Oh I definitely think it's rude not talk to someone if they put the effort into ask you a question @Matty D. Say if it was in a group situation and one person is just putting a question out there then no, it's not rude or impolite to just ignore/not answer the question. But if someone is asking you a question directly, it is best to answer them. Don't be afraid to say 'I don't know' because we can't be expected to know everything. Or if you don't want to answer their question for whatever reason then give them a 'I don't know'. This acknowledges the person that is asking you the question so you don't come off as rude.  ... View more

Tiny Dancer - Elton John or Mr. Brightside - The Killers. They give me a rocking energy.  ... View more

Have you given thought to the possibility of moving out @coffee_lover19? Like money wise and stuff. Because I don't know how long you'll be able to stay at your place currently without seriously hurting your mental health.  ... View more

In my opinion, no, it's not worth it @doubtfulwoman. Long distance sucks, anyone will tell you that. No relationship wants to be that way, everything is harder in a long distance relationship. However, the main reason why I say no is that you haven't met him before. Things would be different if you have met the person in life and developed a relationship that way and then if one of you were to leave else where then I would say yes, stick it out. You might think he is great and maybe even the 'one' but there are others closer to you and it just makes everything so much easier. Relationships are complicated enough as it is. ... View more

Hi @Dardz   Everyone is different, everyone gets turn on by different kind of people. I don't care if my partner (if I had one that is) watches porn. If you doubt his desires then I don't know. Do you want to continue to be with him? Do you think this is a phase that he might be going through? I would be alarmed if I found out that he has been looking at the person he hooked up with before you two got together, but that's just my opinion. Is he worth it?  ... View more

Honestly, it sounds like you're pretty set on what you want to do @YunoGasai. Move out when you feel like you're ready, it is your life after all. Live it the way you want and if that's moving out and living independently or with a roommate, then that's fantastic. It is the basic progression of life. When you're able, financially, you should move out and start your own life.  ... View more

This is a easy one, at least for me. Do what you enjoy @Jardin. You don't need us or anyone to validate your decisions. If you enjoy reading non-fiction less than fiction then just stick to what you enjoy. There is no one that says you can only read non-fiction when you grow up. That's like saying you can't drink soda because it's a kids drink and now you can only drink beer. It makes no sense and you shouldn't let others tell you what you can and can't do (within the law of course).  ... View more

Hi @coffee_lover19   It much be such a hard thing to go through losing your parents having to live with someone who treats you poorly. I assume these people are the only 'family' you have left? If there's nowhere to go and if you're feeling brave and strong enough, you should look at the option to move out. Live by yourself, maybe there's a cheap one bedroom apartment somewhere?    I honestly don't know how to approach step families. I would think that your stepfather would always choose family over an outsider. It's unfortunate and I don't know if any amount of talking and convincing would remove him from that stance. Considering your stepfather already has a volatile temper, maybe skip the talk I think.  ... View more

Hi @doubtmind24   I understand your frustrating, I was in your situation as well. She was working and I just wanted to spend some time with her but in the end she broke it off because I was over bearing. Managing a business takes a lot out of you and your girlfriend might just want some time to herself. As selfish as that is we do what we got to do so we don't fall apart. Maybe you are disturbing her when you're asking for what precious time she has to herself? You don't know and I don't know so that is why you have to ask to sit down with you and have a talk. Ask her when she's free, hopefully a weekend and you just need to get everything out in the open. Talk to her about what you're feeling because she wouldn't know what you're feeling. And one more thing, although you might not think it's demanding, she might think it is so you never know. ... View more

Hi @Thoughts_hurricane   Sorry about your about situation and welcome to RO. We are here for you if you ever need to talk to someone. Do you think what she did was forgivable? Do you have any intention of talking to your friend again?       ... View more

Hi @AnonymousPenguin   It is very tough dealing with homophobic people, especially the ones in your family since you can't avoid them and they should be the closest ones to you. Just ask yourself, do you really need their approval? Are you going to stop being yourself just because someone told you to? Why should do you something that you don't enjoy?    I think those questions are pretty easy to answer if you ask me. When you mother said 'from now on I don't care what you say'. Well, maybe from now on you shouldn't care what your mother says either? Respect is a two way road. If she doesn't care about you, then why should you care about them? ... View more

Hi @Max1987   All addictions are bad but just to clarify, when you say no money can be won, does that mean you're not losing any money either? Like you're talking about the Poker games on Facebook?    What happens when you try to limit yourself from playing these games? Maybe try deleting Facebook? Or limit yourself from going on Facebook? ... View more

Hello there @YunoGasai   I can definitely relate to that. It's the same with my grandparents. They pretty much raised me from when I was a baby. I love them to death and I owe them a great deal. However they are old fashioned as you can get. Stubborn and close minded, all in all, very toxic to be around. They live overseas so I don't have to see them often.   I realised although I don't like being around them, I owe them too much just to turn my back on them. I visit every year, I guess I just suck it up. They love me and miss me so I just pretty much do it for them.    What I'm trying to say is I guess, distancing your self from your family is perfectly fine. After all it is your life and your mental life. You don't have to be as close as you were before but try to contact them once in a while. Just to let them know how you're doing and you're thinking of them.  ... View more

