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25-02-2020
11:29 PM
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I love quotes so much, I frequently look at my saved quotes on Goodreads because it's amazing how clever some people can be with words. In high school I wrote all my favourite book quotes all over my backpack (I don't know where that one went to, though! ). Here's some of my favourite quotes: My favourite book <3 and my favourite quote Can you tell who my fav author is? Hahah I relate to Plath so much. This is how I feel all the time. I've always loved this quote since I was little, hahah
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25-02-2020
11:00 PM
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@Janine-RO What an awesome study! Good to know I can do a thesis on memes if I shall chose.
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24-02-2020
07:50 PM
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I'm on Google Chrome but it doesn't seem to be working either! Anyway, I'm very excited for this! It's very heart-wrenching seeing intolerance and discrimination within the LGBT+ community, we are in fact stronger together!
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17-02-2020
09:29 PM
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Do you have any advice to others who are going through friendship troubles? How can we handle friendship drama in a positive way? How can you help someone if you see / know they are struggling with issues within a friendship? I comment this on every single GR/ activity/ etc here about interpersonal relationships but, seriously... COMMUNICATION! People aren't mind readers and can't really know how you're feeling unless you have a clear, honest communication about it! And if they don't want to listen to things that are troubling you, maybe they aren't worth keeping as a friend, anyway.
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17-02-2020
09:24 PM
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All caught up! That was quick. 5. Following on from the last question, what are some signs that there is too much drama to keep the friendship alive? Have you ever had a friendship end because of drama? How did you cope with this? When all your conversations aren't enjoyable anymore, and all you ever talk about is other people/ each other than your hobbies, interests, etc! I'm pretty sure I have? Some of my friends in high school stopped talking to me sometimes because they felt me and my best friend were making up 'codenames' for everyone in our school when really we were talking about a story we were writing together. We tried to explain that wasn't the case but they wouldn't listen. We felt pretty excluded, but at least we had each other. It was a good thing in the end, though, because our hobbies and interests didn't really align, anyway.
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17-02-2020
09:16 PM
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Have you ever had drama in a friendship? If so, how did you deal with it? Was this productive? Do you wish you had done anything differently? High school, by nature, is a drama magnet. Like, put a group of people with varied interests in the same environment five days a week, for so long? So much drama, about everything. I don't even know where to start. I usually dealt with it, like I said before, by isolating myself. This only creates more drama! It probably would have helped to step up and speak to the person to gain a sense of closure. Some things that caused drama I still don't know what happened, because I'm still too scared to bring it up after so long! Ugh. That's not productive, both you and the person have no real idea of the affect it may have had on both parties, and how it could have been avoided.
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17-02-2020
09:10 PM
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Catch up time... 1. What types of things can cause drama within/between friendship groups? Like @ecla34 and @xXLexi_Lou122Xx said... literally everything. I've had big arguments about pencils, and one time when I was thirteen I was having a bad day and thought my friend was laughing at the book I was reading, which for some reason offended me? But really, she was laughing because the title was similar to an inside joke we had. Someone's mood on a given day can definitely cause them to tolerate less than what they normally could, which might start drama. Some other things that are common can include feeling excluded, dating, breaking boundaries, and gossip.
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17-02-2020
09:05 PM
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@xXLexi_Lou122Xx don't worry, I'm planning to spam in a minute too, to catch up!
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17-02-2020
09:04 PM
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Next question! 5. Following on from the last question, what are some signs that there is too much drama to keep the friendship alive? Have you ever had a friendship end because of drama? How did you cope with this? (yay, another Lion King 2 gif! )
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17-02-2020
08:54 PM
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When drama gets overwhelming how can we take a step back whilst maintaining a good friendship outside of what’s going on? I agree with everything you said @ecla34! "Man, inter-human communication and relationships are hard" so true, hahaha! Ugh, it's the worst when there's drama between two friends and you see both sides of the argument but don't want to be accused of 'picking sides!'. @WheresMySquishy I definitely agree with you, too! Groups can totally cause people to act differently to how they would act one-on-one, so that's a great point. Taking some time to detox social media is always my go-to in times of drama.
