Hi @stellbell, I'm sorry to hear about your break up. I am going through one too so I know how much it hurts.  I see this post was from about a month ago now but I am just checking in with you to see how you're going? My motto has been "one day at a time". I am here for you if you need to talk. In the meantime, here is link on how to cope with a break up that I too, have found helpful:  https://au.reachout.com/articles/coping-with-a-breakup ... View more

being alive. I am so lucky to be alive, considering how fast this privledge can be taken away.  ... View more

I adore this thread, what a beautiful idea    1. I am very organised and neat, which I love 2. I feel I am quite mature which helps me with life decisions  3. I am a very thoughtful and loyal person to all those that I care about   ... View more

Hi @Shambers good on you for jumping on here and getting some help    Now @ecla34 has already given you some awesome advice and support, especially the part about talking with the friend your moving in with about the planning process because I agree, it could be a great way to rekindle a bit and have something you can both be invested in together! However, I just wanted to add in that its perfectly normal to feel like this. Going from school to the "real world" is a HUGE adjustment.. and it's also very normal (although disappointing and sad) to drift from your friends when you are all going through different phases and parts of your life. Sometimes not being in contact doesn't always been you've lost them or they no longer want to be your friend.. sometimes people are just very busy and caught up in their lives and then when they get a chance to see friends again, it can often feel even better, you have lots to talk about and catch up on. I have good friends that I only see like once every 2 months..and I don't really text or call much in-between this time because I am so busy but it doesn't mean I don't love or care about them any less. As for moving out of home.. what a very exciting, nerve racking, stressful step in your life! I can totally understand why you must be struggling, especially with everything else going on for you at the moment! Change is scary, and I know it must feel all a bit much right now but moving out of home is an incredible experience, I have grown so much since I left home. The independency is awesome and it really is a chance for you to find out a bit more about yourself and how you fit into the world. However, also know that if things don't work out with this friends, it is okay to say no and back out of your decision, you have to happy and comfortable with who you are living with, and there will always be another opportunity    Sorry for the long reply... I hope you are feeling a bit better today. Do you have a self care routine to help you when you're stressed? We are here for you!  ... View more

New Caledonia!  ... View more

Thankyou so much for your reply @Jess1-RO, it made me cry ahah...    I hope that it is okay that even as a builder I made such a post, but I honestly just needed a place to write it all down.  Thank you for your words of wisdom, I am pretty good with keeping on top of my mental and physical health so hopefully I can keep it up during this time. I went for a big walk with my sister yesterday afternoon (who has been amazing!!) and my gorgeous best friend delivered flowers and chocolate to my door today so I have a great support system, lucky me.  ... View more

Thanks @xXLexi_Lou122Xx, & that still is long-term! I'm sorry to hear about your break-up also    ... View more

wow @queenP     that's incredible !!!!! go you!  ... View more

Hi @Aluzar, welcome to reach out!  Im very sorry to hear you're dealing with a lot right now and that you are feeling overwhelmed with feelings and worries. You've done the right thing by coming on here, I hope the opportunity to express your thoughts lightened the heavy load on your shoulders, even just a bit. I see you have written that your parents refusing to believe you are in pain has meant you are unable to talk with a professional other than your school counsellor. Have you ever tried online or phone counselling? This is the number to kids helpline: 1800 55 1800, it is free, private and confidential and you could access this service without your parents knowledge. This is also not the only one, I also know headspace has an online and phone anonymous help service as well. I'll also attach an article of ours that helps you with how to call a helpline if you're unsure or nervous; https://au.reachout.com/articles/how-to-call-a-helpline I'm sorry to read about your friends moving schools, and that your only friend may be moving away, that sure does make it tough when you are wanting to have someone to hang out with. Is there anyone in your classes that you think could be a potential new friend? Perhaps you could ask to sit with someone else's group for a lunch and see how it goes?  Break ups are very tough, and can often leave us feeling very lonely and confused. I'll also attach another reach out article on coping with a break up so that you can read that you are not alone with your feelings and there ARE tricks and tips on moving on and taking care of yourself. Do you have a self care routine at all?  https://au.reachout.com/articles/coping-with-a-breakup Hopefully this gives you some stuff to read and focus on, we do not want you to be suffering in silence any longer. We are here for you, and we will help you in any way that we can      ... View more

