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Recently, I have started becoming aggressive. This is not normal behaviour for me and I'm worried. I spent two weeks dog sitting and have put six holes in their walls, destroyed two items of furniture and was completely honest with them about it, however, even though I've apologised, I don't feel sorry. I couldn't care less in fact. Understandably, the house owner is going to be taking money from my pay, but none of that is my concern as I'm talking to a therapist and starting to work through it all. My concern is, my parents (I'm 22) don't want to listen to me when I explain that them yelling, getting upset, verbally aggressive and attempting to guilt trip me, only makes my situation worse.

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Not only that, I'm thinking of harming my Mother and the daydreams I have about it make me happy, I get a sick satisfaction from it, I'm unable to talk to them about it as I need to "just stop".

Worst of all, I've been told that I'm being childish because they believe that I'm doing it for attention. How should I go about talking to them so they actually listen?

Poll
PollPosted 07-08-2023 01:48 PM

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Blake_RO
Blake_ROPosted 07-08-2023 02:54 PM

Hey @Poll

Welcome to the Online Community! 

Thank you for being so open and honest with us about what you've been going through, it takes a lot of bravery and courage to do so and we really appreciate it. You should be really proud of yourself for taking such a big step. 

 

It sounds like you have had a lot going on recently and have noticed that you have become more aggressive which is something that you are worried about. It is very understandable that you are worried about this, especially if this behaviour is not normal for you. 

 

I know you mentioned that you will speaking to your therapist about this and will start to work through this all which is really great to hear. I was wondering if your therapist is aware about the thoughts and daydreams that you have been having, or if anyone else was aware? If not, is this something that you will speak to them about when you see your therapist next? 

I know you also mentioned that your parents don't listen when you try to explain that yelling, getting upset, agressive and attempting to guilt trip you only makes the situation worse. This must be really upsetting and frustrating for you, especially if you have tried to explain how this makes you feel. Have you been able to speak to your therapist about your relationship with your parents and how this makes you feel? 

 

I know you asked for some advice on how to talk to your parents about this and wanting to make them listen and I wanted to share this article with you that shares some ways to get your parents to really listen to you. We also have another article which I thought might also be helpful, it shares some tips on talking to your parents about mental health. Do you think either of these might be helpful? 

 

I was wondering if you have any strategies, or things that help you when you begin to feel more aggressive? Whether it be a coping strategy, or perhaps something that distracts you. If you are wanting some ideas about things you can do to help manage, we have an article that shares some ways to deal with anger which you may find useful. 

 

This is a lot to be dealing with on your own and I am really glad that you were able to share this with us. How are you feeling after sharing this? 

 

We want to remind you that they Online Community are all here for you to listen and support you as best as we can and that you aren't alone. 

We have also sent you a quick email to check in, can you please keep an eye out for that? 

Take care and we look forward to hearing back from you soon. 

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