I'm glad things are getting fixed @OliviaBenson! ... View more

Hey @ILikeCake   Look, you can't do things in life just cause other people do it. You said it yourself that you don't want to do it, so don't. And believe me, there are heaps of people that hate oral sex. Seriously, if someone leaves you because you don't want to perform oral sex then it's their loss. Honestly you shouldn't be with someone like that in the first place.  ... View more

Hey @OliviaBenson   I'm so sorry about your situation, it sounds really bad. I honestly don't know what to say, just that we are here for you.  ... View more

Hi there @blu3   You're super young! Don't give up, I'm sure a lot of members here said that it gets better and it does! Pretty much everything gets better with life experience. You'll get use to different situations therefore be more comfortable and less anxious.    I'm not saying this is why but the early teenage years is especially difficult for most because there's just so much brand new things you're experiencing and having to deal with, it's really overwhelming. And when we take a step back, we take a huge step and become anxious and not wanting to do or try out new things.   Seeking help is great, since you said you want someone beside school counsellors which is perfectly fine, KidsHelpline is a great place to start. ... View more

No idea @Bee haha.  ... View more

Honestly for me, when I did have my L's. I wasn't really anxious when driving I don't know why. Like I was anxious of making a mistake and being judged for it.  ... View more

Hi all!    Oh boy driving...well I can't drive yet (horrible for my age), I'm not even on my L's cause I'm too lazy to get them  so I don't know how much I can contribute to this discussion haha. I'll see if there's a question I can answer.  ... View more

Well the point is @Futile, so in the future you can find someone like your ex.    Heartbreak sucks, I have experienced it and I'm sure many other members of ReachOut has also experienced it. It hurts, it's painful, nothing excites you, everything feel wrong etc. It might feel like the only cure is having your ex back but it's not. Sure you can try and get her back but remember love is a two way street. If she doesn't love you anymore, then there is really no point chasing after her. Why not find someone that will love you back?    What I'm trying to say is that the point of doing all these things is not to get back the past because nothing ever will bring back the past. Doing all these little things like exercising, eating healthier etc. is for the future. And hey, who knows maybe your ex. will come back because you persisted with your good habits.  ... View more

Hey there @yenka   I don't have many friends, just the one or two I guess. While I do feel lonely at times (wanting to go out and having no one to go out with) I have accepted my situation of being alone. I don't know how I did it. It just happened I guess, like I've been alone for so long now it's just the norm. Obviously it's best to surround yourself with friends like @less123321 suggested.    Focus on what you're passionate about, what you want in life and how to better improve yourself. Hopefully these will keep your mind off and prepare you for future friendships. ... View more

You might not be able to think of a reason that you're feeling down tonight but most of the time there is. Most likely your subconscious didn't like something that happened today and you didn't even notice it or cared about it cause it was so minor.    Do you remember when your mood just changed instantly? From okay to not okay? Or maybe it's just one of those days    ... View more

Haha thanks @DruidChild! I mean feel fine, like I'm not sick or anything. I'm literally just coughing all day lol, it's weird. ... View more

Sorry to hear about your headache @scared01. I've had a cough for 2 weeks now haha, it's so annoying when you're sick or getting sick.    You said you had a draining day, have you reflected on today?  ... View more

Hi there @JStruggle. I would definitely recommend @Taylor-RO's advice about speaking to a health professional since they are trained in helping people with anxiety. I guess that would be the trust worthy information.    The other option is online. Watching Youtube videos and reading books on how to beat anxiety etc. Nowadays it's not really pseudo-science anymore because it is actual psychologists that are writing these books. But it is up to you whether if you think the methods these people online are telling sound stupid or not.  ... View more

Hey @scared01, I hope you are doing okay tonight! Sorry I've been busy :(    Have a great day tomorrow and when you see this, please do update us on how you're feeling!  ... View more

Going to the gym definitely helps me out with stress and anger @Tammy6879. Nothing like lifting heavy stuff and putting them back down again. Just take it out on those weight, it's just metal.    But boxing, running or any form of physical exercise you suggested should help with your bottled up emotions. Also another good way to control anger is to meditate. This calms down the body and pushes those angry emotions out of your system. Although this method is hit or miss for most people but try it and see how it goes.   ... View more

Hey @Tammy6879   I'm sorry to hear that your mood has been down lately. It must be really hard on you. Depression is like a roller-coaster. The ups doesn't necessarily mean you feel happy, it just can be the times when you're not feeling sad and the downs are downs.    This might be a really low down cycle but if it lasts more than a few weeks then definitely follow it up. Just know that this can be normal, I have experienced personally. Doing fine and then suddenly I would feel like shit, not necessarily a relapse but an empty and negative feeling. ... View more

