I'm sorry you feel like nobody cares. From what you've described about your family, it at least sounds like they care. It's just hard you know - they might feel a little helpless about the situation too. It would be hard to watch your child in pain and be unable to do anything.   In terms of the pain - sorry if asking what it's caused by is triggering for you. I think you have the right approach re. not thinking about it. Sometimes not focusing on it can help. I don't know that I can really much that will make you feel better, except tell you that I have had my own physical health problems (or still do), and I understand how shitty being in pain can be. I hope you feel better soon @Tiny_leaf  ... View more

Hey @Phantom99 - I don't think we've spoken before so nice to e-meet you. Welcome to the forums. A lot of what you said really resonated with me in terms of the financial anxiety/guilt. Although my situation is a little different from yours, as my parents have lived in Australia for some time now and are okay financially, I still find myself worrying about money - not just for myself but also for others. I think it is part of my anxious nature - gotta love anxiety!!    Anyway, I just wanted to point out that I think it's really great that you've managed to pay off that loan you had. You sound incredibly sensible with money, and for that reason, I can't imagine you having too much of an issue in the future around not having money. I don't know about you, but I find having an "emergency fund" really helps put me at ease.   An emergency fund is "is money you set aside to cover urgent or unexpected costs. This could be car repairs, unexpected travel or an urgent medical bill. It provides a financial safety net so you don't have to borrow money if something happens to you or your family." Generally speaking, "a good target is to have enough in your emergency fund to cover three months of expenses." I've taken this info from the moneysmart.gov website, because I couldn't have worded it better, but if you want to read more about it you can click here.   So, let's say your expenses (rent, bills, food, petrol etc.) are around $5,000 a month (total guess by the way), then your emergency fund should be around $15,000, but it can be bigger (or smaller until you work up to it) if you like. Knowing that money is there in case of an emergency might put your mind at ease a little, and help you feel less guilty for spending money on yourself.   Once that is set up, then you can split your income into different savings accounts (just be cautious about opening up too many accounts because the bank might charge you for them). I don't personally do this because I still live at home, but I have friends who do it, I've seen it a lot in financial books, and I plan to do it once I move out. So how it works is that you set up your pay to be automatically distributed into, say, 3 different accounts - one for bills/everyday living, one for long-term saving/emergency fund, and one for spending or treating yourself (e.g., holiday). That way, when you spend money, you won't feel guilty because it's literally from the "spending" account and you have "earned it".   These are just some ideas and you have to do what is right for you obviously. All in all, you sound really sensible with money, so I don't think you should beat yourself up over spending $100. It is okay to do nice things for yourself sometimes. And it's okay if you don't always stick to your budget - it can happen - life happens! The fact that you are thinking about money in a smart way, and have good money-related habits in place (e.g., not eating out), is really good, as it's those types of things that will probably make the biggest impact on your savings. ... View more

Aw @Tiny_leaf  - what makes you think that nobody cares? Is the pain from FND? ... View more

Aw @dragon3  - I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with your body image. You aren't alone. This is a very common issue unfortunately - myself included. Similarly to @letsheal - I also feel much better about myself when I'm active. It's weird, like, I don't think the actual activity changes the way my body looks much, but I just feel better.   I'd encourage you to go to the formal and wear something you like if you can. It's just that, I don't think that hiding away will help the issue, and generally speaking, avoidance tends to make these types of thoughts worse. It might be worth seeing a psychologist to help you with some of these thoughts while exposing yourself to these types of environments - would you be open to this?   What are some things that you could do that will make you feel better about yourself? You mention wanting to exercise but lacking motivation. It might be a good idea to start small - like starting with a 5 minute walk each day, then increasing to 10 minutes a day the next week, and then 15 minutes the next - or whatever amount of time suits you. Exercise is good for the mind and body. You can even chuck on a playlist or podcast to make the walk more enjoyable for you. Or do it with a friend or family member so that it's more of a social activity.    Also letting you know that I have moved your thread into the "tough times" section of the forum as it is better suited to here than the "hangout" section. I hope that's okay with you. ... View more

Hi @TriciaRay, I know what you mean - it's really hard! I noticed you're from overseas, which we've sent you an email about. Unfortunately we have to deactivate your account soon, but do you think you might be able to get some support for this in your country? Going through something like this isn't easy and you deserve the right support. In the email we sent you, we provided a list of countries and some of their services. I encourage you to look through this list and see if any of the services in your country are suitable to you. Please take care ... View more

aw @Tiny_leaf, it sounds like you had a bad night last night. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, sometimes things are just hard. How are you this morning? ... View more

