ah that's always the way isn't it I'm sorry to hear how devastated you are - I completely understand and it just feels shit!! It's tough when someone isn't on the same wave length as us anymore and trying to get use to a new pattern of life without them is very difficult. But there are so many more wonderful things awaiting you!  Whats something you LOVE doing?? maybe try and do this thing more often than you usually would at the moment!   I know you weren't "in a relationship" with this girl, but you still were very important to each other and you invested your time and feelings into something that was going well, that now appears to be over or changed, so I also would take a look at this link if you have time: https://au.reachout.com/articles/coping-with-a-breakup Its a RO article about coping with a break-up that has great suggestions for helping distract you from your heart ache.  Take care  we are always here to chat at anytime if you need!  ... View more

Hi @Justinrod333, thanks for sharing with us how you're feeling  It must be very confusing and upsetting what you're going through, not knowing where you stand with someone you care about.  It sounds like you have already been doing all the right things - respecting the space and time that she has asked for! However, I understand the need for your own clarity and the want to express how you feel. Do you just talk with this girl online or do you see her in person too? Perhaps you could better explain how you're feeling in person? or write a letter and give it to her if its easier to write your feelings down? Regardless, it sounds like you have been very respectful and patient with her and I'm sure that is already showing her how much she means to you!! ... View more

1. I got up and went for a nice walk - the sun is shining  2. I have been productive with my uni work  3. I did a good workout and ate a beautiful salad for lunch (I guess thats 4  )   ... View more

always be 20min early, I hate being late ahah    Would you rather remember every conversation you have or remember everything that you read?   ... View more

Lose a year off my life 100% I never want to go to jail  Would you rather only be able to wear winter clothes in summer or only summer clothes in winter? ... View more

Dear me,    I know that so much is happening right now for you and its overwhelming but you're doing so well. But also you should know its okay to feel the sadness, confusion, and anger that you're feeling. You've lost both your jobs, your parents moved away, you can't see your friends, you're studying full-time, its a lot. You aren't eligible for job keeper, seeker, or youth allowance even with rent and bills to pay and no income, and theres others out there, including many of your friends getting jobkeeper payments when they still live at home and don't have any expenses. I know you're angry because you feel the government is robbing you of money you need more than others, but try to remember theres also other people who need it even more than you and who might not be able to either. Corona virus has impacted your life dramatically and its been a whirlwind, but keep hanging in there, you're doing so well. Keep meditating, keep reading, keep being mindful, keep exercising, keep reminding yourself of how lucky you are and how grateful you are for what you have rather than focus on what you don't have. (but please also remember its okay to cry and its okay to feel cheated and its okay to grieve about what you have lost). You've got this.    Love always,  Me  ... View more

Hi @dontforget, I'm just checking in with you to see how you're going? Did you get an opportunity to communicate your feelings with your boyfriend? Hope you're well!  ... View more

@dontforget, that has actually made me smile, that is what ReachOut is all about. I'm so happy we could help you in some way  let me know how the talk goes! All the best.  ... View more

Hi @dontforget  thankyou for sharing so much of yourself with us. I want to start by saying you are not alone, because of your bravery in speaking out, I bet there are people on here reading your words thinking hey that's me too!! I even have a friend of mine that is going through something similar, so please don't think there is anything wrong with you or that it's not normal to feel confused or not ready to have sex.  It sounds like the pressure from your boyfriend to have sex is causing you horrible anxiety and grief, do you think that the special bond you feel you have with your boyfriend would allow you to talk openly and honestly with him about how you're feeling? Hopefully the emotional connection you share with him will mean he understands and respects how you're feeling, because nobody should feel pressured to have sex.   It's okay to not be ready to have sex just yet, it happens at different times and ages for everyone, and you can feel ready for masturbation and porn way before feeling ready for sex, it's a big step. Also, I see you've said you feel anxiety about sexual acts with anybody, this could be happening because you are associating the anxious feeling you get when you think about sex with your boyfriend to sex with others. Im sorry to hear you're feeling so confused and helpless, but hopefully you can have a talk with your boyfriend about how you're feeling and it can ease some anxiety.  Also there are a few articles about sex and sexuality here on ReachOut if you wanted to do some reading on the topic.. We're here for you!  ... View more

I absolutely adore this thread! what a wonderful idea and so needed in a time that feels like there aren't many positives...even more so now, I love reading the joys of people's day, so thankyou for creating this @Lightuptheworld  1. Going for two big walks  2. Having a hot cross bun for breakfast 3. Buying some chocolate for easter for my sister and partner    ... View more

Today I took the time out of my morning to go to a gym class, do a small meditation, and complete mindful movements/stretches before I headed out into my day. I am so glad that I got up earlier to complete these self care activities, it helps me feel more energised and ready for my day!  ... View more

first of all I want to say how much I adore the idea of this thread, what an amazing opportunity and space for people to express how they feel and write down what they want to say.    Dear _____,    Thankyou for everything. I'm sorry things didn't work out the way we had planned but I am so grateful for the time we had together. I think about you all the time and I will always care about you. I hope we are in each others lives forever - I can't imagine a life that you are not in.  Love always, ______.  ... View more