I hate gender roles. Everyone should be able to do whatever they feel like and not be judged for it.  ... View more

Hi @CookieBee   I'm sure you're not useless, I'm sorry you feel like a burden to your friends and I'm also sure that's not the case. It sounds like you have wonderful friends that care about you. It's okay be scared or embarrassed to face your house mates, happens to me too.    Don't be afraid to ask for help, there are people that dedicate their lives to helping those in need mentally. Do you have any ways of expressing your emotions before you reach the breakdown stage every month? It seems like once you get to that point it's really hard to control yourself so it's best to avoid getting to that point.  ... View more

@less123321 Haha thanks but I just don't see it happening (anytime soon at least)    @lokifish My ideal girl, definitely someone similar like me in terms of values, goals, hobbies and interests. A nerd Opposites do attract but their relationship don't last.    @Bee Unfortunately not. Just been occupied with work and it seems like everyone at work is in a relationship lol ... View more

Have you tried the doctors @less123321? Once my doctors suggested these pills that would help me concentrate because I couldn't focus and pay attention during university. I didn't take them but they were available. Not saying whether you should take them or not but definitely asking for the doctor's help is a possibility.  ... View more

Hey @ILikeCake   It's perfectly normal to be weirded (is this not a word? why is it red underlined???) out by sex at your age or any age honestly. It's completely up to you, just remember that don't be forced or peer pressured into doing something you don't want. I know plenty of people who don't perform oral sex because they find it gross or whatever their reason. Do what you're comfortable with and if your partner or whoever is demanding oral sex then leave. It's all about understanding in the end like @lokifish's relationship, finding a partner that understands what you're comfortable with and not comfortable is probably the most important.  ... View more

Hey @less123321   We remember more than we actually believe. Even if you thought you weren't listening at the time your brain stills picks up some information and you'll remember it. Obviously it won't be as detailed and you might not understand bits and pieces of information.    Exams are very stressful indeed. Even though I don't have to do exams anymore I still have nightmares about taking exams haha. Do you have any notes you have taken? Maybe you can revise them? Do you know the topics you've been learning? You can try to Google the topics and maybe learn that way (which is what I mostly did because our teacher was really bad explaining things)  ... View more

Masters of Psych? Nice! Which uni are you looking at right now? (dunno if it's against the ToS to ask or answer that question lol)   I wanna do Masters some time next year.  ... View more

Hi @OliviaBenson   How are you feeling outside of school, at home? Your writing is very good, do you like to write a lot? Have you thought about changing schools? What you wrote sounds very stressful, hopefully you'll be out of school soon.  ... View more

Hi @T111   Sorry you're feeling like this. Finding reasons to live is very hard, believe me, I have a 'reasons to live' jar and it has like 6 things in it. But then again, it's not the number of reasons.    Why do you think you would be slaving away for the rest of your life for minimum wage? That would be practically impossible. If you held an entry job say cashier at whatever place, you'll be promoted to manager in a few years.    What did you want to be when you were younger? Do you have any passions you're into? Sports? Cars? Fixing shit? Being a tradie? I sense you're lost in life. Since you're on a holiday (I assume) or visiting family, I suggest trying to find out what you really love, like what's the one thing to brings you some form of happiness or at least doesn't make you sad. See if there's a career in that and work towards it. Maybe once you have a goal in life things will fall into place.  ... View more

Hi @ILAUVEDEN   Speaking out about it is definitely a good step forward but I would not suggest you speak out on social media. Not at all. For the very reasons you just listed that has happened to your friend. Mental health is an extremely personal issue and it's shouldn't tossed around like hey I ate pizza for lunch today or whatever people post on social media. The only people that should know your mental health issues would be your family, closest friends and health professionals and maybe teachers.    Talking about your struggles is a good way to let out your emotions. You can always speak to your local doctor and tell them that you think you might have depression but since you don't want to ' talk about my problems to a stranger who probably doesn't give a sh*t'  you can try other methods. Mostly it involves meditating, and taking a step back and looking after yourself. Making sure you're eating right, getting enough sun, exercise, going out (if that's your thing) or watching shows you enjoy etc. Also artistic things such as dance, writing, singing, painting etc. are really good expressive ways to help with depression.    What do you think will help you the most? ... View more

2. Very interesting question. I don't know actually, I guess just be supportive of them?  ... View more

1. Definitely friends first. I want my partner to be my best friend. I mean who doesn't like animals right? I wouldn't trust them if they didn't lol. Having the same beliefs would be nice because you won't have arguments about certain things but it's not necessary. Having different opinions brings up great topics to talk about with them. Having said that, opposites attract BUT they don't last.  ... View more

Why don't you talk to your doctor or a doctor? Surely they would know more about it rather any online forum. Plus they are actually qualified. ... View more