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17-02-2020
08:50 PM
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Hello everyone! Glad I remembered this was on just before I missed the whole discussion, hehe. I might have a go through all the other questions/pages and answer them, but for now I'll answer this... Have you ever been excluded or pushed aside in a friendship group or cohort? What did you do in this situation? Like... every single one. TBH I think there have been moments were it may be self-imposed, but I don't realize it... like I push myself away if that makes sense? But yeah, I've never really had a solid friend group that liked to include me. It was always because of clashing interests: in primary school it was because I wasn't interested in following around the boys, in high school it was because I didn't drink... they just stopped hanging out with me and inviting me to things. I don't really know what advice I can give as it does keep happening, but as with everything I guess it's important to know yourself and know what you're looking for in a friend. If they're purposefully excluding you, are they really worth keeping as a friend? Sometimes people aren't even aware of it, so an honest conversation, as hard as it may be, always helps.
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12-02-2020
02:04 PM
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Oooh, a very good topic! What do you think is a key difference between self-care and treating yo'self? I always like to refer to Maslow's pyramid when referring to self-care: Self-care is a pretty general term that pretty much means what it sounds like... taking care of yourself! It can be something as simple as drinking more water, or going to sleep at the same time every night. Treating yourself, like you said, can be a little extra. While it may not seem necessary for your health, I do see that it can fit into esteem needs and self-actualisation (maybe even belongingness needs, if you're having a good time with friends?). Making yourself feel good psychologically is never a bad thing! What is a favourite treat yo' self activity and what lead you to do it? Having a really long bath (with bubbles and bath bombs!) and reading in it. It's just a good thing to enjoy time to myself -- reading in the bath is the best because I (usually) have no distractions! It's a good way to relax and recharge.
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12-02-2020
11:02 AM
Hairclip > holds hair together > 'holding it together' > coping > coping strategies > RO (That took some thinking ) Turtles
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12-02-2020
10:37 AM
Thanks guys. I can't really talk to the career's advisor because it'd probably be useless. I live about two hours from campus (I commute). I've tried in the past to make an online appointment, but I got too anxious about being on the phone so I cancelled it. I don't feel like I can work at any capacity right now. As I'm taking every opportunity to get experience through MH volunteering, I think it's really frustrating for them to say that my degree will become useless. I'm at two organisations, and am looking at a placement somewhere. I was supposed to volunteer in data collection but the person never emailed me back, which makes me feel useless . I'd probably like to do admin, but I literally can't answer the phone/ make phone calls rn, so... Really, I'm not at all trying to get a job, jobsearch is just required for my payments. Since uni is part-time I can't be on youth allowance. I'm honestly sick that everything in life revolves around working. I want to do things I'm passionate about and not be stuck in a job I hate just because I have to. If I'm being honest, I volunteer because I love to do it and it's important to me, not because I think it will look good on my resume. Unfortunately, I just have to grow up because life doesn't work like that. I'm definitely going to ask my GP if he can write an exemption, or something. This money stress isn't the best for my health. But also, next time I see my GP I'm going to have to spend more money, as he said if my current meds aren't working we're going to have to find a psychiatrist (which, of course, costs money). Sorry for somewhat countering everyone's attempts to make me feel better, I just feel really low right now. But thanks for the parrot, hehehe.
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11-02-2020
05:43 PM
Thank you guys so much for your support! Sorry for not updating in a while... blegh, this is going to be another long one. Sorry in advance. @hellofriend - I've seen some mini clubs around that I've been interested in joining! Hopefully one day I'll be able to attend some meetings/ events. @MB95 - Hahaha, I feel like my different psychs through the years has given it all kinds of different names. At one point I even refereed to it as my childhood imaginary friend (or should I say imaginary enemy?) . But honestly I feel like I just started doing it myself, now that you mention it! I feel like every time a psych told me to do it I was just stubborn and thought... 'well, that's not going to work'. Every day my OCD is getting worse. I'm starting to do routines like clicking the light switches until it feels 'right', and ordering things again and again. I'm getting intrusive thoughts about doubting my sexuality, which upsets me the most. I've mentioned on here before, but OCD made me repress my sexuality my entire teenage years due to intrusive thoughts, and I really don't know how I can allow myself to go through all that again, especially when I've gotten so comfortable with myself (going to Pride, etc). I feel like I never should have changed my original meds. My depression was getting worse on them but those meds made my OCD stay quiet. I'm so frustrated at myself that I don't have any hobbies or do anything worthwhile. All through high-school I called myself a writer but I don't write. I'm too scared too, too afraid of failure, too unmotivated... people keep saying to me that writing in my head 'counts' as writing but, honestly, it doesn't. I keep thinking of this Sylvia Plath quote: it's exactly how I feel. I feel like I'm missing out on so much just by being myself. I want to have fun and go to fun places with friends, and travel. I want to write poetry and stories and not worry so much. I want to create things. I wish I was able to draw/ make art, and I wish I could play an instrument. But I feel like I'll never be able to. How on Earth do I escape this feeling? I feel like the past two years were a blur, and nothing really good happened. It's probably not a good idea to attribute it to anything, but I really did start going downhill after I met my ex. She completely damaged my self-esteem. I was meant to graduate two years ago, but I didn't. I know it's annoying that I keep going on about this but it's frustrating watching everyone else live their lives while I'm just completely stuck. I feel like I'm existing, not really living.
