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I’m pretty lonely:)
Hey people,
I dunno what to say rn probably because im pretty awkward😅. I guess I’ve come here to admit that I’m lonely (finally🙄, I think I’m in denile).
it’s just frustrating for me cos im kinda just a natural loner and although I’m fine with my own company I realised sometimes it gets boring/lonely.
I don’t know how to start a casual conversation or maybe I’m just too nervous to. I’m fine with small talk and im polite and all that but it’s hard for me to keep the conversation going.
sometimes I’m just sick of being the quiet person in the corner who only speaks when spoken to.
👉I need some tips please🥺 Any help would be appreciated. Thanks everyone🙂
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Hey @Tulip_Komodo_Dragon ,
I was and still am in the same situation you're in. All of last year I was lonely but it didn't affect me as much because I guess I didn't see the harms, particularly long term harms of loneliness, and I've been overwhelmed with emotions this year. My best tip is to find something in common with the people you may interact with. Try finding a video game you may both enjoy or a restaurant you both want to try and then initiate a time to do that activity together. It's unlikely the other person will instigate it as they may not understand your intentions or they might not feel a real need to do it. Initiating it can be hard because you may worry about them declining the offer but no harm in trying. Try to get more people involved so you can have the chance to interact with a group of people and avoid the risk of it being awkward if it's just 2 people. I really hope you recover from loneliness and I understand how hard it can be especially when you see others with heaps of friends.
Good luck ❤️
Thank you for the tips🙂. I appreciate getting advice from people with similar issues, it proves how strong we can all be
Hey @Tulip_Komodo_Dragon 🙂
It can be tough to admit you're feeling lonely hey, but well done for being aware of how you're feeling and then reaching out for some support with it 👏
You're certainly not alone in feeling this way. Especially for the introverts amongst us, it can be tricky to find the balance between enjoying time on our own and pushing ourselves to spend time with other people too. We recently had an online event all about loneliness that you might like to have a read through.
I'm wondering if there are some activities you could do with friends that might make it less daunting to have ongoing conversation happening? Maybe playing a board or computer game, or watching a movie together, or playing a sport - depending on your interests. Then everyone is focused on the thing you're doing, there's less awkwards silences and you all have a topic to talk about. What do you think?
Hey @Tulip_Komodo_Dragon ,
I can relate to being awkward haha. It's great that you feel comfortable in your own company but you're right it does get boring, and like they say humans are social creatures. Some things that sometimes help me are just asking people questions to keep the conversation going, showing interest, and finding things in common with people that have similar interests to you.
Thank you😊 Sometimes it's hard to keep convo going because I don't know what to ask but thank you for the help I appreciate it