normal socks ! bath or shower? ... View more

Hi @xo_aki welcome!!!  Along with @Jess1-RO, your post also resonates with me. I am of very similar age to you, only a year older, I too am in a long term happy relationship and I too have lost contact with a lot of friends but still have a couple very good friends. I think as you get older it just does become harder to catch up with people, the busy side of our lives starts to take hold, but if they are real friends I am sure they will make an effort to keep in touch with you, and if they don't, maybe you don't want them around you anyway. It's so important to surround yourself with people who want to be there. I also love makeup however I definitely would not be as good as you, I learn everything off my best friend who does makeup as a secondary side job. (have you ever thought about making makeup your career? maybe you could hold makeup workshops for other young girls?) And I too also get the lonely feelings you describe, despite having a wonderful life. (I think we will make great friends haha). The only difference I think is that I am still studying at university and have not finished yet.  First of all I want to say that it is completely normal to have these feelings, and I know of many many people who have finished studying and still have not found a job in their field or are not sure what they want to pursue as a career. In fact I have people I know who haven't even started studying yet because they are still so unsure of what to do, so you're one step ahead already! I'm glad you spoke to your friend about how you're feeling, and that she understood your feelings must have been a huge relief! The fact you can recognise your feelings and be proactive about them (telling your friends, joining RO etc) shows you are very confident in yourself and that's something to be proud of. This confidence will help you get the job that you want once you find one to apply for and that is right for you. Perhaps you should go travelling??? Travelling changes many peoples lives, for the better, and can open all sorts of opportunities.  It's okay to feel not 'content' with your life the way you feel like you should, it doesn't mean you're not grateful for the things you have, it only makes you human. I too am sorry for the long reply, but I totally can relate to everything you were saying and I look forward to talking to you more & getting to know you better x  ... View more

@hellofriend thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings during this difficult time for you, I know it can be daunting sometimes writing it all down, but I hope it gave you some release! It's been just over a week since your post and I know you said you're slow with replies, which is totally normal and okay (so am I), but I just wanted and check in and make sure you're okay(?) and ask how things are going for you? Thinking of you, hope you're well   ... View more

@xXLexi_Lou122Xx yes I'm sorry that was totally my bad I read it all wrong oops!!! I'm very happy for you yay!! meeting new friends is the best    ... View more

I'm proud of myself for finishing all my uni work this week that I needed to do :) ... View more

Hi @SpencerH13,  I am very sorry to hear about your struggles with your girlfriend. I'm glad you feel comfortable to share with us your concerns and we are here to help you in any way that we can  I see that @Andrea-RO gave you some great advice and recommended Mesline. I am just checking in to see whether you ended up following up on this? But more importantly I am just checking in to see how you are? and how things are going? since it has been just over 2 weeks since your post. :) ... View more

Today I am grateful for my best friend. She really is such an amazing person to have my life and I count my lucky stars every day that I get to have her in my life.  ... View more

Black pen 100%  Going out for dinner or ordering take away and eating at home?  ... View more

peanut butter summer or winter? ... View more

@skyedre thank you soo much for your reply!! So honest and real, it's good to know how it actually is rather than people sugar coating it and then me getting a big shock when I start. Sounds like it was tough so a big congratulations to you on all your hard work  thanks again  ... View more

Hi @skyedre ! I see you have written that you completed your honours in psych last year.. can I ask how you found it? was it difficult? Did you find it similar to the other three years or is it completely different? how did you find the thesis'?? (you don't have to answer all or any of these questions if you don't want to i'm just very interested as I am begging honours next year and would love to hear your opinion, even though I know its different for everyone!!)  ... View more

5 things I can see -My tv -My indoor plants -The sky  -Picture frames -Trees 4 things I can feel -My bed sheets -The keyboard -My t-shirt on my body -My hair touching the back of my neck 3 things I can hear -My bedroom fan  -My tv -My typing  2 things I can smell -Fake tan -My Candle  1 good thing about myself I am very organised   ... View more