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11-02-2020
04:16 PM
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@Janine-RO - don't worry, we can reintroduce ourselves each month, haha! It's one of my fav threads and I look forward to it every month. I have The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat on my to-read list! I'm so keen to read, the brain is so fascinating. I also just googled Secret Hitler (weird name, haha) and it reminds me of the game Werewolf! I used to play it a lot during recess in high school, and I sometimes play it online. So fun, I love games where you have to be sneaky and figure things out, haha.
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11-02-2020
02:49 PM
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Hi guys, I was going to do an update in my other thread, but I have so much overwhelming me at the moment that it'd probably be too long. Someone suggested I post this current situation here, as a few people might be able to relate! I'm just honestly so sick of Centrelink + having to go through jobsearch. I wouldn't need to be on jobsearch usually (as I'm in no way interested or capable in working right now) but I need to as I'm part-time in uni. Every single appointment is exactly the same. They book a half-an-hour timeslot for me but it just takes one minute: "So, remind me again why you're not working for the dole?" "Because I'm at uni, and that's not required." "If you're at uni, then why are you here? Are you looking for part-time work?" "I'm here because I now have to do uni part time. I am struggling with my mental health." "Ah, everyone struggles sometimes! We just learn to deal with it! Get yourself a job, something like working in fast-food, you'll be better in no time and in the end you'll be wondering what you were worried about. Also, you're going to need experience or else your degree will become useless'. It's so disheartening! For starters... no experience?! I see what they mean, but I plan on actually studying further into psych (Masters/ PhD) so I doubt I'll need the fast food experience they're suggesting... plus I'm volunteering most of my time so it's not like I'm not doing anything! Do they not believe I'll get into further education? One person told me 'I was going to do Masters! It's really hard, not many people get through'. Um... thanks? I'm completely sick of them dismissing my mental health, too. Like, if I was dealing with 'what everyone else struggles with' I wouldn't have had to drop from full-time uni, would I? I hate that I have to do part-time, but it was for the benefit of my health and everyone makes it sound like I just did it because I'm lazy! At the moment I'm thinking about making an appointment with my GP and seeing what he thinks... I'm pretty sure there's a forum where you can be exempt from jobsearch due to medical conditions, but I'm not sure how this works as clearly no one I've talked to thinks mental illness is a medical condition! (sarcasm smiley, ahah). I'm so stressed out about money in general right now. I feel like I'm in a constant cycle of... no money = need a job, can't get a job because poor mental health, poor mental health because I have no money and can't afford the treatment I need. Ugh, it's affecting so much. I feel like such a bad person; someone I know with shared they were going to private inpatient treatment, and my first thought was 'wow, I wish I could be able to afford that'. It's disgusting! It's affecting so much more than mental health... I've had problems with my wisdom teeth for about three years but I absolutely can't afford to see a dentist right now . Also, this is far more superficial, but I'm sick of not being able to buy clothes because I feel like everything good quality is too expensive. I love to buy second-hand but searching through everything takes so much out of me lol. I feel so pathetic. It's not like I'm totally poor or anything (my family always says never let the bank account drop below a comfortable amount in case of a total emergency), but a majority of my centrelink payments I share with my Mum so she can support the household (my Mum works but the last two months have been particularly hard since her boss went away on holidays, leaving her on unpaid leave. Centrelink screwed her over when she tried to apply for support ). I feel like the least I can do is just get over myself and contribute something. My brother doesn't work either but at least he makes money selling things online. At the same time, though, it's so unfair and inhumane that some people only want you to heal because they require you to be useful to society. I've looked into myself and I feel like no one can ever get better because they're being forced to (e.g. feeling they need to be able to improve to work, thus contribute to society). All this does is help lower self-esteem which makes someone's mental health worse! I need to be able to get better for myself, because this is my life, after all. The problem is that I've been feeling so stuck that I don't know how.
