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26-02-2020
07:22 AM
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Weekly Wellbeing Self-hacking: aka, how to trick yourself into taking care of your wellbeing! Hey everyone! It's time for another Weekly Wellbeing activity :) According to Google hacking is defined as the gaining of unauthorized access to data in a system or computer which isn't really the kind of hacking we're going for this time :P When we say self-hacking, we mean ways of managing your routine and self in order to make things easier later on or that encourage you to take care of yourself day to day! Examples of this include setting a timer for things like medication if you're prone to forgetting them, or even taking them with yummy juice if they taste gross! We're super keen to know: Do you have ways of encouraging yourself to take care of your wellbeing? Is there a way you could build a self-hack into your routine? A personal example would be how I try to manage my sleep schedule on days off. If I don't have anywhere to be, then I really have no motivation to get up and start my day at a reasonable time. (my record is 5pm -yikes!) What I try to do is tell myself: You don't have to get out of bed for the day.You just need to shower, have some coffee, and have something small to eat, then you can go back to sleep! Usually by the time I do that, i'm up and about and don't go back to bed. But if i do end up going to sleep again, at least i'm clean, hydrated, and have eaten something! Which means I'm way more functional and feel a lot better when I do get up! What about you guys? :) Have any self-hacks you can share?
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25-02-2020
07:37 PM
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Oh yay! Really really looking forward to this Ask A Pro! Can't wait to hear more about Anthony's experiences and insights! As well as seeing the discussion with everyone here on RO Reckon we'll all have tonnes of questions! Should be amazing!
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25-02-2020
07:25 PM
@MisoBear that's exciting! what course are you doing if you don't mind my asking?:D @Milkninja222 really love this idea for a WW activity! Meeting new people is so rewarding but also so so scary! A strategy I have for meeting people where I'm the new person is to push myself from the get-go.I find if I hang back it's really hard to feel comfortable but if I jump in feet first and get a convo going things go a lot more smoothly. I joined a volunteer group last year, and a few members went out of their way to introduce themselves and make me feel welcome, and it was so helpful! I then stuck my hand up for as many things as possible so that i'd get more settled more quickly (i call it strategic over-commiting lol), which worked well for me. I still get nervous, but I also have had so much fun there! Whenever there are new group members I remember my first meeting and make sure to strike up a conversation, even if it's a bit awkward at first, because I am really grateful to the people who went out of their way to talk to me!
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25-02-2020
07:09 PM
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Absolutely love these quotes guys! So cool that some of them are original as well, you're all so creative! :D (escape the fate lyrics, cliche but good! )
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17-02-2020
09:40 PM
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Oof it's getting late now! I think this might be a good point to wrap up the discussion! Thanks everyone so much for such an awesome chat, like @xXLexi_Lou122Xx said! Loved having the opportunity to get such interesting perspectives @WheresMySquishy @Hozzles @RevzZ @xXLexi_Lou122Xx We'd all love to hear what everyone else thinks about the topic so feel free to keep adding to this thread! Have a great night everyone! :D
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17-02-2020
09:36 PM
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@WheresMySquishy those are really important things to keep in mind!
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17-02-2020
09:32 PM
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oh no! No worries @xXLexi_Lou122Xx , i hope you feel better
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17-02-2020
09:30 PM
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@Hozzles couldn't agree more! I guess one way to support people going through issues with friends is just to let them know you're there to be a support/distraction if they need it
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17-02-2020
09:24 PM
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@WheresMySquishy and @Hozzles the fact that drama can be so context and mood dependent really shows how important it can be to try talk things out before they become super big!! Last questions guys! Do you have any advice to others who are going through friendship troubles? How can we handle friendship drama in a positive way? How can you help someone if you see / know they are struggling with issues within a friendship? (this is me shoe-horning in another friends gif, even if it's only tangentially related )
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17-02-2020
09:16 PM
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@xXLexi_Lou122Xx the way you support other people and always offer a listening ear is something that comes across super strongly on RO too! Giving people space but letting them know you're still there is sometimes all you can do! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with a lot of crap from others over the years :( big virtual hugs your way Good job catching up! Super typer!
