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Daughter and father issues

Hi guys,

first off I hope everyone is doing okay.

Right now I am feeling the feels and my heart feels heavy between my dad and I.

Some of the stuff he talks about cuts my heart open and makes me feel angry that I grit my teeth - Which rattles around the back of my head. I feel as though Dad and I are not able to make connection. Feel as though, there's always negative energy when I'm around him and after being around - I feel so emotionally drained. Feel as though he is 'not' there for me even though he says that he is. It's a weird feeling/experience to be in and it really is dragging me down. I am starting to wonder if I should move on .... Even though this makes me feel so guilty inside and lean towards my mum's new friend who really does sound optimistic to be around. ( I do feel angry that mum betrayed dad, especially in the past but after talking to mum last night, some shift of mindset has changed) Has anyone else experienced situations similar? 

Riskybuiz
RiskybuizPosted 14-03-2022 02:31 PM

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Blue_Reindeer
Blue_ReindeerPosted 14-03-2022 10:42 PM

I am currently experiencing almost the exact same thing with my fathers and my relationship 

 
 
Philippa-RO
Philippa-ROPosted 15-03-2022 02:25 PM

I'm so sorry you're having a hard time in your relationship with your father @Blue_Reindeer - if you want to talk about it some more, please feel free to - we're here to listen and to support you. 💛

You're also very welcome to start a new thread if you'd like to.

 
 
Riskybuiz
RiskybuizPosted 15-03-2022 01:26 PM

Yeah, it feels empty, hey. Make sure you make yourself your own priority and take care of yourself first ❤️

 
Iona-RO
Iona-ROPosted 14-03-2022 04:09 PM

Hey @Riskybuiz

 

Thanks for sharing how you're feeling with us, it sounds like you're having a pretty emotionally draining time with your dad at the moment. Do you live with him or just see him sometimes?

 

It can be really hard to be aware of how sometimes parts of our relationships with our parents can feel like they aren't the best for our wellbeing. Well done for checking in with yourself and acknowledging that things don't feel right for you. I'm wondering what kind of thing does your dad talk about that makes you feel sad and angry?

 
 
Riskybuiz
RiskybuizPosted 14-03-2022 04:31 PM

See him sometimes, but when I do, I have nervous energy inside me. He talks about stuff that makes me feel, I guess abandoned and rejected as his daughter, the thing is, he is not aware of how hurtful his words can be to me.

 
 
 
Taylor-RO
Taylor-ROPosted 14-03-2022 10:38 PM

Hi @Riskybuiz

 

Awww I am so sorry to hear that you feel like you can't make a connection with your Dad. It must be so hard to see him and to feel abandoned, rejected and to have nervous energy 😞 Do you think you would ever tell your dad how you are feeling? What would that be like for you?

 

Please know that we are here to listen ❤️

 
 
 
 
Riskybuiz
RiskybuizPosted 15-03-2022 01:24 PM

I've tried too, but I still don't think he really understands and he is unaware of the stuff he says might be hurtful to me. Or if I do point it out, he doesn't take it seriously and uses a sarcastic tone

 
 
 
 
 
Courtney-RO
Courtney-ROPosted 15-03-2022 11:20 PM

Hi @Riskybuiz I'm sorry to hear that your dad doesn't really understand how much his words hurt you. It sounds like such a difficult situation and I can only imagine how overwhelming and heartbreaking it must be for you. If you are up for a bit of a read, we do have an article on Family Conflicts which could be helpful. But I also just want to remind you that you're not alone and we're always here for you 💜

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