Hi @Jess1-RO what a coincidence that you have commented on this thread - I literally just arrived back from Bali yesterday haha!!! I stayed in Canggu and it honestly was the most amazing holiday ever. I would 100% recommend Canggu as a place to visit and stay in Bali, we did day trips to Ubud and other areas but we just loved the people, places and atmosphere in Canggu, it's so much more chill than places like Seminyak and Kuta and just has so much to offer.  I absolutely love the sound of Jervis Bay though - Im actually looking for somewhere to go for a mini holiday in January/February and this sounds perfect, I'll look into it. Thanks so much for your suggestion!!  ... View more

Hi @Jasmine34 I just want to jump in here and say I'm SO happy for you for making the decision to stop!! I have quite a few friends who smoke a lot of weed every day and they are always saying how much they wish they had the strength and will power to give up, they've tried and failed many times - so the fact that you have is something to be so proud of!    ... View more

Hi @Animallover2003, welcome!!  I'm just here to check in with you and see how you're going? Have you been able to tell your friends how you have been feeling? and if not, is there anything that you'd like to talk about specifically that maybe we could help you with? Hope you're doing well and enjoying the beautiful weather  ... View more

good on you @lr8991 !! that's wonderful you should be very proud of yourself, all good steps in the right direction  ... View more

Hi @lr8991 - there are already some awesome suggestions on here for you, I'm just checking in with you to see how you are feeling this week? Have you tried any new coping strategies that you've found successful?  ... View more

Today I am so grateful to have the opportunity and resources to be able to study what I love at university, given that so many people in the world do not get to share this luxury.  ... View more

I smiled today because I got up at 5:40am to fit gym in before work! Im super proud because this is my third day at gym in a row after quite a few months off so I'm feeling great.. although a little sore. I think tomorrow is a rest day  ... View more

@MisoBear hey I went to California last year!! In winter too so we got all the amazing summer weather, loved it! Thankyou so so much for your recommendations and advice, I'm off to look at flight prices to Mexico....    ... View more

@MisoBear ahh thank you for that suggestion I have ALWAYS wanted to go to Mexico but hadn't heard many reviews or opinions about it.. so that's awesome to hear you had an amazing experience!! ... View more

Thankyou @ecla34  and well done everyone!! To be able to volunteer for such a great support group is so rewarding  ... View more

Hi @Looking4support    @MisoBear and @Andrea-RO have already offered some wonderful advice, support, and links to external help.. I am just checking in with you to see how you are feeling this week? Hopefully you are feeling better and this week has been kind to you, but also a reminder that if you are not we are here for you and you will never be alone. There are so many people who care about you and we are always here to listen to you! Have you done anything for self-care this week?    ... View more

hi@Tiny_leaf  !!!  ahah that would be concerning if I was using this forum to advertise ahaha ill have to rethink my titles....    Okay very interesting I've never heard much about WA so to have two recommendations in one go is telling me I should get there !!  That experience in shark bay sounds amazing !! Thats so lovely you can still remember it even though it was so long ago.. Singapore! Interesting,  I think my mum has been there and she loved it too but said the exact same thing, that it was just so so humid and if you're there for a while it starts to take its toll.  Thankyou so much for sharing your thoughts and advice !!  ... View more

@Sunflower18  its the best feeling ever!!! My family has a holiday house on NSW coast right on the beach basically so I go there almost every year and I love it. I have also been quite a few places overseas that I have loved but I have the travel bug and I just wanna go and explore !!!! ooh yes I've heard Vietnam is amazing from so many different people! I think that is definitely going to have to be on my list!!  I am from Victoria, and I don't think I've ever been to WA so that's another place I can add to the list yay thank you so much for giving me some ideas ! well if I stay in Australia I was thinking QLD, I've only ever been once (to cairns) and I absolutely loved it, im a sucker for the hot weather and the turtles !!  OR Bryon Bay, which is also apparently beautiful!  ... View more

Hi @Dleehy2002, just checking in to see how you are feeling this week?  ... View more

Hi @mspaceK  I'm so sorry to hear of your family friends passing, knowing someone who has passed away is a very intense, strange experience and feeling, and grief will come in waves, good days and bad days. I know a couple of days ago was a bad day but I hope your day today is better. Having all that work stress and your boyfriend making other plans would also add to the loneliness and stress you feel, and I'm sorry you had such a shitty day, but you should be so proud of yourself that you jumped on here to share your feelings. Please always remember that having crying/sobbing episodes is okay, sometimes our body even needs them.  If you ever feel like you need more advice about grief I have linked a RO article about grief below: https://au.reachout.com/articles/working-through-grief Hope today is a better day for you, we are here if you need  ... View more

I'm grateful for all the help my parents have given me and my sister with moving into our new apartment. I am also grateful for our new apartment.  ... View more

Welcome @missyj !! So lovely to have another builder on board! Let us know if you need help with anything  ... View more