Hi everyone    Thankyou for the opportunity for us all to get to know each other a bit better! How did you first hear about ReachOut and when did you decide to get involved on the forums as a user? I first heard about ReachOut when a girl came into one of my lectures at uni to talk to us about what she did for volunteering and work experience between honours and masters. She said she had started volunteering for ReachOut and explained what you guys do and how flexible the time is etc and I thought wow that's something I would love to do! I decided to begin the process to become a builder over this past summer while I was on uni break because I had lots of spare time.  What's your favourite post thread? I think it would have to be "what are you proud of?"  Why did you decide to become a Builder? Because all I have ever wanted to do in life is help others, I am studying psychology and want to be a psychologist so I figured this would be a great place to start and gain some experience.  What do you do during the day (Study? Work? Hunt ghosts? Fight Crime? Taste cupcakes?) I am a full time uni student, and have a casual job at a cinema (best job ever!!) I also love to go to the gym, play tennis, eat lots of chocolate and spend time with my boyfriend, friends and family. Do you have any weird hobbies (Train a rubber duck army? Teach lizards Spanish? Learn how to the master the recorder?)? I honestly wish I did, but no I don't really have any hidden talents or hobbies.  What's you're all time favourite TV show? Wow I suck at choosing favourite things there's always so many but if I had to name a few it would be: -How I Met Your Mother -Gossip Girl -Vampire Diaries  -The Office (US) ... View more

Thankyou @Esperanza67 for making this thread, I absolutely love the idea, and thank you @Jess1-RO for tagging me so that I didn't miss it    I think my all-time favourite one is written below, I'm not sure if it counts as an affirmation because it's more of a quote but I read it all the time: "You have such a beautiful light to offer this world. Each and every day, the universe looks forward to when you awaken and are able to contribute all of your many gifts!"  - Nicole Addison  ... View more

Hi @linkinpark13, I'm sorry you have not been feeling yourself recently. Break-ups are hard and very emotional, however it sounds like you have been extremely mature in your decision to end things with your boyfriend. I understand that it may feel even worse given that you are still so in love with him and that the reasons behind your breakup is to look after your mental health and his. Below is a link from the ReachOut articles about some strategies to help you cope with break ups that I think could be helpful for you: https://au.reachout.com/articles/coping-with-a-breakup It's normal that this event has brought up old feelings and I think the fact that you have recognised they are back, and you are on this forum expressing your feelings is such a positive step in the right direction. I'm pleased to know you have a psych appointment tomorrow, I hope it allows you to express your thoughts in a safe place and you can gain some advice on the next steps. Good luck, and always remember we are here for you    ... View more

Today I practiced self care by coming to visit my mum and dad, I live out of home now and I miss them lots so seeing them makes me happy    ... View more

haha YES I am LOVING hearing everyones answers its so interesting and everyone has such cool and unique ideas  @DruidChild healing powers is such a great idea i've never even thought of that but that would be amazing, useful both for yourself and others !! @May_ & @DIVYA oh yes being able to fly would be soo good and much faster - I hate PTV and sitting in traffic and both of these would be eliminated if flight was an option ahah  @nyke what a unique super power!!! however such a GREAT one ! you'd never feel uncomfortable in the clothes you wore, if you had an outside event on you could make sure it was nice and warm etc omg i love that one ! @N1ghtW1ng Yep I'm totally with you - ability to control time would be my super power too! Would just be so convenient! ... View more

@Eden1717 I really hope that ReachOut is a forum you feel more comfortable to express your thoughts, no one here will bully you or make you feel bad for what you share with us. I want you to know we are all here to listen to you, without judgement, and help you in anyway that we can.  I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed and weird, maybe you could keep record of your thoughts and feelings (even screen shot this thread) in the next week and then you will be able to show your GP at your next appointment whats been going on for you, rather than have to explain it all at once, which could be too much.. You mentioned how much you want to go outside to experience and feel everything the outside world has to offer, do you do this? Do you go for walks or spend time outside? I find walking or even just sitting in the fresh air on some grass surrounded by nature does wonders for my mental health. Hope you are feeling better this morning, today is a new day  ... View more

donuts ! Movies or Tv series' ? ... View more

@letitgo ah yes invisibility was definitely in my top 5, however I had never looked at it from the perspective you mentioned, only ever as a way to spy on people which is actually really terrible now that I write it down ahah, I like your answer much more  ... View more