i want to restart life
I still cant find a job (tho am seeking guidance from headspace) and still cant maintain a social life. i have the most niche hobbies (karaoke and iceskating) so difficult to have mutual interests with others and feel motivated to go out (especially since both are decently faraway from home)
feels like someone is hating on me because I woke up this morning to my account being deactivated I cant even get a support ticket like changing your profile picture was so unresponsive last night its not my fault I was indecisive and took 4 attempts. i hate being indecisive but I'm not sure what to do about it other than hope other people embrace it
I hope for better days, be it in a week, month, even years. just not sure which one it'll be
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Hey there @yeah_it_tahtperson
It seems like you've been in one of those frustrating situations in life where things aren't going your way. It must have been difficult and I'm really proud that you had reached out to Headspace and us about these matters. I want you know that even when it may take a while to get a job and get a social life, you're not alone.
One thing I've learnt after my schooling days is that making new friends, and keeping in touch with your old friends can be such a difficult job. I can understand the need for wanting friends with the same hobbies and interests. It can be challenging but you never know when you may come across someone with similar interests. However, it is also important to remember that sometimes you make friends the most unexpected way.
As you are looking for a job, you could try volunteering out on the side, or try a sport or something offered in your local community. I am aware that some of the communities do not have a lot of options, so in those cases you could also try to volunteering online. As you are keen on getting off your laptop, you could also check out organizations that do online and face to face volunteering...
Volunteering may help you get some experience for certain types of jobs and it can also help you meet new people, try out new things as well.
If you're interested you can browse through the link below:
https://govolunteer.com.au/
Hopefully you're able to find a new hobby that interests you...In the meanwhile, I just want you to remember that it's okay if things aren't going as well..it may take time but things will eventually find its way. Remember to be kind to yourself in the most frustrating situations 😁
Hey @yeah_it_tahtperson
Though I know this is not a very pleasant situation, I just want to let you know that you're not alone:)
Me, myself is also struggling with maintaining my friendship with my current friends due to the similar reasons too. I just discovered a new hobby (rock climbing) very recently, and I'm planning on making new friends in the climbing gym to expand my social circle (I'm not a very social person myself but I'll try), and I'm wondering if you have considered this option for ice skating as well?
As for your issue with your LinkedIn account, it's definitely not your fault and I can see that you are handling this situation quite well, by reaching out to Headspace for guidance and us for support:) For what it worth, I used to almost lose my Microsoft account because I took too many attempts to login as well, and that was because my I refused to open my note and review the password I wrote down (in my case, it was my fault though). It took me months to recover my account, but yes, it did get better, despite the amount of troubles it brought. So I must say that I could feel your frustration a lot, and it's not your fault these things happened.
Trust me, it will get better, no matter how long it will take, you will be okay again. The community will still be here whenever you need us more:)
Hello @yeah_it_tahtperson
Sorry to hear that you been having a rough time, getting your LinkedIn deactivated while still trying to find a job is definitely quite nuisance. However, it is good to see that you are getting it sorted with Headspace at the moment.
Also I feel you as well, maintaining a social life takes quite a bit of work on my end as well especially since my hobbies consist of language learning ( but only the more unconventional ones) so there really is nobody to talk to about it or any conversation groups to go and bond with, with the content going over my friends head most of the time.
Personally, most if not all of my friends don’t have any interests that relate with me and conversations are normally more life or joke oriented. Typically, meet up centers around food in new cafes or restaurants or anyway really these days, if that’s something you would like to consider.
In terms of being indecisive that’s rough, I suffer with such an issue as well and it takes quite of bit of mental gymnastics or planning to pursue a given decision. In any case, I found it helpful to plan if possible and if not I typically try not to rush it and not be too harsh on myself when the decision takes longer than expected, so I believe it’s perfectly normal to go at it in your pace.