Hey @depressiongirl    It sounds like you've had trouble with your eating for quite some time now, and I'm glad that you're reaching out for help. You aren't alone - many people experience similar issues.   You mentioned that you've seen many professionals before but have had no luck, and that they assume you're faking. I'm quite surprised by this. What sort of professionals have you seen in the past?   Also, just letting you know that I moved your thread out of the "everyday life" section and into the "tough times" section because it is better suited to this area of the forum. Also, I had to edit out some of your post (details about weight and eating patterns) because it goes against our guidelines around eating which are outlined here. I also added a trigger warning in the title of your thread as this is quite a sensitive topic for many people on our forum. I hope you don't mind. Feel free to have a read of the guidelines when you get a chance . ... View more

aw @HelloHi - it sounds like you're experiencing some pretty heavy thoughts there ...I'm really glad that you've shared it with us. Expressing how you feel can be quite cathartic. Plus, as @Tiny_leaf mentioned, we're always here to listen.   How do you feel after writing some of that down?   It sounds like you're thinking some pretty difficult thoughts - I imagine it must be hard to think things such as "I'm ugly, I hate myself, I'm unattractive, I'm a burden, I'm weak, my grandma doesn't want to talk to me, my parents avoid me, I don't have a good relationship with anyone."   You mention that you may be overreacting, but from what you've described, what you're going through at the moment sounds tough and deserves attention. I'm glad you've reached out to us. I'm curious to know about your professional support network - whether you have one at all or whether you'd be open to getting professional support.    Also, I noticed that you mentioned only negative things about yourself. Can you tell me some positives, or some things that you like about yourself? ... View more

Hey @Bookworm2004    That sounds really tough - I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing that. It's interesting how you've said the tics became worse with medication. This might be worth bringing up with your GP/psychiatrist as they may have a solution for you. In my very limited knowledge about tics, I know that they can be treated with psychotherapy. Two therapies that I know of are habit reversal (competing response training) and exposure and response prevention. It might be worth seeing a psychologist in your area who can treat both the anxiety/tics. What do you think?   ... View more

Reading through this thread is seriously making me hungry ...   ... View more

@Saltwaterdreamtime Oh wow, so did they give you a few free sessions? Even though your sessions had run out?   By the way, how's your partner and your/her little one going? ... View more

That sounds really scary @Eden1717  It must be so hard having them make difficult requests all the time. ... View more

Wow, some amazing insights/advice there @Watermelon6. You've made some really great points...actually I agree with everything you said and couldn't have said it better.   I noticed that you are both new users, so welcome to the forum both of you! And thanks for being so open about whats going on for you, or what has gone on for you.   @Shazzy-you're going through a hard situation. Addictions are tricky, especially when you love someone. It's sort of hard to know whether you're wasting your time because everybody's trajectory is different. I've never had a partner with an addiction. However, an uncle of mine is an alcoholic, he has been for years, to the point where his liver is pretty much gone, and even though he knows drinking will only bring him closer to death, he still does it. If he stopped himself from drinking and took care of himself he could've lived a fair few more years...maybe even 5?10? But even that wasn't enough motivation to stop him from drinking...but I guess at that point, maybe it isn't even about motivation???!? I think the addiction is probably too ingrained. On the other hand, you hear of certain people recovering. So...I don't know.   I also think @Watermelon6's suggestion of considering your goals, and whether both of your goals align, is a great way to view the situation.   I thought I'd share some articles that may be of use to you: supporting someone with an addiction and what addiction is.  ... View more

Hey @Bananatime04 - I wasn't too sure how to take your post this morning. Are you okay? ... View more

Also, how did that surprise thing go for your mum? ... View more

Haha @Tiny_leaf - your post about your dad's work made me laugh...savage! As long as he enjoys it I guess!? Or if it brings home the $$.   Did you end up getting something to eat with your dad last night?   It sounds like you two have a nice relationship. ... View more

Aw, that really sucks and is really hard when we want/need specific services but can't afford them @Saltwaterdreamtime - is it because you've used all of your 10 sessions for the year (or is it some other service)? ... View more