Hi @PuppyLover   I think one of the most difficult things about mental health and telling ourselves that it's okay to talk about it. Talking about your struggles doesn't make you a downer. Everyone has struggles. Like you said people think your life is perfect but it's not. You might see other's perfect life but they don't have it great either.    Obviously the best way go about it is to talk to a psychologist who are trained to talk about tough issues. It is great to see that you are seeing one and it's working, at least some what. In terms of your friends or family, I guess it's all about timing. You would want to drop some depressive stuff when everyone is like hanging out and having a good time. Maybe at the end of night just dropped like a casual line here and there such as 'it's been a long week' or 'damn today was hard to get through'. Hopefully that will get the conversation started, trying to start it as light as possible so the people you're talking to doesn't get overwhelmed and not know how to respond.  ... View more

Hi @Asdf02   I'm sure you won't be a loner for the rest of your life. High school is full of cliques and shit, kind of sad actually. If you're going to university or tafe, the people there are much more open. In terms of getting older, people just tend to be less judgemental and more friendly.    Problems don't go away by themselves, well most don't anyways. Have you identified what the problems you are facing? Maybe write them down so it's clear to you. And then try to think of solutions to or post here and we'll help you come up with ideas on how you can tackle the issues.  Why do you think you are pushing these people away? Are you afraid of getting hurt? Afraid of them leaving you so you leave first?  ... View more

Hi @JaxonBil31   Coffee if you drink that, or pretty much any caffeinated drink. Or the healthier option is water! Lots of it! And high energy snacks such as nut bars and bananas.    I get that during that during those hours can get super boring and our natural body clock just kicks in. It sucks you can't bring phones or books and even talk to others.  ... View more

Hi @riskingme86   Why not? If you love her and trust her then go for it. There is no additional 'risk' in terms of being in a LDR. What tend to happen is the lack of face to face interaction puts a strain on the relationship.    How do you feel about it? And ask yourself, if it's not worth the risk then are you going to break it just because it's long distance now? ... View more

I'm sorry about your problems @molly510 but I'm glad you have found somewhere where you can talk about it and feel better! Keep up the great work! ... View more

Hi @LostintheWoods   I can see that you have big dreams which is amazing to hear. I'm sorry that you're being forced into a career, no one likes to be forced to do anything. Who exactly is forcing you?   Let's put things into perspective. You are 16 years old, what do you think Markiplier was doing when he was 16? Doubt he was the success and the person he is now. All these things you have listed, all these things you want will come in time. How many 16 years old do you know that's living by themselves? That's a huge feat especially that young!   I believe a lot has to do with attitude. If you keep trying to achieve your dreams and goals, everything will fall into place. You'll find a decent paying job that you love, in turn you'll be able to afford rent to a place so you'll be able to live alone. So on and so forth... ... View more

Heya @CMC02   I get what you mean, it's always nice to have more friends. I mean if you're not bubbly then so be it, would you rather people like you for who you are or would you rather they like you for your fake personality? Sure being bubbly will help your chances of making friends but after awhile the whole act just becomes tiring. Or the opposite might happen, fake it until you make it as they say. Your personality will actually become more bubbly and outgoing the more you fake that persona believe it or not!    In terms of making more friends at your age, outside of school and sports? It would definitely be a job. A lot of people your age have part time jobs and it's a good way to socialise. Others would be like something to do with a hobby you're interested in. Whether they have meetups or group events and if you feel like going to those. You can go and see those people and you would already have a common interest so you can talk to them about that. ... View more

Hi @MelodyAzizi   Try to love it because we only grow up once. I know a lot of people regret not doing things or participating in things or they just wanted to do things a bit differently. I know I certainly regret my time. It may not seem important now but in the future it will eat away at you.    If you don't want to do that then that's fine! You can get a head on your passion or career or whatever you want to do when you grow up. Some people get a head start by getting a job in the relevant field they want or doing an internship. It's great experience and sets you up very nicely and puts you ahead of others in your age group. In the end, age is just a number. It's your behaviour that defines you. If you act mature, heck you may as well be an adult.  ... View more

Hi @missep   You said it was an ex-friend so were you expecting an invite? Or do you mean that you weren't invited to something and then removed them as your friend?    The main way I deal with finding out I wasn't invited to something is just trick my brain. Think negatives about the event. Like if it's a party, I think about how horrible the music is, how many strangers will be there (that scares me ha), pretty much thinking about all the negatives about the event and soon I'll be like damn lucky I'm not there. I also find not using social media that much and just focusing on your own hobbies helps a ton.  ... View more

Hi @anonymousgirl101   I'm in a similar boat, not the exact same one. Just some general tips from me. In terms of meeting other people or talking to your work mates, school people etc. I tend to ask them things instead of talking about myself because I am a boring person and nothing in my life that is interesting so there's no point talking about my life. And people like talking about themselves I guess so they wouldn't mind, shifts their focus off of you and on to themselves and they'll think you're caring and considerate.    Look, I'm a boring person too and I'm not the 'average' person in terms of interests either. But there are people out there, people who are into your interest. People who find your hobbies interesting. You just have to find them. It is harder than meeting your average joe but when you do, it's just so much easier to talk to them as they understand and share similar interests as you. And you'll actually have something to talk about! So pretty much is finding people who are similar to you because to them, you are interesting!  ... View more