In any case, I hope these comments were of help and I wish you luck on your endeavours ☺️
@KaizerBiker thanks for your ideas yes i tried to catchup with friends over food but I think most were too busy/not interested which sucks
I respect your dedication to language learning its never clicked with me post-covid
Hello @yeah_it_tahtperson,
As was mentioned by @Green_Ghost , good to hear that you got your LinkedIn back, sorry to hear that food doesn't seem to be an option for you. Apart from the various different activities that @Green_Ghost has commented on, personally another suggestion I have which I had done with friends would mostly be switching around or bouncing around each others interests as a means of trying new things and hanging out ( such as trying each others hobbies and interests), another option I guess would be to try and source out some different experiences that you and your group has never tried before ( such as if you entire group has never tried axe-throwing, perhaps you could make a suggestion and see if anyone is interested).
In any case, I hope that what @Green_Ghost and I have provided to you are of help and I wish you luck on navigating your life as of now
P.S. thank you for the compliment on my language learning hobby 😊
@KaizerBiker the thing with my friends is that their only hobby from what they tell me is playing video games and we play different platforms so that'd be difficult to bounce.
if I can somehow convince them to leave their house I guess we could try something new but they haven't really been the type like they didn't even go to graduation which was sad
Hello @yeah_it_tahtperson,
That sounds tough and I feel you on this as well, I have friends that are incredibly isolated ( they are either very inclined to video games or they are off working all the time). I guess another suggestion I would make would be to try finding some friends which are able to hang out with you out doors. You could try to do this by maybe going to clubs or interest groups within your University or your local communities? ( might be worth having a look at their community events or activities that are interesting to you).
In any case, I feel you, I have some dry periods where I simply don't have anyone to hang out or be with when that comes I sorta go into my own devices as well, when I get tired of being indoors, playing video games, language learning etc, I got out for a walk, explore my environment ( going off for a hike in a new destination, going to a new cafe, beach etc). I would admit that some of these might get exhausting at some point, since it takes quite a bit to get yourself out there especially since there is nobody to do it with you but I feel like you become your own best company at one point and everyday becomes a more wonderful experience to really find yourself and realign yourself to the ideal life you seek.
Hi there @yeah_it_tahtperson
That sucks about your linkedin account, and the job search you're on at the moment. I'm also on a job search and I know how frustrating it can be, and dealing with all the linkedin stuff. Is there a way to reach out to linkedin support and get them to fix the issue?
It's great that you have some super interesting hobbies to fall back onto during this difficult time, but I'm hearing that they're both far away from home? Could it be helpful to start off doing some hobbies that are closer to home in order to build up that motivation to do the further away ones?
I wish the best for you @yeah_it_tahtperson 💜
@Green_Ghost my Linkedin account has recovered 🙂
I guess hobbies closer home include video games and other stuff on my laptop but I want something off my laptop yk, do u have other suggestions?
Excellent about the linkedin account!
Video games and other laptop stuff sounds fun, but I understand you want something off your laptop.
Are you into crafts much? You could go to the store and pick up some craft supplies and making something? Like for example, paper mache something from one of your favourite video games? Or are you into baking or cooking? You could go to the store and pick up some ingredients, learn how to make your favourite foods? It could be something as simple as going for a walk or walking to a park/oval, shooting some hoops on a basketball court if you're into sports? Or has there always been another hobby you've really wanted to take up that you haven't had time for that could be more accessible for you now?
@Green_Ghost i like those ideas, they definitely seem fun with more people.
not really a hobby but I would like to improve my public speaking skills but there arent really community opportunities to support that. used to love baking with my friend but got demotivated after a while, hope to pick it up again
Hi there @yeah_it_tahtperson
I think public speaking courses might exist? I can't pinpoint you to a specific one, as I obviously don't know where you're located (and some are state-specific). But it could be worth Googling "public speaking courses?" Maybe you can find one for free or some videos/articles with some pointers?
That's great about wanting to pick up baking again! I hope you can do that 😊
