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TW : Friend in danger, breakup if I speak out

Never thought I'd return here. But I need help.

I have a friend who turned 17 this year, and I hopped into a discord call with him and his friends. A 19-year-old was showing them adult artwork he'd drawn, and when I called out how wrong that was, they defended him. It turned into a pretty bad fight, and I said I'd leave for a week to think and then come back. On top of that, my friend has really inappropriate emojis of his online representation in his server, and I want to make people aware so he'd stop. But... I'm scared. I truly view him as a friend and I know he'd break up with me if I did it, and on top of that, I'm worried he'd use some of the argument against me.

I don't know what to do...

SkunkFanatic
SkunkFanaticPosted 04-06-2023 07:26 PM

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Chloe-RO
Chloe-ROPosted 04-06-2023 09:39 PM

Hi @SkunkFanatic ,

 

I can hear that things are a bit heated right now. It is understandable that you want the best for your friend, especially as you sense that something may not be right.

 

It is so brave of you to post what is happening and how you feel about it.

 

Considering how much you care for your friend, your concerns is probably a necessary conversation to have. The "success" of these conversations usually revolves around timing. For example, the first time you shared your concern was during a live discord call. It seems like their reaction was quite a defensive one. However, if you were take your friend aside in the future, and say something along the lines of, "I really care about you, and this is why I need to tell you something. As much as I don't want it to be the end of our friendship, I think it's important that you know....."

 

A guide to tackling this difficult conversation can be found here

 

I hope you find a time and place to speak to your friend.

 
 
SkunkFanatic
SkunkFanaticPosted 04-06-2023 11:25 PM

There was a 19-year-old showing him adult material-

 
 
 
Iona_RO
Iona_ROPosted 05-06-2023 11:22 AM

Hey @SkunkFanatic 

I can totally understand your concern and think it shows how much you care about your friend's safety. It's so important to be safe online and to call out anything you think is inappropriate. Well done for looking out for yourself and your friends in a situation that I imagine would've been quite daunting. How are you feeling about it? Is this something you have experienced before?

 

You may want to have a look over at the eSafety website. They've got lots of information and adivce about keeping safe online and what to do if you'd like to report something. Have you been able to talk to anyone else about what happened?

 

I'm going to send you an email too, so look out for that coming your way soon 😊

 
 
 
SkunkFanatic
SkunkFanaticPosted 05-06-2023 11:15 AM

Turns out the dude was 17 and they were just being teens. My friend was just lying to mess with him

 
SkunkFanatic
SkunkFanaticPosted 04-06-2023 07:31 PM

wish editing was a thing yo could do here
was also wanting to make people aware of the older user possibly grooming him

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