think a relationship will work. I feel miserable even worse than the break up. I feel betrayed by the ppl who told me she still liked me and I feel so hurt that I got myself to be vulnerable when it was wrong. I feel like I have been extremely disrespectful to her and ik I deserve better but all I feel is hurt. I’m so tired and want this to be over.
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Hey,
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. 💔 Breakups are tough enough, but having mixed signals and feeling betrayed makes it even harder. It’s completely understandable to feel hurt and confused right now.
It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid. You trusted people and opened up about your emotions, which takes a lot of courage. It’s not disrespectful to be vulnerable; it’s a sign of your strength and honesty. The situation just turned out differently than you hoped, and that’s incredibly painful. 💔
Allow yourself to grieve and process what you’re feeling. Surround yourself with supportive friends or family who can offer comfort and understanding. It might also be helpful to talk to a counselor or therapist to work through your emotions and gain some perspective. 🧠💬
You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and in time, this pain will ease. Focus on self-care and doing things that make you feel good. 🌟💪 You’re not alone in this, and it will get better with time. 💙
If you need to talk more, we’re here for you.
Hey @Forest_falcon
Welcome back! I do remember your posts regarding your recent breakup. I am genuinely sorry that you have been told a lie; it seems as if the people around you wanted you to believe something else for their entrainment, which is completely wrong for them to spread a lie about something that meant a lot for you and has caused you pain, you do not deserve this and to me, it looks like they do not value you. It breaks my heart that people can lie about something they knew you cared about and do that while you were in a vulnerable position. What you feel is 100% normal, and if I were in the same position, I would feel betrayed and hurt as well. We all go through heartbreak, and unfortunately, we can't avoid it as it is part of life and the human experience, but it does pass, and you will heal from this.
You don't have to go through this alone. Do you have any close friends or family members you can trust?
Alternatively, if you would like to chat with someone one-on-one, you can do so via Reach Out Peer Chat.
During this time, I highly encourage you to practice some self-care. That can be activities you enjoy doing as hobbies or even watching something that you know will make you laugh or feel better—just engaging in something that will take your mind off of things. While going through my most recent breakup, I started socialising with people from my tafe, going out with them, working a bit more and keeping busy with things that made me feel good about myself. I am not going to lie; there were times that I would feel lonely and sad, but I pushed through, and a significant part of that was my support system, so if there is anyone you trust and you are close with and have a good relationship, please reach out to them as well.
Again, I am sorry about this, but trust me, time will heal everything, and this will pass. Nothing lasts forever 💜
I hope this helped you a bit. For now, take care of yourself. We are always here to support you and listen to you. 😊
Hi @Forest_falcon 🩵
I am really sorry to hear that you've been misled regarding your relationship. It's very unfair, so you have every right to feel betrayed.
I am also sorry that it seems like there aren't many trusted people around you to ask for support from at this time, which must be difficult. Just know you are always welcome here at ReachOut, and Kids Helpline is available if ever you need.
please take care of yourself during this time, engage in some self care if you feel up to it. I know that always makes me feel a little bit better when I am feeling sad.
sending love 🫶🏻
Hi @Forest_falcon it’s nice to see you in the community again, though I’m sorry to learn that things have become more challenging for you.
It’s completely understandable to feel exhausted and to want things to improve. Break-ups are tough enough without dealing with misinformation and false hope from others, so it makes sense that you’d feel hurt and betrayed.
Have you found anything that helps you cope with the pain? If you’d like some idea’s and are up for the read, we have an article on coping with a break-up here. I hope you find it helpful.
Additionally, do you have anyone supporting you at the moment? You shouldn't have to deal with this on your own.
Remember to take care of yourself and take things one day at a time. As they say, “This too shall pass.” ✨
Thank u for the response currently I'm not sure who I can talk to as the person who told me this was someone I trusted when it came to this.
I am glad you got the clarification that you were seeking. I am sorry however, that the outcome has only led to greater feelings of sadness. I am also sorry to hear that you received false information regarding her feelings - your feelings of betrayal are incredibly valid. This false information has resulted in unecessary feelings of misery and it is very unfair, particularly as the source was someone you trusted and confided in. I hear that you also feel as though you have been disrespectful toward your ex, and while I imagine this situation is draining for the both of you, you only chose to bring up the topic once again based on a false pretense - which you received from a trusted friend.
You deserve to let go of this situation in order to find peace, this situation has been dragged along for quite some time and has been severely taxing on your mental well-being. You deserve to be wanted and celebrated as you are, and you deserve to have friends who do not create false scenarios which ultimately hurt you in the end.
The ReachOut community is so happy to hear from you, and we are here to support you. How have you been managing these heavy feelings today?
Looking forward to hearing from you 🤗
You are most welcome. If you feel comfortable sharing, how are you feeling today? 😊