honestly I Don't Know
Hi, I don't know how to start this so ill just go straight into it,
I'm mid high school and constantly compared to my older siblings image. Sometimes I feel forced into things I don't want to do just to live up to my family name. As of late I've been on the receiving end of a lot of verbal abuse and I know some people think that verbal abuse isn't that bad so I feel that I can't talk to anyone. Honestly in the last two moths I've been spiralling, my eating and sleeping schedule has been sooo messed up my grades have dropped, I cant seem to hand anything in on time and I've lost a lot of weight. I'm constantly ridiculed to be better and I know it could be worse and that I shouldn't complain but my family's been getting more and more aggressive it feels like I'm suffocating.
Anyways that's me, thanks for listening 😊
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Hi @Jenxen,
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Getting compared to siblings all the time can feel exhausting. Especially when you're doing all that you can but it's still not enough because it doesn't match someone else's version of what it means to be 'successful'.
It sounds as though so many aspects of your life are being affected by this, from your sleep to how you perform at school, and that can be exhausting. You’re going through something heavy, and it totally makes total sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed.
As @Calming_Waves suggested, practicing self-compassion through some self-care could be a helpful way forward. I personally find that the smallest of things, such as going on a walk or doing some drawing, can help calm me down in the moment. As @Jenxen also suggested, reaching out to some hotlines for a conversation could also be beneficial.
All in all, I can tell how hard you've been trying to go through life amidst of that and that's something to be proud of. Please know the ReachOut community will always be here to listen and support you. Wishing you the very best moving forward. 💛
Hi @Jenxen,
I just want to say that I commend your strength for reaching out. You are really brave for recognising that you’ve been verbally abused and for reaching out for support. I hear your worries about how verbal abuse wouldn’t be taken as seriously and I understand how isolating it can be not to be able to talk about it to someone. I want to let you know that you are allowed to speak up and complain about it. It is never okay to verbally abuse someone with the guise of wanting them to be better. It’s sad to hear that most of this is coming from family. I can see that it has been causing you a lot of distress to the point that it has been affecting your eating and sleeping schedule, and consequently your grades.
I feel like engaging in some self-care is important at the moment, so I’m wondering if there is anything you normally do to make yourself feel better when you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed? You’ve already taken a big step in self-care by reaching out and seeking support here in the OC, but I wonder if there are other things you could do to help relax your mind at least for a bit like listening to calming music or going for a walk?
@Marimo-RO has also provided great resources so it may be worth checking them out 😊
Sending you lots of hugs and love 🤗💙
Hi @Jenxen
Welcome to the ReachOut Youth Community! Thank you for your courage in sharing your experience at home. I'm seeing that you've been verbally abused and feel unable to reach out to anyone. I want to let you know that verbal abuse is never okay. You don't have to go through this alone. The community is here for you!
You've shared that you've been spiralling for the past 2 months and haven't been able to eat or sleep properly. Have you had a chance to talk to your GP about this? If not, do you feel able to book in an appointment with your GP?
I'm also wondering if you have any supports for yourself at the moment?
If you're seeking one-on-one support, Kids Helpline can provide free 24/7 counselling support over the phone or online. 1800RESPECT may also be helpful to you and can also provide free 24/7 counselling support for anyone impacted by abuse.
We will also be sending you an email to check in on you further so please keep an eye out for it!