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17-02-2020
09:11 PM
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@xXLexi_Lou122Xx i'm glad you have people in your life who support you @xXLexi_Lou122Xx Feeling isolated and wanting old friends back doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you! You can't help the way you feel It's really awesome though that you're able to look back and recognise that it wasn't fair for you to have to put up with that from others!
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17-02-2020
09:04 PM
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yay @xXLexi_Lou122Xx glad to see you! spam away! :P
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17-02-2020
08:51 PM
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When drama gets overwhelming how can we take a step back whilst maintaining a good friendship outside of what’s going on? I think that that's the sort of time where communication becomes really important! Whether it's your own friendships drama or someone else's, it's fair enough to take a step back when it's too much. Even just saying, I really don't want to be involved in this right now, so i'm going to leave the room/log off/ not pick a side can make where you stand clear. Not always easy, but definitely something you're allowed to do! I reckon friends should be willing to give each other that kind of choice, but then again I guess it can be hard not to take it personally? Man, inter-human communication and relationships are hard :P
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17-02-2020
08:44 PM
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@WheresMySquishy that's really awful for both of you!! that's a lot of pressure from the teachers, i feel like that's not supposed to be the job of one child! Yes teachers should encourage people to report bullying, but not to make one kid feel like they have to be responsible fortheir friends' actions :(
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17-02-2020
08:33 PM
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@WheresMySquishy nice GIF choice! Have you ever been excluded or pushed aside in a friendship group or cohort? What did you do in this situation? Yes, sometimes. Not fully out of a group or anything, but I dealt with being bullied and excluded in primary school and was often a second choice friend in my high school friendship group. I'll be real I didn't really do anything about feeling left out in high school, I just felt bad about it and put up with it Not recommended obviously!!! Would love to hear what everyone else has done in these sorts of situations! @WheresMySquishy that's a really good point! Stuff like this can show you who really has your back and who doesn't. But at the same time, it's always worth talking about it if you can before throwing away a friendship forever!
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17-02-2020
08:27 PM
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@WheresMySquishy that's really healthy and I'm glad it's working for you I try do that at my work as well (not really a friendship group, but meh), because there's a lot lot of internal drama. It means that although my coworkers know that i'll hear them out, they also know that I don't want to hear mean gossip or get involved in any fights. Most of the time people respect that because they know that it also applies to them, I don't want to talk behind anyone's back. Although there have been times where by not choosing a side, a side has been chosen for me. But hey! What do you do?
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17-02-2020
08:16 PM
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Have you ever had drama in a friendship? If so, how did you deal with it? Was this productive? Do you wish you had done anything differently? So much friendship drama in high school! Not usually anything that I started, but definitely loads of times where I got caught up in between different people fighting :( I usually tried to mediate, which did and did not help at times. You can't make people play nice if they don't want to! Something I did do (and honestly wish I'd done more of) was refuse to play along with certain types of drama. Like, If someone wouldn't stop bagging out my friend behind their back, the conversation's over for me. Or if you're trying to exclude someone, i'm not. I really regret not being more firm about this, because I did this pretty quietly and so people kind of brushed it off. I wish I'd stood my ground more :(
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17-02-2020
08:06 PM
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@WheresMySquishy that's frustrating, like I can see that they were trying to objective but when they don't fully grasp the situation they can't really resolve it well :/ I agree that being polite but upfront about things is a good way to address friendship problems, otherwise they can just build!
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17-02-2020
07:56 PM
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ahh jeez @WheresMySquishy that's intense!
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17-02-2020
07:55 PM
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Time for the second round of questions! Have you ever had drama in a friendship? If so, how did you deal with it? Was this productive? Do you wish you had done anything differently?
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17-02-2020
07:48 PM
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hey @RevzZ ! Glad you could make it! :D Definitely fair that drama isn't necessarily all bad! Sometimes it's necessary to help you get through a past misunderstanding or resolve a long term issue! @WheresMySquishy oh yeah! ghosting someone or ignoring messages is a big one!