Hey @SomeoneNADJS /Dm,   You made some good points in your last post - both KHL and us are here if you need support   How are you feeling today?   Also, congrats on submitting the assignment! ... View more

Hey @MB95    Aw I'm so sorry to hear that you had a bad and triggering day yesterday. It's okay, I've also cried before in public spaces - once at uni in a lecture when a sad video was put on the screen. It sounds like you managed to hide it pretty well and it went unnoticed. But still, it seems like it triggered you quite a lot and upset you right into the night . I hope you're feeling a little better this morning.   In terms of placement ending - I think it is pretty normal to be upset if something you've enjoyed is ending. It'd be upset too. I just wanted to point out that I think it's really positive that you became comfortable at the workplace, enjoyed yourself, and seemed to have formed good bonds with your coworkers. It's also awesome that you enjoyed the work so much - means you're doing the right course! I think asking if they have work is not a bad idea - do you think you might do this? Even if they don't have any positions now, you could say something like "well I really enjoyed working here, please keep me in mind if any opportunities arise."   Also, just FYI, I noticed you wrote on your other thread but decided I'd reply here because you've explained why you're upset in this thread. ... View more

 Hey @Justinrod333 - aw, things like this are so hard to deal with aren't they . Unfortunately, it one of those things we all have to deal with. It sounds like you handled it very maturely, which is great!   @Jane_Rose  shared some really great points, and I encourage you to give the article a read.   I'm also glad to hear that you've spoken to your parents about what's happening. Having their support would be of benefit. They're telling you to move on from her - what do you think about that?   I also noticed that you're from overseas. This is Australian-based service as mentioned in our Community Guidelines, so at some point I'm going to have to deactivate your account. I thought I'd leave it active for the next 24 hours so that you can receive some community support.  Once your account is deactivated, you will still be able to access to our forum as a guest, as well as articles on our website - but remember that the linked services might not be accessible to you in your country. I've linked you a list services that we have created for international users like yourself  here . ... View more

ahhh that sounds really hard @Eden1717    You mentioned that they want you to do something - can I just ask, they're not wanting you to do anything unsafe are they? ... View more

Hello @Starfish7 and @StormySeas17 - sorry to butt in. I just thought I'd say that this is anonymous forum and unfortunately personal details cannot be shared. However, you are more than welcome to continue chatting about this topic on this thread . I'm also studying psychology so I could offer you some insights at some point! ... View more

That's hard @Saltwaterdreamtime    I know what you mean - it's not really the same over the phone is it? Especially if you have a busy household. Do you think it might be possible to go for a walk to the local park next time so that you can have more privacy (provided it's not an overcrowded park)?....or perhaps driving somewhere and parking and speaking in the car? ... View more

Ahhh that sounds so stressful @Eden1717    You mention being physically incapable of fixing things for at the moment. Could you tell me a little bit more about what you mean when you say that? ... View more

Bahaha @StormySeas17 that's hilarious. I had something similar happen to me with my old cat, Puss. I went to have a slice of cheesecake, and I put it down on the table while I went somewhere for a second. I came back and it was ALL eaten by her. I was shocked. And...while we're on this topic...fun fact - cats can't actually taste sugar....so like what the?? Haha. ... View more

Hey @SomeoneNADJS    ahhh that sounds really tough .   From what I've heard, the event itself doesn't really matter when it comes to a trauma response. It's more about how the experience shakes that persons view of the world.   You mention doubting that you have DID/ODD. I wonder if it is common for systems to feel this way. Do you know if they do? It all sounds really confusing.   You mentioned feeling suicidal. Do you think that you are going to be okay for today? I hope your session with the school counsellor goes well - it's very brave of you to open up about your plurality to them.   ... View more

Aw @Bananatime04 - I hope things work out with the counsellor.   @Tiny_leafI am very jealous of your kittens! ... View more

Hey @Eden1717  That sounds absolutely terrifying!!!!! I'm sorry you had to experience that. How are you feeling about it all now? ... View more

FLYING!   Amazing drawing - I love the sketchy-type look. And the choice of colour is really nice. I love green.   I have to log off now, so whoever wants to take my turn can ... View more

Welcome to the community @FluffyDog    A morning walk sounds fabulous!   Feel free to get familiar with our forums from visiting the "about the forum" section here.   This thread in particular is probably a good place to start. ... View more