actually kinda annoyed right now
so i'm pretty sure i have sensory issues and they've been getting really bad recently. i had to fold and rip up paper for school and i had to stop halfway through because it was so uncomfortable. textures really suck and so i've been gagging on nearly every meal i've eaten. a couple days ago i was eating my meal and i threw up in my mouth but i swallowed quickly so my dad wouldn't get mad at me. he still saw and immediately started yelling at me. he said "could you stop that?? you're not gonna be able to eat any food!!" it really confused me because how am i supposed to control my gagging?? and also how does me gagging affect my ability to eat other foods? anyway it seriously pissed me off because tell me why my family is smart in every regard accept the issues that i fucking have. what am i supposed to fucking do. i tried to bring up my issues with my mum once but she said i just wasn't a strong eater like she was and i would just have to get better. not only this but i fucking hate eye contact it makes me so so uncomfortable but my dad screams at me about how rude i am for not making eye contact. grrrr this is really annoying me
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Hey @angriest_star
I'm really sorry you're dealing with all this. It sounds incredibly frustrating to have these sensory issues and not feel like you're being understood or supported by the people around you. Gagging, texture sensitivity, and discomfort with eye contact aren’t things you can just control or "get over" by trying harder, and it must suck to feel like you're being blamed for things that are really outside of your control.
You’re not being rude by not making eye contact—there’s a big difference between cultural expectations and personal comfort. If it makes you uncomfortable, that's a valid feeling, and it’s not your fault that you react that way. Same with the gagging—it's not like you’re doing it on purpose to be difficult. It’s just your body reacting to something that feels wrong to you.
I can see why it’d be so frustrating when your family doesn’t seem to get it. It sucks when you're dealing with something really hard and instead of getting support, you're being blamed or criticized for things that are out of your hands. It’s not your fault that your sensory issues are getting worse, and you don’t deserve to be yelled at or told you're "just not trying hard enough."
I think it might help to try to explain to them again, but with a little more detail, maybe in a way that makes it clear that this isn’t something you can just fix or power through. Have you tried explaining it as something that feels physical, like a reflex, rather than something you're doing on purpose? Sometimes, they might not understand unless it’s framed in a way they can grasp better. If that doesn't work, I’d say it might be a good idea to talk to a professional who could help you manage these issues and maybe mediate a conversation with your family about it, so they can see how it affects you and why it's so tough.
I get that it's tough right now. You're doing your best, and it's not your fault these things are so hard for you.🙂
Hello @angriest_star ,
Sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time at the moment in terms of the discomfort that you get from ripping paper as well as the the gag reflexes thay you get from your food. Also sorry to hear that you parents doesn't seem to be understanding what you are going through at the moment as well and are berating you on sometime that is not within your control. I feel you as well I have an issue with hearing the sound of velcro ( it always give me a shivers and I get a bad headache if I hear it for too long). I would recommend following the steps outlined on this article: 5 ways to get your parents to really listen to you, might be of use to you if you want to try a different approach in discussing this matter with your parents. Also have you seen a counsellor in your school on this matter? Or anyone you trusted?
In any case, I wish you the best of luck and hope that his helps and do reach out if you have more concerns 😊
Hello @angriest_star,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with the online community. From what I see, I take it that it's hard to eat meals because you experience a lot of gagging, which sounds pretty challenging. You've explained that it also makes things hard with your parents as well, and with your dad getting upset with this.
It seems like gagging on meals is an annoying experience. Are there any foods that you really like or haven't gagged on? Because you mentioned food texture is an issue so hopefully if you find some foods you don't gag on, it might be a little easier. It also sounds hard that it seems your family isn't accepting these issues, but perhaps it's hard for them also, because it might make them sad to see you facing this problem. Hopefully you can feel better with this little message of mine 😁.
Hi @angriest_star ,
Welcome back to the ReachOut Youth Community. I'm sorry to hear that the sensory issues have been getting worse. I can see how intense they can be for you and that you've been doing your best to hold everything together. Understandably, being yelled at and having your concerns trivialised would make anyone feel annoyed and unsupported.
Seeing how intense this experience can be, I'm wondering if you've had a chance to talk to your GP about this?
I also wanted to let you know that we are not able to provide any medical advice however, Health Direct may be helpful to you. They provide free health advice and can help you find an appropriate local health service.
I hope you're able to find the connection you seek here too!