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17-02-2020
07:41 PM
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What types of things can cause drama within/between friendship groups? oooooohhhh boy, in a word? Everything Insecurity and jealously i feel play a huge role in causing problems within friendship groups. Like if one person feels like they're at risk of being ignored, they might encourage everyone to exclude or tease someone else instead :( Also from memory dating rivalry can cause huuge rifts within and between friendship groups!
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17-02-2020
07:24 PM
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Welcome to tonight's GR, we're chatting about Friendship Drama! If at all you find this conversation distressing or you feel like you need to talk to someone, about an issue then it's time to get some help! You can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 or use their webchat and email services found on their respective sites. The links can be found here. If you are new here then welcome! Have a quick peek at our community guidelines you can find them here!
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17-02-2020
06:48 PM
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Hey guys! Just thought i'd pop into this section of the forums to remind everyone that we have a live Getting Real chat to do with Friendship Drama starting soon! :D You can check it out here Hope to see you all there!
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17-02-2020
06:40 PM
4 Kudos
@Tay100 @Janine-RO @Jess1-RO looking forward to hearing your insights later this week! :D @Bananatime04 sweet! hope to see you later
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14-02-2020
07:43 PM
2 Kudos
@Tay100 the next GR is a live one and it's this Monday at 7:30 pm AEDT :D Here's the link to the thread
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14-02-2020
07:42 PM
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Time for another live chat my dudes! :D This round we'll be tackling How to Handle Friendship Drama, because we've definitely all been there and it sucks :( Whether it's people talking behind your back, being excluded, or having a fall out with one of your mates -it's all a bit much to deal with sometimes! We're going to be discussing Friendship Drama -what it looks like and how to handle it- on Monday the 17th of February at 7:30 pm AEDT (no worries if you can only be on for part of the chat btw, there's no cut off!) Hope to see you all then! (Fair warning, I'll be spamming Friends gifs, i can feel it within my soul :P But if that's not incentive to join in, then I don't know what is ) ReachOut has a bunch of resources that address friendships, so I thought I'd link them here to get thoughts going before Monday! :D There's a whole bunch, but some of them are: 4 steps for coping with changing friendships Why it's okay not to have a huge friendship group How to make friends at school 6 ways to take care of yourself when a friendship ends 3 ways to end a toxic friendship 10 things to do if you're feeling lonely How to ask a friend if they're okay (lotssss of lists -they're good, check 'em out! :D)
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14-02-2020
07:07 PM
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@Hozzles I have dropped soooo many books in the bath doing that it's ridiculous! They all survived though! @Tay100 super cool idea for a WW! I really resonate with a lot of what everyone's already mentioned here. To me, self-care is doing things/ not doing things, in order to feel physically, mentally, and emotionally nourished. So things like doing things you love, getting enough sleep, or even not going out on a Friday night when you're tired and giving yourself that break. Treatin' yo self is different in that it's something a bit different and a bit special! And it's special because it's something you don't always do :) Like if you finish a semester at uni or a reallly long work day :P (fantastic motivator ) Something I treat myself with is books! I either go on a library run (libraries are awesome! ) or do some damage at this really cool second hand bookstore near my work (honestly, so lucky it's not on my way too work, i have no will power :P)
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06-02-2020
06:13 PM
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So much spam from me today, haha Here's today's question! 4. What makes it difficult to maintain a good balance?
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06-02-2020
06:03 PM
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1. What things do you commit your time to? e.g. school work, family, hobbies. Do you find it easy or hard to manage your schedule? I have work, household stuff, family, friends, and volunteering. I'm not doing uni this year, so i don't need to juggle classes and assignments for now, which is good because that's where I struggle to find balance the most! 2. How do you know when your life is out of balance? What do you notice about yourself and your headspace? Like a lot of what's been mentioned by others already, I also get overwhelmed easily, and am less able to deal with little things. I'm also likely to start dropping the ball in more than one area of my life. 3. What are the benefits of actively maintaining a healthy life balance? A less frantic or frazzled state of being! If i'm spreading my time evenly between commitments i'm less likely to feel as if i'm always playing catch up. I'm also not as down on myself for breaking promises i've made myself.
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