Hi @Jesssister2001   I'm sorry about your situation, I can see that family means a great deal to you. You're definitely good enough to have love. Everyone (most of people) deserve love, and you included. Maybe you can have a sit down with your mother and just have a chat. Like ask her why you two haven't been getting alone? What the issue is? And maybe figure out some solutions to the issues. Just got to go into the conversation as a mature person, try not to be emotional and most likely she'll just ignore it. Have an adult to adult talk. ... View more

Hi there @anonymousgirl101   I totally understand what you're going through. I myself hated going outside until recently. I am always terrified of seeing the people I went to high school with, even if I was 'friends' with them back then. I don't know why I get anxious when seeing them, I just pray that they don't see me or approach me to chat.    I hated going outside because I had no friends, no one to do anything with. However when I was overseas, I loved going out by myself. I thought to myself that I was never going to see these people in my life ever again so who cares. That was the approach I took when I was abroad so I was like why not do it here. I just began going out by myself, I act like a tourist and imagine that I'm going to leave the place soon.    I guess what I'm saying is try 'tricking' your brain so you're less anxious when going outside. I assume you don't want to be a shut in and never go outside, so practice makes perfect! Go to place where you know 100% your high school people won't ever visit, like a stupid local park. Just go and sit there for a while, get use to the feeling of being outside. And slowly go to places that are more crowded until you have to confidence to go to places like the shopping centre. ... View more

Hello there @Supreme-Leader-Sun   I'm sorry about losing your friend. Losing a good friend sucks, especially when you have no idea what you did wrong or if you did anything at all. It is very strange that she ghosted you after two years of seemingly a great friendship. The fact that she has never mentioned this to you before it also strange.    Maybe she thought you were creepy but never had the chance to speak to you about it? But even that's stretching it because you say you two spoke nearly every day. It sucks that she didn't give you an explanation and just blocked you. Pretty unfair, at least it would have given you some closure and helped you move on. I guess there's nothing you can do right now. I get that not thinking about her is hard. Maybe now is the time to re-evaluate your life goals and friendships and focus on those things that are most important to you to keep your mind off of your friend.  ... View more

Hi @Ebony123   I would suggest you go to HR and file a complaint about the manager however it does sound like the company you are in is pretty incompetent in terms of keeping a healthy working environment. Some managers are just complete pricks and some HR departments are spineless to punish the upper authorities.    One of the team leaders I work with is a huge d-bag. No one likes him, like seriously, everyone I've talked to hates him. But some how he is still working there, his attitude hasn't changed. Nothing happened after complaints were filed.    Luckily I found a new job so I am leaving my current one and I suggest you do the same. Start looking for new places to work. Doubt you want to work at a place where your manager puts you down every day.  ... View more

What sort of things do you associate with adulthood?   Paying the damn taxes! Ha nah jokes. Mainly just responsibility in general but yes, having to pay everything you need/want yourself. Let me tell ya, being an adult ain't cheap!    EDIT: I just find it so funny that everyone associates paying taxes with adulthood.    How can we deal with the pressure to have everything "figured out"?   Interesting question, I'm not too sure actually. I can't afford to 'break down' otherwise I'd be behind all my bills and stuff and I rather not be homeless ha.  ... View more

Hi @AlphaBe   I'm sorry about your loss. I'm so angry about your situation, it sucks, it's frustration, it's unfair. There's so many words to describe it. It sounds like your living situation is horrible. Everything from your thing with your mother and your mother's on-again, off-again boyfriend. Are there any relatives that you're close with? Grandparents? Aunts? Uncles? Maybe see if you're able to move out with them. Say you're willing to pay rent, that always sweetens the deal.    Moving out by yourself would be extremely hard, but if you can handle it and is up to the task then all the power to you! I'm not a lawyer or anything but surely your mother can't touch the money that was left to you in your late father's will. Maybe go to a lawyer and get one of those free consultations and see what they suggest. I hope everything gets better soon and take advantage of any government service that is available to you.  ... View more

Hello there @gabes   First off, don't think you're worth any less without an university degree. There's a negative stigma surrounding those without university degrees which is simply not true. A degree is just to help you to earn a decent living without doing physical labour or hard jobs such as a trade. I don't want to dampen your spirits but even with a degree a lot of people don't have jobs so I don't want you to think that a degree is a necessary to getting a job.    What the university psychologist suggested to me when I was in your situation (kind of) and I needed their help was to reduce the total unit load and study part time so it won't be as stressful.    You're definitely right, you are smart enough to be, you got the grades to get in the course. Heck you may have even gotten way more than you needed. University is a whole new ball game and it's okay to not understand most of the material.    Are you able to look for a study group? Are there any tutors that are able to help you, if you have to spend some money to hire one even. You got this! Don't give up! One day when you're reading the material, everything will just click and you'll understand what the lecturer was talking about all along! ... View more