I AM SCAREDD
I am reaching out because work hasn't been amazing...I got accepted to a job and had it for 4 weeks working nonstop then 2 weeks later i had to walk in as i wasn't out on roster then I got told I wasn't communicating with anyone at all (literally was) and i am not going to be earning shifts until i do well with training... the training is once a week which isn't helping because i forget the week after then i notice i don't get put on the roster for a week and working the next... it hasn't been fair...it's more stressful.... i then message my boss checking in how well i did with the two training days I've had, and it's been a week and a half and haven't heard anything....i am working next week but i am not sure if i am wasting my time or not...i am currently looking for other jobs like pet sitting just because i am stressed out!!! ITS A CAFE AND I LOVE CAFES BUT I THINK MY BOSS IS NOT BEING FAIR AND SHE IS STRESSED???
My gf (I'm lesbian) and best friend both have a stable jobs and I am not trying to compare but i am planning to see them as they are long distance, I have been telling them I want to pay for things and they don't have to stress about it but they still would work to help now I'm stuck because I'm not getting enough I get $92 for 4hrs which is crap for a casual trainee i also have to pay rent so it has left me in dept I have enough to see them but at the same time i don't...i feel like i messed in my job career path I want to help but its killing me in the inside
what do i do?
did i screw up with them both...?
HELPPPP
My family had no choice to accept me i love who i love and if they can't move on too bad.
Coming out for me wasn't easy as I had a family who assume I like boys and assume I should be dating them. they think i ruin the family. They know i have a gf but i feel like they will look for a way to ruin my happiness... like my sister she wants to go see her o.o â›”
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Hey @hello_kitty2025 ,
I'm so sorry to hear that things haven't been too great for you recently.
Finding a good workplace and stable job is much trickier I think that people give it credit for being. I'm currently in a situation that sounds like it might be similar to yours - my workplace isn't very supportive and my coworkers aren't particularly kind or communicative. The point is, I really feel for you, it's so incredibly disheartening and frustrating, especially when you add in the fact that your relationship with your workpace often directly influences your financial stability, especially if you work casually or part time. It sounds like your situation in particular is really hard because your boss won't communicate with you about what's going on, even when it sounds like you've been trying to establish really open communication channels. It's totally understandable that you're feeling so stressed and down, especially given that you also really want to be able to contribute to finances if you move in with your girlfriend and best friend.
It sounds like all of this has really been getting to you, to the point where you're starting to question whether you've messed everything up with your job and your relationships. While I think this is a really natural way to feel, please know that none of this is actually your fault, not even a little bit. You deserve to have a supportive and communicative employer, and you also deserve to have a supportive and understanding family too. Things are tough for you right now, please cut yourself some slack and be gentle with yourself if you can 🌷💛.
Sending lots of good vibes your way. We're all here for you if you need to vent a bit more too 💗.
Hey I'm sorry I haven't had the chance to respond but so thankful to hear from you I was trying to take the time to get back to you and now is it.
Don't be sorry it's okay its just been so tricky and devastating hearing that I am not doing well when been told I am. I still haven't heard back from them which is making me feel like I should quit because what's the point communicating when they can't roster me they seem so busy there is no point me being there. But I am so sorry that it's similar I wish jobs are easy and not rude and painful.
Thank you so much I feel like I needed to hear that because all I wanna do is do my best not fail. I have an update as I have officially been accepted to DSP which helps me so much. I just got accepted yesterday as I applied for yesterday toobwhich is amazing! As I was meant to get it assessed in June and it came fast but I am thinking of ending the work with this company now as I also helping friends look after there cats at their house for a few nights and it will continue for abit just for side money and helping them which still means I am actively working in a nicer industry.
Again thank you so much something good happens every often which I believe the same thing would do the same with you thank you again for your kindness and I hope I can here from you again soon
Hey @hello_kitty2025,
That sounds like a really tough and frustrating situation, both with work and the stress of finances, plus everything else going on. It sounds like you're really trying, but the job situation isn’t fair, and that’s not on you. If you’re showing up, communicating, and doing the training but still not getting a fair chance, that’s frustrating and stressful. It makes sense that you’re feeling stuck. It might help to think about what you can control right now. For example looking for other jobs like pet sitting imay be a good move as it gives you options.
As for seeing your girlfriend and best friend, it’s understandable that you want to be able to contribute and pay for things. It’s okay to accept help or take a step back from financial pressure for a bit. You’re not failing just because things aren’t going smoothly right now. 💙 With family stuff, I hear you as it’s hard when they don’t fully support you. It’s okay to set boundaries and protect your peace.
In the meantime, I think it would be helpful to review the resources provided by @Astra-RO as they give you an insight into your rights and the different supports that are available to you. Also, given you're under a lot of stress, I'm wondering if there's anything you can do to to practice self-care? I find the smallest of things help me feel grounded in the moment, from going on a walk outside to watching my favourite film.
All in all, I'm wishing you the very best moving forward! Please know the ReachOut community wil always be here to support you. 💛
It's never easy sometimes I just have to let it go. I am thinking of quitting this current job as I am officially on the DSP which helps me out as I struggle but they accepting the same day I submitted it so that's something good. I don't know what to think as mix signals from work questions me I wish I stayed at my old job they weren't nice either but they had atleast rostered me. I was actually working 2 jobs at a time and this current job doesn't understand. I am still not rostered so I'm really thinking about ending it officially. I might talk to someone I don't know who but to help. I'm getting notifications about payroll will be delayed but I'm not working so why am I getting that?! Makes me feel like salt honestly...
I'm trying to breathe and I'm stressing because how the hec am I meant to talk Centrelink I just quit another job due to issues with unfairness will it mess up my payment for DSP I'll need help with this I am scareddd!
Something good has happened as I recently just also got offered to start pet sitting my friends cats which is exciting as it's pocket money I'm also helping them out too as I know animal love there home environment.
As for the acceptance apparently I choose to be unaccepted and I don't have a chance meeting my gf as I haven't met her so we won't last... Mum and sister said it but I'll prove them wrong
Hi @hello_kitty2025 welcome to the community and thanks for sharing what's been going on for you. It sounds like you've got a lot going on between work, your relationships, and your family.
I can hear things at work have been really stressful, with your employer suddenly cutting your shifts and not communicating clearly with you. I think it's a reasonable to feel like this is unfair and to be looking for other work. It could be worth looking into your rights at work as well as Fair Work's resources on workplace problems to see what options you have and what kind of support is available for you.
It sounds like you're struggling financially as a result of work suddenly cutting your hours. If you're needing any financial support, you can check out a list of available supports and services from Services Australia here. Do you think your friend and gf will be understanding if you brought up your work and money situation with them?
I'm sorry your family hasn't been accepting of your sexuality, that really sucks. You deserve to be accepted and loved for who you are, and the community is here to support you. There's also QLife which offers one-on-one LGBTQIA+ peer support