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10-02-2020
11:02 PM
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@Bananatime04 I just wanted to say I love your support here, and your clear explanations! I used to be really good at math, but I haven't touched it since high school (well, except for stats!) and when I looked at @xXLexi_Lou122Xx's homework I was like... 'what is this? ', haha. But your explanations are so easy to follow! Makes me kind of miss the challenge of high school math!
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10-02-2020
01:21 PM
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Hehe, I always plan on answering them after a couple of people have answered already. Did you do anything fun these Summer holidays? Not really? I went to Sydney with my Mum + Nan for a few days, and we did some fun things, but most of it was just a big blur! Has any book/ movie really impacted your life? What is it? Hunger Games is the book that got me into reading/literature, and I went to see the movies on midnight launch every year with my friend. Romeo and Juliet was the first Shakespeare book I ever read, and got me into loving his works. I read the Bell Jar at a very pivotal moment in my life, if that counts. I also guess every book I've read in school and had to do an assignment on, as they've impacted my grade. How do you feel about Valentine's Day? A day of romance, or an excuse for shops to sell teddy bears? Well... It can be cute (says the repressed hopeless romantic in me), but I feel like if you love your partner, you should celebrate it everyday and not just go out for dinner on the day where everything is overpriced anyway . Yeah, Valentine's day episodes of TV shows can be annoying, especially when forcing couples together. Do you have a favourite board/card game? I often waste hours playing online solitaire when I'm really bored. I also like cheat, and I guess any card games that aren't like... poker. I collect playing cards, if that counts . I also like Uno! Board games are really fun, but I haven't played any in a while. I wish I had a group to play with! If you won a million dollars, what’s the first thing you would do with the money? Probably save most. I might give some to family, use it to travel, and go on a shopping spree for some new clothes (that feel when you can't afford your aesthetic... ). Most importantly: do you remember the secret 'r' in February? Hahahah, I'm an awful speller tbh. I didn't really until I stole this question.
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05-02-2020
11:27 AM
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Yay, some wonderful discussion here! I forgot this was on , so thanks for the tag @Bee! What things do you commit your time to? e.g. school work, family, hobbies. Do you find it easy or hard to manage your schedule? Let's see... -Uni, when it's on. Uni classes are a 2 hr commute when it's on so it takes up the whole day. Plus study + assignments... -Fitness -- pole fitness + aerial hammock classes twice a week + extra if I feel like it. I've been trying to do at least 25 mins of yoga every day. I also like to go on walks when possible. -Volunteering -- the year hasn't really started yet so it's a bit quiet atm. -Being on RO! -Reading/ watching movies. -Playing video games. -Playing with my cat so he doesn't get bored later and destroy all my furniture. I do find it hard to manage a schedule. I truly don't know how I'm going to feel on any certain day, and sometimes I just don't have the energy to do much more than sit and watch Youtube all day. I know I should be doing a lot more, and that frightens me. I should be dedicating some time every day to work on my driving, and I should make some time to meet new people, getting out and make friends. I'm really hard on myself for it. How do you know when your life is out of balance? What do you notice about yourself and your headspace? I don't know if it's ever been in balance . Like I said, I'm really hard on myself sometimes -- it's not really my fault that I'm lacking energy and need some time for self-care. I do really doubt myself sometimes. I relate to everything @Tay100 and @Beesaid! I definitely start to doubt my abilities and get envious of what other people have or do, and my headspace becomes like a rollercoaster. I mostly get frustrated with everything, mainly myself, and I snap at people easily. Blegh, it's an annoying feeling.
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05-02-2020
11:07 AM
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Hi guys! Wow, I can't believe January is already over... it all went so quick, and now it's already time for yet another introduce yourself thread! This one is kinda special for me, as I remember the 2020 Feb introduce yourself thread is probably one of the first threads I ever commented in! Here's the questions (mostly random!): Did you do anything fun these Summer holidays? Has any book/ movie really impacted your life? What is it? How do you feel about Valentine's Day? A day of romance, or an excuse for shops to sell teddy bears? Do you have a favorite board/ card game? If you won a million dollars, what’s the first thing you would do with the money? Most importantly: do you remember the secret 'r' in February? (Stole this question from @N1ghtW1ng's 2018 Feb thread, it was so brilliant! )
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